A Leaf on the Wind
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Comment from phaedra
This was quite an era in American history. With the "free love" bit it made it easier for you not to be a virgin in
Richards eyes.
The previous chapters were very gut wrenching this is a good
break in your book.
reply by the author on 17-Jul-2013
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This was quite an era in American history. With the "free love" bit it made it easier for you not to be a virgin in
Richards eyes.
The previous chapters were very gut wrenching this is a good
break in your book.
Comment Written 17-Jul-2013
reply by the author on 17-Jul-2013
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It is a hard book to read in some sections so yes, a break if often necessary. Fortunately Richard wasn't looking for a virgin which worked out quite well.
Comment from medicnate
Great story here. I love how easy it is to read. I had a girlfriend like that once. I would ask her where she wanted to eat, she would say, "wherever you want to eat." Her answer for everything, was whatever I wanted it to be. She became a little Nate clone. It was annoying and to say the least, didn't last. hehe.
~medicnate~
reply by the author on 09-Apr-2009
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Great story here. I love how easy it is to read. I had a girlfriend like that once. I would ask her where she wanted to eat, she would say, "wherever you want to eat." Her answer for everything, was whatever I wanted it to be. She became a little Nate clone. It was annoying and to say the least, didn't last. hehe.
~medicnate~
Comment Written 09-Apr-2009
reply by the author on 09-Apr-2009
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How funny. A Smurphgirl cone...what a great image!
Comment from Stacey Lynne Wells
Congratulations! That's wonderful! I hope it worked out. I can't wait to find out what happens next. It was my pleasure to have read and reviewed. I'm glad you didn't have to live with your dad tormenting you anymore because he was wrong doing what he did. Keep writing.
April
reply by the author on 25-Mar-2009
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Congratulations! That's wonderful! I hope it worked out. I can't wait to find out what happens next. It was my pleasure to have read and reviewed. I'm glad you didn't have to live with your dad tormenting you anymore because he was wrong doing what he did. Keep writing.
April
Comment Written 25-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 25-Mar-2009
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Thank you. I sincerely appreciat your continued interest and hope you continue to enjoy my book.
Comment from Lois Delaney
Yeah, them were the days, The sixties. And you got married. I hope it turned out, but am fearful to go on. Two opposites attract I find is not always good. LOL
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2009
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Yeah, them were the days, The sixties. And you got married. I hope it turned out, but am fearful to go on. Two opposites attract I find is not always good. LOL
Comment Written 08-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2009
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Richard was a good man. We had little in common other than our children.
Comment from CALLAHANMR
This chapter appears to stat he healing process'
I have a few specific comments:
1. The closest I came to talking about my father was to say, "My father and I don't get along." Richard never [ask ==> asked] why.
2.I was still too shy to wear tie-dye and had no interest in using drugs. However, I no longer worried about being a virgin, leaving me with one less secret to keep. We were the perfect example of the expression, opposites attract. {Losing your fear about your virginity must have helped your relationship a whole lot. The sexual cult of the sixties and seventies removed much of the terrible stigma which for hundreds of years even placed the blame for rape on the woman. Man's inhumanity to woman, I guess. Or perhaps something foisted on women by Queen Victoria.}
3. Thoughts of Hugo lessened with each passing day, but my love for him remained constant. My relationship with Richard was comfortably unemotional. I liked him and he liked me. To my relief, love never entered the picture.True love never dissipates, but new love can relieve the burden of loss.}
4. The only thing more surprising than his unexpected question, was my answer, "Yes, let's get married" {at least one level of healing arrived in time for your oen family.}
5. In November of 1969, I became Mrs. Richard Hernandez. My transformation was complete. Valerie disappeared , and in her place stood a devoted wife, determined to put her past behind her, and start a new life, free of torment.{yet you know fragments of the old abuses sometimes surface until you totally close the door of abuse behind you.}
For your information, I did review tis chapter in ordeer, but my computer kept me from posting it first.
Roger
reply by the author on 06-Mar-2009
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This chapter appears to stat he healing process'
I have a few specific comments:
1. The closest I came to talking about my father was to say, "My father and I don't get along." Richard never [ask ==> asked] why.
2.I was still too shy to wear tie-dye and had no interest in using drugs. However, I no longer worried about being a virgin, leaving me with one less secret to keep. We were the perfect example of the expression, opposites attract. {Losing your fear about your virginity must have helped your relationship a whole lot. The sexual cult of the sixties and seventies removed much of the terrible stigma which for hundreds of years even placed the blame for rape on the woman. Man's inhumanity to woman, I guess. Or perhaps something foisted on women by Queen Victoria.}
3. Thoughts of Hugo lessened with each passing day, but my love for him remained constant. My relationship with Richard was comfortably unemotional. I liked him and he liked me. To my relief, love never entered the picture.True love never dissipates, but new love can relieve the burden of loss.}
4. The only thing more surprising than his unexpected question, was my answer, "Yes, let's get married" {at least one level of healing arrived in time for your oen family.}
5. In November of 1969, I became Mrs. Richard Hernandez. My transformation was complete. Valerie disappeared , and in her place stood a devoted wife, determined to put her past behind her, and start a new life, free of torment.{yet you know fragments of the old abuses sometimes surface until you totally close the door of abuse behind you.}
For your information, I did review tis chapter in ordeer, but my computer kept me from posting it first.
Roger
Comment Written 06-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 06-Mar-2009
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Thank you for your very nice review. I sincerely appreciate your commenst and suggestions. You are very perceptive when you say fragment of the old abus sometims resurface until you totlly close the door...one of the main subject of my book.
Comment from jdrhye
It is a trial to become one's true self and true to your own form. Unstandable read, we are given lessons in life and translate only what we know. It is difficult to transform a broken spirit into an individual glowing form called self. Nice read, short piece with allot of depth. bravo to you.
reply by the author on 05-Mar-2009
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It is a trial to become one's true self and true to your own form. Unstandable read, we are given lessons in life and translate only what we know. It is difficult to transform a broken spirit into an individual glowing form called self. Nice read, short piece with allot of depth. bravo to you.
Comment Written 05-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 05-Mar-2009
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Thank you for your kind words.
Comment from Helen Tan
This was an interesting short read.
and scasual shirt,- "a casual shirt"? Or "casual shirt".
leaving me with one less
secret to keep. We were the perfect example of the expression, opposites attract.
There's a big space after "one less", some formatting problem which you may want to look at.
Valerie had almost completely disappeared.
I had a relationship like this where I changed to suit his lifestyle. When we split, I was lost, I had no identity.
reply by the author on 05-Mar-2009
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This was an interesting short read.
and scasual shirt,- "a casual shirt"? Or "casual shirt".
leaving me with one less
secret to keep. We were the perfect example of the expression, opposites attract.
There's a big space after "one less", some formatting problem which you may want to look at.
Valerie had almost completely disappeared.
I had a relationship like this where I changed to suit his lifestyle. When we split, I was lost, I had no identity.
Comment Written 05-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 05-Mar-2009
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Thank you for you kind word and helpful corrections.
Comment from jojosug
Your story with all its ups and many downs, twists and turns, continues to make compelling reading. This was up to your usual standard and a pleasure to read.
Jo
reply by the author on 04-Mar-2009
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Your story with all its ups and many downs, twists and turns, continues to make compelling reading. This was up to your usual standard and a pleasure to read.
Jo
Comment Written 04-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 04-Mar-2009
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Thank you for your kind words. My friends call it a roller coaster ride....
Comment from jodeecee
Great chapter, moves the story along.
Richard always wore blue jeans, casual shirt, loved to wear an old top hat, and seldom took off his sunglasses.
Richard always wore blue jeans/,///and/ casual shirt/s/, loved to wear an old top hat, and seldom took off his sunglasses.
reply by the author on 04-Mar-2009
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Great chapter, moves the story along.
Richard always wore blue jeans, casual shirt, loved to wear an old top hat, and seldom took off his sunglasses.
Richard always wore blue jeans/,///and/ casual shirt/s/, loved to wear an old top hat, and seldom took off his sunglasses.
Comment Written 04-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 04-Mar-2009
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Once again, your eagle eye caught what I failed to see. Thank you for help and kind review.
Comment from Seraphim Delphinium
*chuckles* Indeed! Another fine offering from your magic pen, Smurphy. Nothing like marriage to offer thoughts of a "complete transformation." Excellent composition that holds the reader's attention.
Seraph~
reply by the author on 04-Mar-2009
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*chuckles* Indeed! Another fine offering from your magic pen, Smurphy. Nothing like marriage to offer thoughts of a "complete transformation." Excellent composition that holds the reader's attention.
Seraph~
Comment Written 04-Mar-2009
reply by the author on 04-Mar-2009
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Thank you again for your kind review and high rating.