A Particular Friendship
Viewing comments for Chapter 45 "8 Stages to Recovery"We meet Lizzy who has just come out of the convent
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Comment from LateBloomer
Hi Liz, Wow! What a heartache for everyone involved. Your brother's diagnosis is complex, and yet, when you illustrate the following, it becomes crystal clear as to how complex. Of note:
He puzzles over how to attempt to take a shower. This is such a simple activity for us. "Should I bring my clothes with me or leave them in my room?"
(The above shines a light into the heart of the matter.)
Liz, as I read your story, I could feel the love that you have for your brother, and I can also feel your heart, mind, and body racing to ask/answer the question of ... what's next. I could understand how difficult and painful this story was to write. I'm sure that you left your tear upon the page. Love hurts. Well done, well told. Xo. Margaret
reply by the author on 12-Jun-2024
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Hi Liz, Wow! What a heartache for everyone involved. Your brother's diagnosis is complex, and yet, when you illustrate the following, it becomes crystal clear as to how complex. Of note:
He puzzles over how to attempt to take a shower. This is such a simple activity for us. "Should I bring my clothes with me or leave them in my room?"
(The above shines a light into the heart of the matter.)
Liz, as I read your story, I could feel the love that you have for your brother, and I can also feel your heart, mind, and body racing to ask/answer the question of ... what's next. I could understand how difficult and painful this story was to write. I'm sure that you left your tear upon the page. Love hurts. Well done, well told. Xo. Margaret
Comment Written 11-Jun-2024
reply by the author on 12-Jun-2024
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Thank you for your very compassionate review I appreciate it. I'm hoping to write my next book about my brother He had a wonderful life up until he was 40 and got hit by the car. I tell him on the other hand I was really only happy at 70 when I got let go from work. That was the end of the bullying for me. I can't imagine what my next life time is going to be like. lol
Comment from Brett Matthew West
Don't you think it is weird in a situation like this everyone tries to claim their relationship with the victim is the most "significant"? The victim sure does not need to hear conversations such as that one when they are trying to recover.
Going through this kind of trauma, "One grieving opens up another" occurs frequently.
Being asked "how he was" day after day probably one of the toughest questions to answer in such a situation even though you know the questioner means well and probably does not know anything else to talk about.
reply by the author on 11-Jun-2024
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Don't you think it is weird in a situation like this everyone tries to claim their relationship with the victim is the most "significant"? The victim sure does not need to hear conversations such as that one when they are trying to recover.
Going through this kind of trauma, "One grieving opens up another" occurs frequently.
Being asked "how he was" day after day probably one of the toughest questions to answer in such a situation even though you know the questioner means well and probably does not know anything else to talk about.
Comment Written 11-Jun-2024
reply by the author on 11-Jun-2024
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Thank you for your compassionate review. You're right a lot of times I think people are uncomfortable around someone that's going through something like I did and then they didn't really know what to do except ask how he was. That's a good point you make.
Comment from Erika Whittle
This is so sad and I'm sorry this happened to your family. However it was a very interesting read. It's crazy how delicate and intricate the human brain is.
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2024
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This is so sad and I'm sorry this happened to your family. However it was a very interesting read. It's crazy how delicate and intricate the human brain is.
Comment Written 09-Jun-2024
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2024
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Thank you for your compassionate review if you have not read any other of my posts you are welcome to go to my portfolio and read anything. And you do not have to leave a review just enjoy it It's a lot easier if you can just read.
Comment from davisr (Rhonda)
Hi Liz,
I haven't read any of the preceding chapters, but this one seemed to stand alone to the point I followed it well. A few years ago, I had a farm injury that was deemed a TBI or Traumatic Brain Injury. Mine wasn't as pronounced as your brothers, but I have found I went through a few of those stages to an extent. The funny thing is, I still have sequencing issues. I never really attributed it to the accident. People accuse me of announcing everything I do ahead of time. I'll sort of run through my steps to people, and it's really hard if someone interrupts the sequence as I'm going through it. Again, not as severe as your brother's, but reading this really has helped me to understand that part of my life. Mayne that's why I happened upon this chapter. For one individual, I thank you for sharing,
Rhonda
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2024
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Hi Liz,
I haven't read any of the preceding chapters, but this one seemed to stand alone to the point I followed it well. A few years ago, I had a farm injury that was deemed a TBI or Traumatic Brain Injury. Mine wasn't as pronounced as your brothers, but I have found I went through a few of those stages to an extent. The funny thing is, I still have sequencing issues. I never really attributed it to the accident. People accuse me of announcing everything I do ahead of time. I'll sort of run through my steps to people, and it's really hard if someone interrupts the sequence as I'm going through it. Again, not as severe as your brother's, but reading this really has helped me to understand that part of my life. Mayne that's why I happened upon this chapter. For one individual, I thank you for sharing,
Rhonda
Comment Written 08-Jun-2024
reply by the author on 09-Jun-2024
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Thank you for your complementary review. you are welcome to go to my portfolio and read anything. And you do not have to leave a review just enjoy it It's a lot easier if you can just read.
I'm so glad you got some self insight. If you have any other musings, do hesitate to contact me.
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I actually shared your post with my sister today. She went through my recovery with me. After 6 years, I still have audio delay, and I suppose, the sequencing thing. I also told my husband, who is a pretty stoic guy and puts up with a lot of my idiosyncrasies. I pointed out how I always have to broadcast what I?m doing. He told me he just figured I overthink everything. Good point, hehe. Thanks so much for the insight. It really did help.
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Once again if there's anything more you wonder about I might I probably would know it so i've been at this since he was 40 and we're now I'm 77 & he's 76 so it's been a few years I've had chance to study it.
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Oh wow, yeah, I?ll keep that in mind. You?re such a good big sister!
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I'm here. My next book I'm writing is going to be about my brother I think I'll start with it as in his accident but then branch out into all the life he had a wonderful life up until he was 40. He wasn't bullied. He didn't have any real trouble. He has always been very intelligent. He didn't struggle with anything. In contrast I tell him I had a fairly horrible life up until I was 70 and retired from work. I now just have a lot of friends, live in the woods. I don't have anybody bullying me. I don't have anyone setting me up or making trouble for me or anything I have a wonderful life and I'm writing writing writing.
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Wow, thank you for your response. I would love to get in on the start of one of your books! Message me when you do, please!
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Definitely
Comment from Pamusart
Hi, Liz
I'm sorry for the pain you have gone through and are still going through. But you are a loyal friend and that is to be commended. That kind of behavior is sanctioned in the Bible.
"eautiful blue eyes was replaced by an expression of startle and he seemed to be looking off in the far distant."
I think it should be distance
It amazes me how you can put together something like this many many many words and make so few mistakes. I would be making mistakes all over the place. That's why I write poetry. Some things that are considered mistakes in prose are not considered mistakes in poetry.
I was impressed how well you used little words so the whole sentence(s) were buttery off the tongue.
Good job. Thank you for sharing.
reply by the author on 05-Jun-2024
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Hi, Liz
I'm sorry for the pain you have gone through and are still going through. But you are a loyal friend and that is to be commended. That kind of behavior is sanctioned in the Bible.
"eautiful blue eyes was replaced by an expression of startle and he seemed to be looking off in the far distant."
I think it should be distance
It amazes me how you can put together something like this many many many words and make so few mistakes. I would be making mistakes all over the place. That's why I write poetry. Some things that are considered mistakes in prose are not considered mistakes in poetry.
I was impressed how well you used little words so the whole sentence(s) were buttery off the tongue.
Good job. Thank you for sharing.
Comment Written 04-Jun-2024
reply by the author on 05-Jun-2024
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Wow I'm very touched by what you've written in this review. Thank you. I use Grammarly. that pretty well does it for you. It tells you where your mistakes are and it even gives us some choices tell us you up here left out of word or left out a letter it's great it's kind of spoiled me cuz now I hardly know how to spell. Then there is another link someone gave me which has been invaluable and that is how to use quotation marks in dialogue so if you want any that stuff I've got it. People write their pros poetically That's sort of what I do I mean you can have wonderful description of something and it's almost as if you're writing poetry It's so beautiful or it's so graphic.
Comment from Esther Brown
I am so sorry for your pain and that of the family. Definitely a sad chapter. One tiny fix: wth needs an i before sequencing. No matter how long ago the struggle to adapt continues. I have a schizophrenic son and the loss of the person he was makes it difficult to accept who he is now. You are a good sister. Crying with and for you. Esther
reply by the author on 05-Jun-2024
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I am so sorry for your pain and that of the family. Definitely a sad chapter. One tiny fix: wth needs an i before sequencing. No matter how long ago the struggle to adapt continues. I have a schizophrenic son and the loss of the person he was makes it difficult to accept who he is now. You are a good sister. Crying with and for you. Esther
Comment Written 04-Jun-2024
reply by the author on 05-Jun-2024
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Thank you for your compassionate review and thank you for being vulnerable I feel bonded with you.
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Me too. Sisters from another mother.
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*** a very warm smile***
Comment from BethShelby
This is sad for everyone. A brain injury that causes you to lose so much of yourself is really tragic. It is good that he was able to get back some of what he had lost but it would be afterr to regress. I 'm glad he had people who loved him through it all.
reply by the author on 04-Jun-2024
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This is sad for everyone. A brain injury that causes you to lose so much of yourself is really tragic. It is good that he was able to get back some of what he had lost but it would be afterr to regress. I 'm glad he had people who loved him through it all.
Comment Written 04-Jun-2024
reply by the author on 04-Jun-2024
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Thank you for your compassionate review he has his good days and bad days I guess like the rest of us.
Comment from jim vecchio
I still cry at times, and it's nothing to be ashamed about. It shows you have a tender and pliable heart.
This was so good. I'm so sorry I only have five stars. it must have been terribly difficult for you to write. I pry God will comfort and bless you.
reply by the author on 31-May-2024
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I still cry at times, and it's nothing to be ashamed about. It shows you have a tender and pliable heart.
This was so good. I'm so sorry I only have five stars. it must have been terribly difficult for you to write. I pry God will comfort and bless you.
Comment Written 31-May-2024
reply by the author on 31-May-2024
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Thank you Jim for your compassionate review. Yes it was very difficult. I found myself kind of just stopping to do the you know how we do this silent sob.
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You are to be commended for your honest writing.
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Thank you for your compassionate review. It was very very difficult to write I had to stop and solve for a little bit.
Comment from patcelaw
This is very well written and I enjoyed listening to it very much. I wish you the very best with all of your writing. I also wish you a wonderful weekend and may God bless you as you continue to write. Patricia .
reply by the author on 31-May-2024
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This is very well written and I enjoyed listening to it very much. I wish you the very best with all of your writing. I also wish you a wonderful weekend and may God bless you as you continue to write. Patricia .
Comment Written 31-May-2024
reply by the author on 31-May-2024
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Thank you for your extremely supportive review I'm glad you're enjoying my story. We're almost done.
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Liz, I would ask for you prayers for me. I am struggling a bit emotionally right now and I need the prayers.
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I am a healing dowser. I will send healing to you on all levels, emotionally, physically, psychologically and spiritually if you will receive it. Thank you for asking.
Comment from lyenochka
Oh, Liz. This has to be the hardest chapter for you to have written. I'm sorry that his wife is not with him now and his girlfriend may leave him to join her family. I appreciate you sharing about the stages of recovery from a TBI but my favorite part was the assessment on who had to closest relationship. You all love him.
It's shocking how one sudden event can change life forever!
reply by the author on 31-May-2024
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Oh, Liz. This has to be the hardest chapter for you to have written. I'm sorry that his wife is not with him now and his girlfriend may leave him to join her family. I appreciate you sharing about the stages of recovery from a TBI but my favorite part was the assessment on who had to closest relationship. You all love him.
It's shocking how one sudden event can change life forever!
Comment Written 31-May-2024
reply by the author on 31-May-2024
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Thank you for your supportive, caring review. I can feel the love,Helen, it's very healing.
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