Grammy's Memoirs 2018
Viewing comments for Chapter 7 "A Memoir of Love"Bits and pieces of my life for my grandchildren
43 total reviews
Comment from pbomar1115
It's an honor to know you, even though it is only through writing, Patty. You give love and it will be returned, a least it is most times. But, I, too, believe that Christian value is built on love. Because homosexuality was not believed to be the ideal model of man as adopted in the Bible, I'm sure it existed even then. Men needed rules to live by but ill-treatment of another person because of the way he was born is wrong period. You do not need a Bible or religion to tell you when to treat the innocent with respect or right. I think religion helps people if it wants to, but the law helps people because it is its job. You did what many mothers will not do because they love something or someone more than their child. Kudos to you, Patty.
Phillip
reply by the author on 10-Jul-2017
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It's an honor to know you, even though it is only through writing, Patty. You give love and it will be returned, a least it is most times. But, I, too, believe that Christian value is built on love. Because homosexuality was not believed to be the ideal model of man as adopted in the Bible, I'm sure it existed even then. Men needed rules to live by but ill-treatment of another person because of the way he was born is wrong period. You do not need a Bible or religion to tell you when to treat the innocent with respect or right. I think religion helps people if it wants to, but the law helps people because it is its job. You did what many mothers will not do because they love something or someone more than their child. Kudos to you, Patty.
Phillip
Comment Written 10-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 10-Jul-2017
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Hi Phillip; thank you so much for this heartfelt review and your acceptance of my actions. I've always taken my role as a mother very seriously, and I would never allow anyone to make my son feel 'less than.'
~patty~
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You are special, Patty.
Phillip
Comment from Curly Girly
This was understandably a hard time for you.
Your son is a handsome lad.
This chapter was well-written and tells of a very personal journey.
These days, society has bent over backwards to accommodate 'gay rights.'
reply by the author on 10-Jul-2017
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This was understandably a hard time for you.
Your son is a handsome lad.
This chapter was well-written and tells of a very personal journey.
These days, society has bent over backwards to accommodate 'gay rights.'
Comment Written 10-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 10-Jul-2017
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thank you so much for the review. I just hope the current administration in the US doesn't reverse the things that have come to pass. There's still much more work to be done; we need to treat everyone with respect and love,
~patty~
Comment from emptypage
As to anyone who disagrees with your conclusions or approach, fuck 'em, pardon my French. You are allowed to love your son, your son is allowed to love whomever he chooses, my brother loves his husband, etc....the world goes on. And while so many nominal Christians might give you grief over this, the true Christians will remember the greatest commandment: He answered, "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'"
Great story, my friend.
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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As to anyone who disagrees with your conclusions or approach, fuck 'em, pardon my French. You are allowed to love your son, your son is allowed to love whomever he chooses, my brother loves his husband, etc....the world goes on. And while so many nominal Christians might give you grief over this, the true Christians will remember the greatest commandment: He answered, "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'"
Great story, my friend.
Comment Written 09-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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Hi Marla; thank you so much for your very supportive review. I have only had a few negative remarks in the responses to this post. They were worded very carefully, so as not to be seen as judgemental, but I feel good that I put the story forward.
I appreciate your words and love,
~patty~
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You can count on both.
Comment from apky
This is not just a wonderful chapter in your memoirs, for me it is a tribute to humanity. The more I read about your personal life experiences, the more I find how much you and I are alike in our hearts and our way of thinking:
>>That's okay; we are all entitled to our beliefs, our personal creed, and to live our lives as we see fit.
My story is one of tolerance. I try not to judge anyone, but it is human nature to judge people. So, I do my best to try and understand the heart of the person. The color of their skin or their personal politics simply do not matter. Loving my fellow travelers on earth is what was asked of me by my Lord, and I will do my best to honor His request.<<
These two magnificent paragraphs with their words of isdom could have come from my own heart - although I might not have written it so well!
Hugs,
Aki
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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This is not just a wonderful chapter in your memoirs, for me it is a tribute to humanity. The more I read about your personal life experiences, the more I find how much you and I are alike in our hearts and our way of thinking:
>>That's okay; we are all entitled to our beliefs, our personal creed, and to live our lives as we see fit.
My story is one of tolerance. I try not to judge anyone, but it is human nature to judge people. So, I do my best to try and understand the heart of the person. The color of their skin or their personal politics simply do not matter. Loving my fellow travelers on earth is what was asked of me by my Lord, and I will do my best to honor His request.<<
These two magnificent paragraphs with their words of isdom could have come from my own heart - although I might not have written it so well!
Hugs,
Aki
Comment Written 09-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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Hi Aki; thank you so much for this wonderfully, caring review. I appreciate your words, and I'm honored that you think we are so much alike. I'm happy to know you share my most heartfelt feelings about tolerance and love,
~patty~
ps; the shiny sixth star is wonderful!
Comment from bokeh
Your narrative is forcefully and logically presented. You hold the reader's interest throughout. There is minimal SPAG other than "Covenant" and "Pastor" which do not warrant capitalization when they stand alone.
Unfortunately, reviewers such as MelB, royowen, and
Iyenochka apparently cannot review based on literary value. It seems they attempt to "get a pass" by awarding a 5, and then attacking anyone who expresses a personal view with which they disagree.
They violate the intent and spirit of Fanstory, which is to encourage and assist writers in their efforts to improve.
For those who have non-literary agendas, be they political or religious, there are websites that can accommodate you. This is not one of them.
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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Your narrative is forcefully and logically presented. You hold the reader's interest throughout. There is minimal SPAG other than "Covenant" and "Pastor" which do not warrant capitalization when they stand alone.
Unfortunately, reviewers such as MelB, royowen, and
Iyenochka apparently cannot review based on literary value. It seems they attempt to "get a pass" by awarding a 5, and then attacking anyone who expresses a personal view with which they disagree.
They violate the intent and spirit of Fanstory, which is to encourage and assist writers in their efforts to improve.
For those who have non-literary agendas, be they political or religious, there are websites that can accommodate you. This is not one of them.
Comment Written 09-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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Hi there;
thank you for the read and review. I appreciate your opinion and feel that everyone has theirs and will feel free to share it,
~patty~
Comment from Hayley Solomon
You deserve six stars for this honest memoir. Well written and a very obvious revelation that you are a truly wonderful mother. Your son is very lucky to have you and I am sure he has gone on to do well in his life thanks to your love and non judgemental attitude.
Best,
Hayley :)
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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You deserve six stars for this honest memoir. Well written and a very obvious revelation that you are a truly wonderful mother. Your son is very lucky to have you and I am sure he has gone on to do well in his life thanks to your love and non judgemental attitude.
Best,
Hayley :)
Comment Written 09-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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thank you so much for the lovely and heartfelt review. I appreciate your kind words,
~patty~
ps; the shiny, sixth star is a wonderful treat
Comment from Bill Schott
You came to the right place, Patty. My son is gay as well. We are a Christian family, but went through nothing like what your church did to you. Adam wrestled with telling his mother and me. He told his sister, who found no surprise there and reassured him that he was as loved by her as he'was probably ever going to be anyway (her sarcasm). He told his friends, our pastor, and, one day, in a quivering mess, he told me. I was the Marine and had the usual things to say about gay people. That all changed immediately when he told me and I hugged him. It was another couple months before we told his mom though. She told him it wasn't what she wanted for him, but accepted it. She still prays that some godly woman will "snap him out of it".
No one makes an issue of it at church, as Adam is loved by all.
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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You came to the right place, Patty. My son is gay as well. We are a Christian family, but went through nothing like what your church did to you. Adam wrestled with telling his mother and me. He told his sister, who found no surprise there and reassured him that he was as loved by her as he'was probably ever going to be anyway (her sarcasm). He told his friends, our pastor, and, one day, in a quivering mess, he told me. I was the Marine and had the usual things to say about gay people. That all changed immediately when he told me and I hugged him. It was another couple months before we told his mom though. She told him it wasn't what she wanted for him, but accepted it. She still prays that some godly woman will "snap him out of it".
No one makes an issue of it at church, as Adam is loved by all.
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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Hi Bill; thank you so much for the lovely review and your share. I will pray for your family as well as all families dealing with this issue. Your words of encouragement mean a great deal to me.
Thank you for the shining sixth star - it was a special treat,
~patty~
Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose
Bravo!!! So well said. My daughter is gay and she married a woman, the love of her life. They have been together for over five years and they have a good marriage, better than some heterosexual couples I know. You are right and don't let anybody tell you any different. After a close friend told me what the bible says about gay, I decided organized religion isn't for me. I belong to the Unity church, a nondenominational organization. As you, I believe in God and in Jesus Christ but I don't believe in the bible. You did the right thing and I am proud of you.
Gypsy
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Bravo!!! So well said. My daughter is gay and she married a woman, the love of her life. They have been together for over five years and they have a good marriage, better than some heterosexual couples I know. You are right and don't let anybody tell you any different. After a close friend told me what the bible says about gay, I decided organized religion isn't for me. I belong to the Unity church, a nondenominational organization. As you, I believe in God and in Jesus Christ but I don't believe in the bible. You did the right thing and I am proud of you.
Gypsy
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Gypsy; thank you so much for your support and share. I think it is tragic that there are still people who want to say gay people, as well as transgenders and anyone else that is different, is living on the wrong side of God.
It is so nice to know another mother who shares my views. I've been very blessed with the response I've received to this post - I shouldn't have doubted my fellow FanStorians,
~patty~
Comment from Mabaker
On my husband's side, we have a nephew Christopher the oldest of three brothers. Chrissie is gay. He waited until his 21st party was in full swing to 'come out' That was a night none of us straights will ever forget. Chrissie was always different. No, he didn't play with Barbie dolls, but he was always surrounded by girls. They were drawn to his lovely nature, and yes he could apply makeup better than they could. He and his life friend are happy though his own father has never gotten over what he terms betrayal. Sincerely Anne
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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On my husband's side, we have a nephew Christopher the oldest of three brothers. Chrissie is gay. He waited until his 21st party was in full swing to 'come out' That was a night none of us straights will ever forget. Chrissie was always different. No, he didn't play with Barbie dolls, but he was always surrounded by girls. They were drawn to his lovely nature, and yes he could apply makeup better than they could. He and his life friend are happy though his own father has never gotten over what he terms betrayal. Sincerely Anne
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Anne; thank you so much for this heartfelt and supportive review. I appreciate you sharing about your nephew and I hope you are still in contact with him and support his relationship.
I do feel the support of my FanStory family and I'm greatly relieved,
~patty~
Comment from Mrs Happy Poet
Hello my friend this is well written your church seemed very judgemental I myself believe that nobody should judge another person we are all the same deep down inside well done on supporting your son regards Jill
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hello my friend this is well written your church seemed very judgemental I myself believe that nobody should judge another person we are all the same deep down inside well done on supporting your son regards Jill
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Jill;
thank you so much for the positive response to this sensitive post,
~patty~