A Leaf on the Wind
Viewing comments for Chapter 64 "A Lesson on Love"Autobiography of abuse
13 total reviews
Comment from Stacey Lynne Wells
Hi, it's Rachel. Sorry I've not been able to read for a while. Sorry about Teresa and her son. I'm glad your mom finally learned her lesson, she should have learned a long time ago. Have a blessed day.
Rachel
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2009
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Hi, it's Rachel. Sorry I've not been able to read for a while. Sorry about Teresa and her son. I'm glad your mom finally learned her lesson, she should have learned a long time ago. Have a blessed day.
Rachel
Comment Written 13-Nov-2009
reply by the author on 13-Nov-2009
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Thank you for your generous and kind review. I sincerely appreciate it.
Comment from medicnate
What a sad, sad conclusion to a young life. Thank you for sharing again. This was another very powerful chapter. I am convinced I will be seeing it on the shelves soon. Have you shopped it around at all?
Nice work.
~medicnate~
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2009
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What a sad, sad conclusion to a young life. Thank you for sharing again. This was another very powerful chapter. I am convinced I will be seeing it on the shelves soon. Have you shopped it around at all?
Nice work.
~medicnate~
Comment Written 05-Aug-2009
reply by the author on 05-Aug-2009
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Thank you for your very kind review. Yes, I have but at this time "abuse" books are not high on publishers lists. I certainly have no intention of giving up it is just a matter of having patience. Glad you liked this chapter.
Comment from jojosug
Your survival was about you being different, challenging the status quo. I can understand your bewilderment, but their lack of care is probably about not wanting to feel. Being emotionally dead, allows them to function. Again another wonderful chapter, raw and painful, but also alive and real.
Jo
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2009
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Your survival was about you being different, challenging the status quo. I can understand your bewilderment, but their lack of care is probably about not wanting to feel. Being emotionally dead, allows them to function. Again another wonderful chapter, raw and painful, but also alive and real.
Jo
Comment Written 27-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2009
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Yes, closing themselves off to feelings was their way to deal with their own demons. Thank you for your kind review. I sinerely appreciate your opinion.
Comment from penelope
There's so much going on here, Smurphgirl, on so many levels. You were right to confront your mother, but I can't help feeling sorry for her. She just couldn't handle it. It's no excuse but too many people bury their heads in the sand. You've no idea how I can identify with the emotions you've expressed here. They weren't there for you when you needed them; neither as a child nor as an adult. Your book will help so many, I hope.
So sad about the genetic illness. Amonst other things, I do reflexology on inhabitants in a local home for mentally and physically handicapped people. One of the women there has Rhett's Syndrome.
Have you ever looked into the concept of past lives? It's fascinating. The stage on which you choose to be born is ful l of drama, pain and forgiveness. You really should read Destiny of Souls by Michael Newton, PhD. You might be very surprised at the deeper meaning of all of this.
Brilliant writing. I bawled my eyes out. There's no reason why this shouldn't be a bestseller. Penelope
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2009
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There's so much going on here, Smurphgirl, on so many levels. You were right to confront your mother, but I can't help feeling sorry for her. She just couldn't handle it. It's no excuse but too many people bury their heads in the sand. You've no idea how I can identify with the emotions you've expressed here. They weren't there for you when you needed them; neither as a child nor as an adult. Your book will help so many, I hope.
So sad about the genetic illness. Amonst other things, I do reflexology on inhabitants in a local home for mentally and physically handicapped people. One of the women there has Rhett's Syndrome.
Have you ever looked into the concept of past lives? It's fascinating. The stage on which you choose to be born is ful l of drama, pain and forgiveness. You really should read Destiny of Souls by Michael Newton, PhD. You might be very surprised at the deeper meaning of all of this.
Brilliant writing. I bawled my eyes out. There's no reason why this shouldn't be a bestseller. Penelope
Comment Written 27-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2009
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My love hate relationship with my mother was difficult. I often felt sorry for her and guilty for always being so angry. But in order for us to put the past to rest we still had to sit down and talk openly about what had happened. That is still yet to come. Yes, I often think about past lives, sometimes seriously and other times with a sense of humor. I often tell people that I must have been a used car salesman in a previous life...getting paid back in this one. I don't discuss this in my book but I am Buddhist and went to England to study for two years. Thank you for your kind review and words of encouragement.
Comment from words
Very well told story.
The details you chose to include are well chosen. YOu handle the dialogue well. It sounds natural.
The honesty is stunning.
Very well done...not self indulgent...not maudlin...good clean, well wrought prose.
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2009
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Very well told story.
The details you chose to include are well chosen. YOu handle the dialogue well. It sounds natural.
The honesty is stunning.
Very well done...not self indulgent...not maudlin...good clean, well wrought prose.
Comment Written 27-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2009
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Thank you for your kind words. When I decide to write this book I promised my mother and myself that I would be honest to the story. Honest about what happened and honest about myself. An autogiography without this is just another work of fiction. Thank you for your enouraging words. I sincerley appreciate them.
Comment from laurelp
That makes two of us. Human behavior is beyond amazement. Why they would not think to visit or call. Very odd indeed. I thought it was a normal thing, but I guess you need to be trained to do it. I found no errors in this piece. I am sorry for the loss of your nephew. It is so sad to loose a baby.
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2009
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That makes two of us. Human behavior is beyond amazement. Why they would not think to visit or call. Very odd indeed. I thought it was a normal thing, but I guess you need to be trained to do it. I found no errors in this piece. I am sorry for the loss of your nephew. It is so sad to loose a baby.
Comment Written 26-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2009
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Thank you. He was a lovely child too. I appreciate your kind words.
Comment from Seraphim Delphinium
Fascinating narrative, dear Smurphy. Tomes have been written about family dynamics, but the first person delivery of this is extremely effective and authentic. Great that Mother could learn new life lessons. Seraph
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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Fascinating narrative, dear Smurphy. Tomes have been written about family dynamics, but the first person delivery of this is extremely effective and authentic. Great that Mother could learn new life lessons. Seraph
Comment Written 26-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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Thank you. I often describe my book as being about abuse but it is also a love story between a mother and her daughter. Mom wasn't the best mother when I was a child but she came thruogh in the end.
Comment from DecrepitOldBag
You know, Valerie, Having read your story right from the start, I can only conclude that the whole family was dysfunctional - you had trouble because you were the 'normal' one! I feel so angry on your behalf that you were not loved and supported through your terrible time of cancer. Getting your Mum to Teresa was a great thing you did.
Noticed a couple spellings/typos:
"....He chucked about...." (chuckled)
"Amniosynthisis" - this may just be the difference between Uk and US. In UK it is spelled 'amniocentesis'
"....makes all of your so fucking selfish....." (all of you)
"There was nothing I could to say...." (nothing I could say)
Hope picking these nits has helped.
Warmest wishes as ever
Kat
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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You know, Valerie, Having read your story right from the start, I can only conclude that the whole family was dysfunctional - you had trouble because you were the 'normal' one! I feel so angry on your behalf that you were not loved and supported through your terrible time of cancer. Getting your Mum to Teresa was a great thing you did.
Noticed a couple spellings/typos:
"....He chucked about...." (chuckled)
"Amniosynthisis" - this may just be the difference between Uk and US. In UK it is spelled 'amniocentesis'
"....makes all of your so fucking selfish....." (all of you)
"There was nothing I could to say...." (nothing I could say)
Hope picking these nits has helped.
Warmest wishes as ever
Kat
Comment Written 26-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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Thank you again for your kind review and helpful corrections.
Comment from Cranial Thinker
For a person that is supposed to have a disabling disorder your compassion for ensuring the right response for the situation is fa-nominal a gift if you will,that I feel haunts
everybody in your family.Because you,unlike them don't hold back,making you true first to yourself,then a true mouth piece for them,which caused them to go on the defensive them
not ready to accept"your",honesty.Again Smurphgirl,a job extremely well done.Cranial Thinker
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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For a person that is supposed to have a disabling disorder your compassion for ensuring the right response for the situation is fa-nominal a gift if you will,that I feel haunts
everybody in your family.Because you,unlike them don't hold back,making you true first to yourself,then a true mouth piece for them,which caused them to go on the defensive them
not ready to accept"your",honesty.Again Smurphgirl,a job extremely well done.Cranial Thinker
Comment Written 26-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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Again your perscptions are correct. My strength and demand for loyalty and honesty terrified my family. And, with they needed someone to stand up for them, I was always the first person they called.
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Smurphgirl this is such a medicine to me and I sincerely hope it was for you in penning it.I am so enjoying the read and the walk.Thank you for sharing.Cranial Thinker
Comment from malakkanj
LOVE IT AND and everythin about it it's soooo deeep not like others they're sooooo shallow . WOW voice word choice awesome. love it as always:D
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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LOVE IT AND and everythin about it it's soooo deeep not like others they're sooooo shallow . WOW voice word choice awesome. love it as always:D
Comment Written 26-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 26-Mar-2009
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Thak you so very much for your kind and encouaging review. I sincerely appreciate it.