Letter to Mom - November20, 1987
Letter after mom died (self-explained)20 total reviews
Comment from Baltimore Born
This is a very touching letter. You had to confront those feelings. I had some of those same experience growing up myself. I liked how you resolved the issue. You gave good details throughout the letter. Hopefully as other read this letter they will look on their relationship with their children. Thank you for sharing.
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2024
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This is a very touching letter. You had to confront those feelings. I had some of those same experience growing up myself. I liked how you resolved the issue. You gave good details throughout the letter. Hopefully as other read this letter they will look on their relationship with their children. Thank you for sharing.
Comment Written 15-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2024
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As my story in the letter reads, I did have a very difficult time with my mother. Even though we had the difficulty saddler the great deal from her.
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You are welcome.
Comment from Julie Helms
Patricia, this is a very heartfelt letter. Sometimes we will never know why those we love behave this way. But one thing I can say, the way you talk about your daughters, you did things very differently than your mother. You clearly have been a great mother! Thanks for sharing! Julie
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2024
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Patricia, this is a very heartfelt letter. Sometimes we will never know why those we love behave this way. But one thing I can say, the way you talk about your daughters, you did things very differently than your mother. You clearly have been a great mother! Thanks for sharing! Julie
Comment Written 15-Feb-2024
reply by the author on 16-Feb-2024
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Thank you so much for your kind review. It is always appreciated. My mother was a good woman, but she did have that one flaw not being able to understand her children are not caring I don?t know which it is.
Comment from Iza Deleanu
I know how hard to live with these questions if you were loved or a good kid:"Why I always had to reach up to the other kids in your eyes and not be the person I was, is still a puzzle to me. I wanted to be myself, and be loved for who I was and not a carbon copy of a sister or brother. I am an individual who has her own talents and abilities which God had given me.
Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings.
reply by the author on 14-May-2021
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I know how hard to live with these questions if you were loved or a good kid:"Why I always had to reach up to the other kids in your eyes and not be the person I was, is still a puzzle to me. I wanted to be myself, and be loved for who I was and not a carbon copy of a sister or brother. I am an individual who has her own talents and abilities which God had given me.
Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings.
Comment Written 08-May-2021
reply by the author on 14-May-2021
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Thanks for your review.
Comment from mermaids
Excellent letter to your mother that is cathartic and helps you get through how she treated you. I think knowing about her parents might have explained some of her behavior towards you. Great suggestion to write this letter, it gives the reader something to think about.
reply by the author on 02-May-2021
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Excellent letter to your mother that is cathartic and helps you get through how she treated you. I think knowing about her parents might have explained some of her behavior towards you. Great suggestion to write this letter, it gives the reader something to think about.
Comment Written 01-May-2021
reply by the author on 02-May-2021
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Thanks for your nice review.
Comment from BethShelby
Patricia, I wrote a teller to my mom after she died and said some of the same things you said to yours. I have a cousin my age and she has the same complaints about her mother. Since we're close to the same age, I wonder if it isn't something women of that generation had in common. They couldn't allow their daughters to feel good about themselves. I know my mom loved me, and praised me to other people, but I never seem to anything right. Neither could my cousin, but her mother also praised her to others. I wonder if they thought it was they duty to keeping pushing us to be better than we were. Maybe her parents did it to her, and that was how she felt a daughter was to be kept humble. The letter helped me forgive my mom and helped me understand her a little better.
reply by the author on 28-Apr-2021
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Patricia, I wrote a teller to my mom after she died and said some of the same things you said to yours. I have a cousin my age and she has the same complaints about her mother. Since we're close to the same age, I wonder if it isn't something women of that generation had in common. They couldn't allow their daughters to feel good about themselves. I know my mom loved me, and praised me to other people, but I never seem to anything right. Neither could my cousin, but her mother also praised her to others. I wonder if they thought it was they duty to keeping pushing us to be better than we were. Maybe her parents did it to her, and that was how she felt a daughter was to be kept humble. The letter helped me forgive my mom and helped me understand her a little better.
Comment Written 28-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 28-Apr-2021
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Thank you both for your wonderful review. You are probably very right on the things that you said. I know my mother love me but for some reason she never seem to be able to bring herself to say so. I learned many good things for my mother and I was able to turn around some of the bad things that happened with me and her and make them better for my own children.
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Thank you both for your wonderful review. You are probably very right on the things that you said. I know my mother love me but for some reason she never seem to be able to bring herself to say so. I learned many good things for my mother and I was able to turn around some of the bad things that happened with me and her and make them better for my own children.
Comment from Mary Vigasin
While writing this helped you with healing, I know the hurt and confusion of your mother runs deep in your heart. I am writing a story about such a mother and as I write it
I realize it is the mother is
deeply troubled and the child could never have pleased her. It is in your writing talent that you have validation that you are perfect the way you are
Regards
Mary
reply by the author on 27-Apr-2021
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While writing this helped you with healing, I know the hurt and confusion of your mother runs deep in your heart. I am writing a story about such a mother and as I write it
I realize it is the mother is
deeply troubled and the child could never have pleased her. It is in your writing talent that you have validation that you are perfect the way you are
Regards
Mary
Comment Written 27-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 27-Apr-2021
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Thanks for your review.
Comment from equestrik
I am so sorry for the pain that you have experienced and for the loss you felt from your mother's constant withdrawal of her love. These are fair and well penned questions-perhaps there is someone still around who could give you some insight.
reply by the author on 27-Apr-2021
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I am so sorry for the pain that you have experienced and for the loss you felt from your mother's constant withdrawal of her love. These are fair and well penned questions-perhaps there is someone still around who could give you some insight.
Comment Written 27-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 27-Apr-2021
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Thanks for your review. I am almost 83 and I seriously doubt there is anyone still alive to give me answers, but that is okay, I have made peace with it.
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
How sad that your mother missed so many opportunities to show you love and appreciation, Patricia. You did a good job expressing those thoughts in your letter to her. As I read it, I could tell that you were still reaching out to your mother, but in a different way. You accepted the relationship you and she had, but used it to better yourself as you maneuvered through life on your own.
Thanks for sharing.
Respectfully, Jan
reply by the author on 27-Apr-2021
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How sad that your mother missed so many opportunities to show you love and appreciation, Patricia. You did a good job expressing those thoughts in your letter to her. As I read it, I could tell that you were still reaching out to your mother, but in a different way. You accepted the relationship you and she had, but used it to better yourself as you maneuvered through life on your own.
Thanks for sharing.
Respectfully, Jan
Comment Written 27-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 27-Apr-2021
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Thank you for your review. The lack I had with my mon made me a better mon to my girls and I talked freely with them about life's issues.
Comment from Treischel
A very sad tale. I heard similar things from many people. I with my father. My wife with her mother. I think the generation that went through the depression and the world wars had a problem expressing love. I know how hurtful that can be.
reply by the author on 04-Mar-2015
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A very sad tale. I heard similar things from many people. I with my father. My wife with her mother. I think the generation that went through the depression and the world wars had a problem expressing love. I know how hurtful that can be.
Comment Written 04-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 04-Mar-2015
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Thanks for the review. My mother was a good person, but for some reason was not able to share anything about herself, so much so that she still is a mystery to me.
Comment from Janet7053
Writing this letter must have been so difficult. After listening to your story on Unshackled I too wondered what made your mom so harsh toward you. Wish, for your sake you could have gotten some of the answers you deserve.
reply by the author on 02-Mar-2015
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Writing this letter must have been so difficult. After listening to your story on Unshackled I too wondered what made your mom so harsh toward you. Wish, for your sake you could have gotten some of the answers you deserve.
Comment Written 02-Mar-2015
reply by the author on 02-Mar-2015
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Thanks for the review. The only thing I can come up with why mom had a problem with me is, I often heard her say, when I was born I looked so much like her mother she gasped for breath. So I am going to say she probably had a problem with her mother and when she looked at me she saw her mother that she had a problem with.
