A Fathers Grieving Heartache.
Viewing comments for Chapter 14 "With this Heart I Thee Wed?"My loss of my only son Jason.
9 total reviews
Comment from padumachitta
Hello. first off I am sorry for your loss and applaud your writing of it.
I did get lost in this, I had to read it a number of times to get everything...then read it out loud like a play, it worked better for me that way.
I am not sure what to do about it being a bit disjointed, it works for the horror of the accident, but needs a little bit of a slowing down. But that is me perhpas, a slow read.
reply by the author on 29-Jan-2020
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Hello. first off I am sorry for your loss and applaud your writing of it.
I did get lost in this, I had to read it a number of times to get everything...then read it out loud like a play, it worked better for me that way.
I am not sure what to do about it being a bit disjointed, it works for the horror of the accident, but needs a little bit of a slowing down. But that is me perhpas, a slow read.
Comment Written 29-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 29-Jan-2020
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Thanks!
And, I just did exactly that and that and added 60 words to one of my previous posts.
Doctor Ricky 1024
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Hi...okay I will go back and re read . Thanks.
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My pleasure and thanks.
Ricky
Comment from Mary Kay Bonfante
It seems that things happened that day in a terrible, unpredictable succession. "Things that go bump in the night" takes on a whole new meaning -- a huge bump, more like a world-shattering crash -- your world, your wife's world, your son's life. I'm sure you wish you would have never brought your son to play with little Brian, but how could you know he would become a mentally unstable reckless driver, with your son Jay in his car, so many years later?
You had no way of knowing that. And then what would have happened to the four people whose lives were saved by the organs transplanted from his dying body? Some questions have no good answers. You will always know that you and Carolyn made the right decision about that -- a decision I believe your son, Jay, would have supported. I am wondering if you ever met any of the four recipients of that priceless gift of life.
Very moving and challenging account, as always -- and full of deep emotion.
reply by the author on 28-Jan-2020
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It seems that things happened that day in a terrible, unpredictable succession. "Things that go bump in the night" takes on a whole new meaning -- a huge bump, more like a world-shattering crash -- your world, your wife's world, your son's life. I'm sure you wish you would have never brought your son to play with little Brian, but how could you know he would become a mentally unstable reckless driver, with your son Jay in his car, so many years later?
You had no way of knowing that. And then what would have happened to the four people whose lives were saved by the organs transplanted from his dying body? Some questions have no good answers. You will always know that you and Carolyn made the right decision about that -- a decision I believe your son, Jay, would have supported. I am wondering if you ever met any of the four recipients of that priceless gift of life.
Very moving and challenging account, as always -- and full of deep emotion.
Comment Written 28-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 28-Jan-2020
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I was asked to recite a poem to the get the life at the Camden riversharks Semi-Pro baseball game many years ago.
I got there late cuz I got lost so I couldn't do that but there was a recipient there and I believe from looking at him and listening to way he spoke and the scar that he did receive the heart and lungs but I'm not sure if it was Chaz the one who got Jason.
Thanks,
Ricky
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Wow, Ricky! That would be amazing, if he was the same guy. I have heard that sometimes recipients of transplanted hearts receive bits of their donors' memories. Obviously you wouldn't ask him, but it's a very profound thought -- or maybe you're already familiar with the research. It kind of jibes with the old-fashioned idea of the heart, and not the mind, as the seat of emotions.
My husband had open-heart surgery in 2011 after a huge heart attack. It was a double bypass. For awhile, his heart was not beating for him; a machine pumped his blood while the doctors worked on his heart. Jorge (we pronounce it "George," the English way) said he saw his life pass before him, like a movie.
I was very grateful to have him back in fairly good health, after the whole ordeal. He just can't work full time or play competitive sports. We are very blessed. At the time, he was only 50 and the heart attack was completely unexpected.
The young man who I was almost engaged to, before him, died a few years later -- his heart failed. His mother recently told me. It was sad to hear the news. Life is very unpredictable.
I wish we could have stopped Jay's accident. Sometimes I think about 9/11 and I wish we could have stopped that, too... it just isn't in our power.
Comment from Diana L Crawford
Very moving story you tell. What a wonderful way to see such a sorrowful event. I'm glad you the talented outlet of writing to express your love for your son.
Thank you for sharing. xoxo
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Very moving story you tell. What a wonderful way to see such a sorrowful event. I'm glad you the talented outlet of writing to express your love for your son.
Thank you for sharing. xoxo
Comment Written 26-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Occasionally Diane,
I'll cycle the title from above and it even amazes me.
This is one example.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky 1034
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xoxo!
Comment from Cindy Warren
Yes, I'm sure things can go bump in the night; that don't let you get much sleep. It sounds to me like Brian Cole was a 17 year old who was in control of a car he was too immature to have. Somebody must have enabled that. Not many kids could maintain and insure a car like that.
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Yes, I'm sure things can go bump in the night; that don't let you get much sleep. It sounds to me like Brian Cole was a 17 year old who was in control of a car he was too immature to have. Somebody must have enabled that. Not many kids could maintain and insure a car like that.
Comment Written 26-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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His mother came was a chief administrator of the sports department of Southern Regional high School over 1,000 kids.
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He provided it is a 17th birthday present.
you couldn't shift idiot taking this test on a Mother's white van which is automatic transmission.
That's where my son Jason came in on fortunately and thanks.
Doctor Ricky 1024
Comment from Ulla
I am so sorry, Doc. You'r pain never seems to end. Your son is in a safe place now, I'm sure. I just wish you could find some peace and live with what happened. Kind regards. Ulla:))
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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I am so sorry, Doc. You'r pain never seems to end. Your son is in a safe place now, I'm sure. I just wish you could find some peace and live with what happened. Kind regards. Ulla:))
Comment Written 26-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Thanks Ulla and basically that true and that's why I journal and send it to you!
Ricky
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
As I'm sure you intended, a jumble of jarring images of that dreadful night. I found most of it too disjointed to follow; I reread it three times. The overall picture is all too clear---alas, what tragedy. My condolences. RIP Jason---as you surely know he is doing just that.
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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As I'm sure you intended, a jumble of jarring images of that dreadful night. I found most of it too disjointed to follow; I reread it three times. The overall picture is all too clear---alas, what tragedy. My condolences. RIP Jason---as you surely know he is doing just that.
Comment Written 26-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Sorry to say again you're giving this just an average review and again I'm sure that my son is disappointed also
Comment from Y. M. Roger
Oh, my goodness, Doc, the descriptions you use to describe that night were awful and put the reader right there... I have never heard the 'sour grapes' one, gotta remember that! ;) ;) Thanx for sharing! ; ) Yvette
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Oh, my goodness, Doc, the descriptions you use to describe that night were awful and put the reader right there... I have never heard the 'sour grapes' one, gotta remember that! ;) ;) Thanx for sharing! ; ) Yvette
Comment Written 26-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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I got the sour grapes and added to it basically and threw it in this one of my theologies.
Ask for that night?
What night?
LOL!
Ricky
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
Your pain is never ending, is it, my friend? I can understand that. Jason is free from pain but you live it daily. Every detail in written in this poem/prose, the pouring of grief. That an idiot drove and killed your precious son, will never be far from your mind. But, God is with you, as you already know, and one day you will be with Jason. I'm just so deeply sorry you lost your boy so young. Sending you a big hug. Sandra xxx
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Your pain is never ending, is it, my friend? I can understand that. Jason is free from pain but you live it daily. Every detail in written in this poem/prose, the pouring of grief. That an idiot drove and killed your precious son, will never be far from your mind. But, God is with you, as you already know, and one day you will be with Jason. I'm just so deeply sorry you lost your boy so young. Sending you a big hug. Sandra xxx
Comment Written 26-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Thank you my dear I had to block a woman who gave this review for this piece and another piece a review of only three stars.
Thanks,
Doctor Ricky 1024
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Some people haven't got any feelings. You carry on doing what you do to help you through your pain, it will never completely go away, but writing does help. Take care, my friend. xxx
Comment from Barb Hensongispsaca
Wow and double wow. This is the best writing yet and I truly love the way you added the parts of songs, movies, saying, and yet followed by true feelings in answer to those. Very emotional
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Wow and double wow. This is the best writing yet and I truly love the way you added the parts of songs, movies, saying, and yet followed by true feelings in answer to those. Very emotional
Comment Written 26-Jan-2020
reply by the author on 26-Jan-2020
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Thanks again Barb.
This will make the Welcoming Page by Tomorrow.
Ricky