And the List Goes On
Love and Learn!31 total reviews
Comment from Father Flaps
Hi Liz,
Well, if I remember correctly, you wrote various times about a Chuck. Is this the same Chuck, man-story #3? Did you marry him? I thought you were just good friends.
You know, my dear, you're never going to find Mr. Perfect. He doesn't exist. I might also add, Mrs. Perfect doesn't exist either. (Nothing personal, mind you!) We all have our faults. Your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to find a man with the least faults. He does exist. Hey, he's writing this! Alas, I'm married... since 1975. My wife is too old to hunt down another man, so she's stuck with me.
But I wish you all the luck in the world.
By the way, you have two sons and a daughter... who is their father? Doug? or Michael?
Hugs,
Kimbob
reply by the author on 22-Jan-2023
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Hi Liz,
Well, if I remember correctly, you wrote various times about a Chuck. Is this the same Chuck, man-story #3? Did you marry him? I thought you were just good friends.
You know, my dear, you're never going to find Mr. Perfect. He doesn't exist. I might also add, Mrs. Perfect doesn't exist either. (Nothing personal, mind you!) We all have our faults. Your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to find a man with the least faults. He does exist. Hey, he's writing this! Alas, I'm married... since 1975. My wife is too old to hunt down another man, so she's stuck with me.
But I wish you all the luck in the world.
By the way, you have two sons and a daughter... who is their father? Doug? or Michael?
Hugs,
Kimbob
Comment Written 21-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 22-Jan-2023
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Doug, #1, is the father of all three of my kids. Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
Comment from JT traveller
All out of luck. What a well written piece of prose. A thoroughly enjoyable read. Your vivid descriptions of the three men and your use of aliteration bring this work to life.
reply by the author on 20-Jan-2023
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All out of luck. What a well written piece of prose. A thoroughly enjoyable read. Your vivid descriptions of the three men and your use of aliteration bring this work to life.
Comment Written 20-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 20-Jan-2023
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Thanks for that, Jacqueline!
Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ... Cheers! LIZ
Comment from T B Botts
Hi Liz,
It's nice to hear from you again. I'm going to stick my neck out and say that it takes two to tango. There is no perfect partner that I'm aware of. If we live long enough, our looks are going to change, often not for the better. We get to know each other well and that can be both a blessing and a detriment. Us humans are a selfish lot- on the one hand we all want to be God and have things our way, and when things don't please us, someone is going to pay. I think that society has changed a lot from the days when I was growing up. I had a young friend tell me that she was having trouble finding a husband because too many men wanted to still be boys. I can see that. However, it would behoove us to delve into the matter further at some point and discuss why that is. Anyway, as always, an entertaining post. Am I to understand that Chuck and you are married? I was under the impression that he was just a good friend. Perhaps he's both. I hope so. Have a blessed day gal.
Tom
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Hi Liz,
It's nice to hear from you again. I'm going to stick my neck out and say that it takes two to tango. There is no perfect partner that I'm aware of. If we live long enough, our looks are going to change, often not for the better. We get to know each other well and that can be both a blessing and a detriment. Us humans are a selfish lot- on the one hand we all want to be God and have things our way, and when things don't please us, someone is going to pay. I think that society has changed a lot from the days when I was growing up. I had a young friend tell me that she was having trouble finding a husband because too many men wanted to still be boys. I can see that. However, it would behoove us to delve into the matter further at some point and discuss why that is. Anyway, as always, an entertaining post. Am I to understand that Chuck and you are married? I was under the impression that he was just a good friend. Perhaps he's both. I hope so. Have a blessed day gal.
Tom
Comment Written 18-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
Thanks for your thought-provoking review--you should post it as a standalone essay!
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Hey Liz,
I understand on the one hand where he's coming from, the bible mentions not being unequally yoked, but the apostle Paul also says that a spouse that is a believer sanctifies the unbelieving spouse. A matter for a different time I suppose. If I may offer my uninformed and uninvited opinion, perhaps you intimidate the fellows. You're obviously intelligent and independent and some men are threatened by that. I suppose I could be too if I were looking, but in all honesty, I think it would be a very interesting life to have you as a mate. Good luck in the search gal. If I pray that you find Mr. Right and you do, do I get any credit? Have a blessed evening my friend.
Tom
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Tom--You get credit just for being your wonderful, caring self!
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Oh Liz,
you leave me without words. You're a gem gal.
Comment from Mary Shifman
You are certainly braver than I am. I don't think I have the courage to go the romantic route again. You're also a lot younger than I am, so maybe that has something to do with it.
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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You are certainly braver than I am. I don't think I have the courage to go the romantic route again. You're also a lot younger than I am, so maybe that has something to do with it.
Comment Written 17-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Thanks, Mary. As to the romantic route: Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
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I hear you. I have no desire to share my life with another person at this point. I figure the time I have left is mine now and I will do all the things (those I can still do) that I wanted to.
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Good attitude!
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Thanks.
Comment from barbara.wilkey
Again, I'm sorry, I didn't catch this the first time around. I know I was your fan in 2020. I was probably busy with work and often didn't catch things. I did enjoy reading. I have decided that I am not good at choosing men. Really I'm not. I have poor taste in men.
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Again, I'm sorry, I didn't catch this the first time around. I know I was your fan in 2020. I was probably busy with work and often didn't catch things. I did enjoy reading. I have decided that I am not good at choosing men. Really I'm not. I have poor taste in men.
Comment Written 17-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Poor taste in men? Must have been a long time ago. I recall your story about approaching your 40th anniversary.
Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
Comment from Spitfire
A lively write. I like the idea of an accounting ledger to debate the pros and cons of potential husbands. I have to wonder what happened to make Michael change?
Love the three 'S's". Big laugh at the ending.
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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A lively write. I like the idea of an accounting ledger to debate the pros and cons of potential husbands. I have to wonder what happened to make Michael change?
Love the three 'S's". Big laugh at the ending.
Comment Written 17-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Thanks, Shari. Turns out Michael was a fickle Dick--he could turn on a dime.
Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
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It's hard to find a good man. Look for someone who is widowed rather than divorced, I'd say. I always thought that a gym would be a good place to look. Never a bar though. LOL
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Chuck's wife had died, so I got that part right. My 2nd husband had been twice divorced, and my next guy was in the midst of his 4th. My best bet is to strike up conversations as I walk around town--I don't drive, so I'm outside for hours daily. I also attend local events--no luck, alas. The few men I've encountered are young and/or married and/or have expressed not the slightest interest in me. If things change, you'll be amongst the first on my list to tell!
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Proves my point about divorced men.
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The man you marry should be your best friend. Smile.
Comment from Ric Myworld
Young love seldom works anymore, since divorce has become the main option of relief. Young personalities and opinions in the growing stages often change. Old people just learn to tolerate what they couldn't have stood in their youth. Of course, those like me who've never grown up don't fit in either world. LOL. Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Young love seldom works anymore, since divorce has become the main option of relief. Young personalities and opinions in the growing stages often change. Old people just learn to tolerate what they couldn't have stood in their youth. Of course, those like me who've never grown up don't fit in either world. LOL. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 17-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Thanks for weighing in, Ric. Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
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I think we kind of understand each other pretty well. I avoid relationships, but sometimes I think it would be nice to have a loyal friend. The thought of spending what's left of my life alone gets old. But thinking back, Naw, I'll stick to myself. LOL.
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I probably will do same.
Comment from Mary Vigasin
This is just a great read. It is a funny no holds barred about your hunt and mistakes in finding Mr. Wrong.
I think that some men (and some women)go into a relationship or marriage leaning into the person that they see that their partner wants until they have them hooked, then they no longer have to pretend.
My sister is on here 3rd husband and she finally found the right guy. They both think they are always right, both outspoken, often argue and are as happy as clams.
Truly an entertaining read.
Best wishes,
Mary
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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This is just a great read. It is a funny no holds barred about your hunt and mistakes in finding Mr. Wrong.
I think that some men (and some women)go into a relationship or marriage leaning into the person that they see that their partner wants until they have them hooked, then they no longer have to pretend.
My sister is on here 3rd husband and she finally found the right guy. They both think they are always right, both outspoken, often argue and are as happy as clams.
Truly an entertaining read.
Best wishes,
Mary
Comment Written 17-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Thankssssss, Mary! Good luck to your sister. Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
Comment from BethShelby
I thought I remembered some of this but if so I see I didn't write a review. I know I remember the picture. The other thing I think I remembered was that you and Chuck were actually married. Is that still the case? Is his choice of reading material the only thing in the debit column. Actually those kind of guys usually make pertty good husbands unless they try to force you to see things their way.
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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I thought I remembered some of this but if so I see I didn't write a review. I know I remember the picture. The other thing I think I remembered was that you and Chuck were actually married. Is that still the case? Is his choice of reading material the only thing in the debit column. Actually those kind of guys usually make pertty good husbands unless they try to force you to see things their way.
Comment Written 17-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
Comment from Shirley McLain
Excellent piece that I fully understand. I have now been married twenty three years, but before that I found every wrong man that came down the track. I only wanted to make things better for my kids, but my poor choices didn't let that happen. You did a great job, and thanks for sharing. Have a great day. Shirley
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Excellent piece that I fully understand. I have now been married twenty three years, but before that I found every wrong man that came down the track. I only wanted to make things better for my kids, but my poor choices didn't let that happen. You did a great job, and thanks for sharing. Have a great day. Shirley
Comment Written 17-Jan-2023
reply by the author on 18-Jan-2023
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Thanks, Shirley. At least you finally got it right--23 years' worth! Chuck and I are not married, nor will we be. That was clear from the start. He would never marry a non-Christian. Thus, he provided insurance against my entering another ill-fated marriage. I wrote this about six years ago--our relationship has since devolved to loyal--though limited--friendship. The search goes on ...
