Searching For Christopher
A letter to the nephew I've never met54 total reviews
Comment from wazzo
Wow that was a tough but touching letter to write,It seems to me to be O.K. but can I suggest that you must not put any reference to your sister not wanting to know him.Many are desperate to know their roots, who their Mother is and why she gave them away. He may want to know the love of his real mom, inspite of what hapenned. Trust this helps Blessings in your quest Albert.
reply by the author on 09-Oct-2008
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Wow that was a tough but touching letter to write,It seems to me to be O.K. but can I suggest that you must not put any reference to your sister not wanting to know him.Many are desperate to know their roots, who their Mother is and why she gave them away. He may want to know the love of his real mom, inspite of what hapenned. Trust this helps Blessings in your quest Albert.
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 09-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much for the review. If he looked for her at all, he already knows she doesn't want anything to do with him. She left the letter saying that with the adoption agency. I really appreciate your kind words.
Jan
Comment from EllieKaye
Hello, Jan,
There's such a deep wound cut when one has no choice but to stand by and accept another's choices. Your letter is beautiful--full of love. I opened it, hoping that the birthdate would match my brother's but it didn't.
I know finding his birth mother would heal his own wounds, but I have no power. I do, however, pay attention to stories such as yours, and I can relate, as my brother has disassociated himself from us, his adopted family, breaking our hearts, while holding on to anger. He has 3 kids who I hope to someday hug again.
Anyway, in your quest to find Christopher, there is a show on WE called "The Locator." Have you watched it? www.wetv.com
There are many forums on the web to help people like you with your search. How heartbreakingly sad that your sister wrote a letter asking him not to look for her.
With a hug,
Ellie
reply by the author on 09-Oct-2008
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Hello, Jan,
There's such a deep wound cut when one has no choice but to stand by and accept another's choices. Your letter is beautiful--full of love. I opened it, hoping that the birthdate would match my brother's but it didn't.
I know finding his birth mother would heal his own wounds, but I have no power. I do, however, pay attention to stories such as yours, and I can relate, as my brother has disassociated himself from us, his adopted family, breaking our hearts, while holding on to anger. He has 3 kids who I hope to someday hug again.
Anyway, in your quest to find Christopher, there is a show on WE called "The Locator." Have you watched it? www.wetv.com
There are many forums on the web to help people like you with your search. How heartbreakingly sad that your sister wrote a letter asking him not to look for her.
With a hug,
Ellie
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 09-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much, Ellie. I checked that show out. What an awesome idea. I have joined a couple of the search groups to no avail but I will keep trying. I hope with all my heart that your brother finds his birth family and heals those wounds, allowing him to be in touch with you again.
Hugs,
Jan
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Thanks Jan.
By the way, your piece really stuck with me-- it's been in my head all afternoon. : )
Comment from Live2Write
I don't really think you have to change anything on this piece. I have tears in my eyes. Just to know a child is loved that much is beautiful. I hope wherever Christopher is, he has love and health and happiness. Bless you.
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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I don't really think you have to change anything on this piece. I have tears in my eyes. Just to know a child is loved that much is beautiful. I hope wherever Christopher is, he has love and health and happiness. Bless you.
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review. I really appreciate your comments. :-)I hope he does, too.
Hugs,
Jan
Comment from lawriemac
Hello Jan,
The only thing that comes to mind is this; have you thought of writing this, or a similar, letter and sending copies, sealed, to the various Australian state authorities?
Unless you know his surname, you may not get too far but if you could give them as much information as possible they may be able to trace back to where the adoption took place and who with.
With regards to the letter, I cannot see how I can suggest improvements for it reads okay to me.
Good luck in your quest, and I sincerely hope it bears fruition.
Best wishes
Lawrie
reply by the author on 09-Oct-2008
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Hello Jan,
The only thing that comes to mind is this; have you thought of writing this, or a similar, letter and sending copies, sealed, to the various Australian state authorities?
Unless you know his surname, you may not get too far but if you could give them as much information as possible they may be able to trace back to where the adoption took place and who with.
With regards to the letter, I cannot see how I can suggest improvements for it reads okay to me.
Good luck in your quest, and I sincerely hope it bears fruition.
Best wishes
Lawrie
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 09-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much, Lawrie. That is a good idea. I know which town he was born in and my sister's surname at the time. Many thanks for the fine review and the wonderful suggestions.
Jan
Comment from jcollettesmith
What a beautiful sentiment you've expressed for your nephew. The longing and love you feel for him. The desire to one day meet and know him. I can only imagine how you've thought of him over the years.
My heart goes out to your sister for the difficult choice she made so many years ago and now, not being able to conceive. What sadness she must endure. Adoption is a loving choice and I'm sure she did what she believed was best for her child. However, fear and desperation were probably the motivating factors for her writing the letter to him to never look for her. How sad :(
I'll pray for your miracle. They do happen! Thanks for sharing :)
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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What a beautiful sentiment you've expressed for your nephew. The longing and love you feel for him. The desire to one day meet and know him. I can only imagine how you've thought of him over the years.
My heart goes out to your sister for the difficult choice she made so many years ago and now, not being able to conceive. What sadness she must endure. Adoption is a loving choice and I'm sure she did what she believed was best for her child. However, fear and desperation were probably the motivating factors for her writing the letter to him to never look for her. How sad :(
I'll pray for your miracle. They do happen! Thanks for sharing :)
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review. I really appreciate your comments and I do know she made a good choice originally.
Thanks again,
Jan
Comment from Judian James
"Several times after your birth, I found her sitting on the front porch of our parent's house, crying because she missed you so much" This is very personal and so poignant Jan. I felt your suffering every sentence of the piece. It is a tragedy and I'm so sorry. On the otherhand, if it is meant to be, somehow he will find you. Otherwise, I would put my worries to rest, believe that he had a wonderful life raised by a family who loved him. Excellent
reply by the author on 09-Oct-2008
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"Several times after your birth, I found her sitting on the front porch of our parent's house, crying because she missed you so much" This is very personal and so poignant Jan. I felt your suffering every sentence of the piece. It is a tragedy and I'm so sorry. On the otherhand, if it is meant to be, somehow he will find you. Otherwise, I would put my worries to rest, believe that he had a wonderful life raised by a family who loved him. Excellent
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 09-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much for the words of support and encouragement. I really want to believe that.
Hugs,
Jan
Comment from Teri7
Jan, This is a very sweet letter you have penned. I know when he reads this he will be happy that you have loved him all this time. I pray that somehow you two can meet.
Love, Teri
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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Jan, This is a very sweet letter you have penned. I know when he reads this he will be happy that you have loved him all this time. I pray that somehow you two can meet.
Love, Teri
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review. I really appreciate your comments. :-)I really hope we do.
Jan
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Hugs
Comment from Donovan
I think this is a heartfelt letter. So what you feel is what you must say. I do have a thought that you might want to think about. This letter is about what you need, the questions, the explanations...think it about why your nephew might want to know, if you find him, the rest will come. It needs to be more positive, in my opinion. Sincerely, Donovan...
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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I think this is a heartfelt letter. So what you feel is what you must say. I do have a thought that you might want to think about. This letter is about what you need, the questions, the explanations...think it about why your nephew might want to know, if you find him, the rest will come. It needs to be more positive, in my opinion. Sincerely, Donovan...
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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Thank you, Donavan. I will certainly give this some thought.
I really appreciate your comments.
Jan
Comment from Nicky B
This is note perfect and I can't think of any suggestions to improve it. I hope some day that you are reunited with your nephew and he can come understand who he really is and where has come from. I have just become an uncle for the first time. I could not imagine him not being apart of my life. Thank you very much for sharing this beautiful letter.
God bless.
Nick.
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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This is note perfect and I can't think of any suggestions to improve it. I hope some day that you are reunited with your nephew and he can come understand who he really is and where has come from. I have just become an uncle for the first time. I could not imagine him not being apart of my life. Thank you very much for sharing this beautiful letter.
God bless.
Nick.
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review. I really appreciate your comments and congratulations on becoming an uncle.
Blessings,
Jan
Comment from babylonia
jan,
the letter looks perfect. my heart goes out to your sister. especially with not having another child. i know that pain. my birth mom was unable to get pregnant after she gave me up. she finally had a hysterectomy at the age of 35 for endometriosis. luckily, she did have three other children. when i gave up custody of my son, i thought i would never raise a child. LOL i have my daughter. anything can happen.
i wish you and her the best.
love,
barbara
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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jan,
the letter looks perfect. my heart goes out to your sister. especially with not having another child. i know that pain. my birth mom was unable to get pregnant after she gave me up. she finally had a hysterectomy at the age of 35 for endometriosis. luckily, she did have three other children. when i gave up custody of my son, i thought i would never raise a child. LOL i have my daughter. anything can happen.
i wish you and her the best.
love,
barbara
Comment Written 09-Oct-2008
reply by the author on 16-Oct-2008
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Thank you so much for the wonderful review. I really appreciate your comments and your sharing your story.I do feel so deeply for my sister also.
Hugs,
Jan
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jan,
i am hoping for the best.
love,
barbara
