Reminiscing
Viewing comments for Chapter 18 "Chapter 18 Decisions"A collection of short stories
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Comment from Paul McFarland
I can really identify with your story, Barb. My wife is 79 and I am 80. My wife is in very poor health. I am okay for now. Luckily we have a son and grandsons nearby.
reply by the author on 12-Feb-2025
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I can really identify with your story, Barb. My wife is 79 and I am 80. My wife is in very poor health. I am okay for now. Luckily we have a son and grandsons nearby.
Comment Written 12-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 12-Feb-2025
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I completely understand. I'm sending prayers.
Comment from Soledadpaz
This touched close to home. I am in the same situation. Wanting to move and give up this big house for smaller quarters. The question is where to? We can't seem to decide. We have kids in four different states. As you say: decisions, decisions, decisions.
Good post!
Sol
reply by the author on 12-Feb-2025
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This touched close to home. I am in the same situation. Wanting to move and give up this big house for smaller quarters. The question is where to? We can't seem to decide. We have kids in four different states. As you say: decisions, decisions, decisions.
Good post!
Sol
Comment Written 11-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 12-Feb-2025
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I'm praying for your decision making.
Comment from eliz100
This is an excellent story. I have the same concerns. Recently, our son and his family moved in with us. They want to save money to buy a house. Jena cleans and cooks. This is such a relief for us. Anything my husband would have done, our son does. The plan is for a year so we will see what happens. I do not see any room for improvement. Have a blessed day.
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2025
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This is an excellent story. I have the same concerns. Recently, our son and his family moved in with us. They want to save money to buy a house. Jena cleans and cooks. This is such a relief for us. Anything my husband would have done, our son does. The plan is for a year so we will see what happens. I do not see any room for improvement. Have a blessed day.
Comment Written 08-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2025
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Thank you for the understanding and sharing your story.
Comment from Cecilia A Heiskary
Barbara,
This is a great story. You have a long lineage and hopefully you will not get sick or need assistance in the near future. You stay strong and healthy my friend.
Cecilia
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2025
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Barbara,
This is a great story. You have a long lineage and hopefully you will not get sick or need assistance in the near future. You stay strong and healthy my friend.
Cecilia
Comment Written 07-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 08-Feb-2025
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Thank you for the support.
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You are welcome
Comment from Begin Again
The golden years and all the hassle and worry that come with them can leave you with more stress than when you were working. I, too, am faced with house maintenance on three houses besides my son, Johnny, and I have begun to worry about whose lap it will all fall into when something happens. I can see a dumpster outside my house and everything thrown in it because they don't want to deal with giving it away or selling it. As for Johnny, I am terrified. He has his problems, and to date, no one has stepped up to help me. Will he be left to live in a home (something I've fought since he was born)? It's scarier than any of my stories. And their answer is don't worry about it, somebody will take him. Yeah, who?
Smiles, Carol
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2025
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The golden years and all the hassle and worry that come with them can leave you with more stress than when you were working. I, too, am faced with house maintenance on three houses besides my son, Johnny, and I have begun to worry about whose lap it will all fall into when something happens. I can see a dumpster outside my house and everything thrown in it because they don't want to deal with giving it away or selling it. As for Johnny, I am terrified. He has his problems, and to date, no one has stepped up to help me. Will he be left to live in a home (something I've fought since he was born)? It's scarier than any of my stories. And their answer is don't worry about it, somebody will take him. Yeah, who?
Smiles, Carol
Comment Written 07-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2025
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I completely understand. We pray about it. Thank you for the support.
Comment from Harry Craft
Barbara. This was a great story for one reason only if any. This is a decision we might all face as we get older. I will be 66 this year and I have already started thinking about this because I am a disabled veteran and my body has been through a lot! I liked the photo you used as well! Keep up the great writing. It will keep you young!
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2025
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Barbara. This was a great story for one reason only if any. This is a decision we might all face as we get older. I will be 66 this year and I have already started thinking about this because I am a disabled veteran and my body has been through a lot! I liked the photo you used as well! Keep up the great writing. It will keep you young!
Comment Written 07-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2025
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Thank you for the wonderful support. My husband did 23 years in the Army and is 80% disabled. Our oldest son did 26 years in after 5 deployments to Afghanistan 100% disabled. Thank you for your service.
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Well, Barbara. You are so welcome. And thank you for your families service too!
Comment from Michael Ludwinder
Your chapter is so honest! I really enjoyed how you shared humor into such a serious topic. The little moments really brought her to life. I could sense the love and concern for both Nancy and your own journey. The family conversations added a heartfelt touch. This was a thoughtful read - well done!
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2025
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Your chapter is so honest! I really enjoyed how you shared humor into such a serious topic. The little moments really brought her to life. I could sense the love and concern for both Nancy and your own journey. The family conversations added a heartfelt touch. This was a thoughtful read - well done!
Comment Written 07-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 07-Feb-2025
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Thank you for the support. I appreciate it.
Comment from nomi338
Much of what you mentioned hit home to me like a bomb. I don't get any exercise. I do not drink enough water, I do not take my daily medications daily, I suffer from lymphedema, and many other ailments. I am now 82 years old. Since my wife's death a few months ago, I have let many things slip. Fortunately I have my adult daughter and my adult grand daughter who live with me and try their best to take care of me.
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2025
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Much of what you mentioned hit home to me like a bomb. I don't get any exercise. I do not drink enough water, I do not take my daily medications daily, I suffer from lymphedema, and many other ailments. I am now 82 years old. Since my wife's death a few months ago, I have let many things slip. Fortunately I have my adult daughter and my adult grand daughter who live with me and try their best to take care of me.
Comment Written 06-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2025
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I'm thank you for your daughter and granddaughter. Please take care of yourself. I want you around for a long time. I believe our body's are a gift from God and we should take care of them.
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You are right of course, I am trying to do a better job of taking care of myself.
Comment from Y. M. Roger
So much to consider when the matter of aging creeps into the family conversations/considerations... A good one the presents those issues that so many have had/will have to face. Thanx for sharing! ;)
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2025
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So much to consider when the matter of aging creeps into the family conversations/considerations... A good one the presents those issues that so many have had/will have to face. Thanx for sharing! ;)
Comment Written 06-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2025
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Thank you for the support.
Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose
"start going to pot" ( what is pot? )
I can relate. I'm healthy and it's too early to think about assisting living, but sometimes it crosses my mind. It's a scary thought.
My exhusband divorced me on 2007, and I lived alone for ten years. It was lonely. All my children lived faraway for me, but in the same state. They visited me but if something happened I was alone to deal with it until my daughter came over to check on me.
Now I live with my youngest daughter. I moved in on 2018 to care for my infant grandson. I'm very grateful. I'm happy and grateful.
I wish you health and prosperity.
Gypsy
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2025
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"start going to pot" ( what is pot? )
I can relate. I'm healthy and it's too early to think about assisting living, but sometimes it crosses my mind. It's a scary thought.
My exhusband divorced me on 2007, and I lived alone for ten years. It was lonely. All my children lived faraway for me, but in the same state. They visited me but if something happened I was alone to deal with it until my daughter came over to check on me.
Now I live with my youngest daughter. I moved in on 2018 to care for my infant grandson. I'm very grateful. I'm happy and grateful.
I wish you health and prosperity.
Gypsy
Comment Written 06-Feb-2025
reply by the author on 06-Feb-2025
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going to pot, is a saying that means things started going wrong. Thank you for the support and sharing your story.
