Hello Stranger Goodbye Friend
Losing a friend to dementia31 total reviews
Comment from l.raven
Hi Jesse, I'm so sorry my sweet friend for
what your going through with your dear friend...
Dementia is so hard to understand...The last couple
years my mom lived...she was going into dementia...
she was 91...
I asked myself once...how it must feel for my mom to be
alone inside herself...and I had to remember...she wasn't...
God would always be there with her...
just stay by your friend...no one knows what they really
see from within...may God Bless you both...your story is very well told sweet guy...and though sad...your poem is
very well written...your picture prefect...
I'll keep you and your friend in my prayers...pray God
will help him find his way back...forever...have faith...love Linda xxoo
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Hi Jesse, I'm so sorry my sweet friend for
what your going through with your dear friend...
Dementia is so hard to understand...The last couple
years my mom lived...she was going into dementia...
she was 91...
I asked myself once...how it must feel for my mom to be
alone inside herself...and I had to remember...she wasn't...
God would always be there with her...
just stay by your friend...no one knows what they really
see from within...may God Bless you both...your story is very well told sweet guy...and though sad...your poem is
very well written...your picture prefect...
I'll keep you and your friend in my prayers...pray God
will help him find his way back...forever...have faith...love Linda xxoo
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from Janice Canerdy
This expressive, moving writing flows smoothly from a metaphor and personification in the first short paragraph to vivid descriptions of the sadness engendered by watching helplessly as a close friend drifts away.
As you say, you must continue to take care of yourSELF.
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This expressive, moving writing flows smoothly from a metaphor and personification in the first short paragraph to vivid descriptions of the sadness engendered by watching helplessly as a close friend drifts away.
As you say, you must continue to take care of yourSELF.
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
You did a great job, Jesse, with your discussion on dementia and its affects on your dear friend and yourself. It is a insipid disease. You see it firsthand and share your knowledge of specifics with us here. It is sad for all involved esp one like yourself so close to him. However, you are right about taking care of YOU. I know you are there for your friend even though he doesn't recognize you most of the time. You know it though.
Take care.
Respectfully, Jan
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You did a great job, Jesse, with your discussion on dementia and its affects on your dear friend and yourself. It is a insipid disease. You see it firsthand and share your knowledge of specifics with us here. It is sad for all involved esp one like yourself so close to him. However, you are right about taking care of YOU. I know you are there for your friend even though he doesn't recognize you most of the time. You know it though.
Take care.
Respectfully, Jan
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from Irish Rain
That is just absolutely all you can do
Mr. Jesse.
I read somewhere, that if it's a problem
we have no solution for, it's not ours to fix.
Doesn't help though.
What you are doing is taking care of you.
That's a lot on your plate.
I am totally out of sixes as of yesterday,
that rarely happens, or you'd have one.
You have great memories I'll bet,
that's a gift.
Loved this post,
blessings...
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That is just absolutely all you can do
Mr. Jesse.
I read somewhere, that if it's a problem
we have no solution for, it's not ours to fix.
Doesn't help though.
What you are doing is taking care of you.
That's a lot on your plate.
I am totally out of sixes as of yesterday,
that rarely happens, or you'd have one.
You have great memories I'll bet,
that's a gift.
Loved this post,
blessings...
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from Spitfire
I think you know I connect with this because I had to watch the man I love fade slowly away after being diagnosed with dementia when he reached the age of 73. Over the next ten years I saw not only the memory loss but also control of his emotions. Anger was the worst.
How did I cope? Same as you. I wrote it down and posted about this tragic journey on FS and how I survived it.
I did have my doctor prescribe medicine to keep my depression and panic attacks at bay. A hypnotherapist also helped me to understand MY anger. That also plays into the picture.
My comfort was in knowing that my worry wouldn't change the future. Nurturing your spirit is the best answer. There are many good books in The New Age section of Barnes and Noble to help with this.
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I think you know I connect with this because I had to watch the man I love fade slowly away after being diagnosed with dementia when he reached the age of 73. Over the next ten years I saw not only the memory loss but also control of his emotions. Anger was the worst.
How did I cope? Same as you. I wrote it down and posted about this tragic journey on FS and how I survived it.
I did have my doctor prescribe medicine to keep my depression and panic attacks at bay. A hypnotherapist also helped me to understand MY anger. That also plays into the picture.
My comfort was in knowing that my worry wouldn't change the future. Nurturing your spirit is the best answer. There are many good books in The New Age section of Barnes and Noble to help with this.
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from JPGeo
This is a very personal and emotional look into your life and soul. That can be easy to write but so hard to share. I commend the writing here and appreciate the poetry interposed. My heart goes out to you and your fragile friend.
Peace,
John
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This is a very personal and emotional look into your life and soul. That can be easy to write but so hard to share. I commend the writing here and appreciate the poetry interposed. My heart goes out to you and your fragile friend.
Peace,
John
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from dellsworthpoet
A perplexing problem is discussed here.
The piece reads well. The images are poignant and clear. The feeling is of grieving, as is appropriate. The balance between nurturing and self-care always calls for self-care first. This piece ends as it must as open-ended as the disease.
Thanks for a good read. Peace.
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A perplexing problem is discussed here.
The piece reads well. The images are poignant and clear. The feeling is of grieving, as is appropriate. The balance between nurturing and self-care always calls for self-care first. This piece ends as it must as open-ended as the disease.
Thanks for a good read. Peace.
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose
Hello Stranger Goodbye Friend
by Jesse James Doty
Oh, no.... I'm so sorry, Jesse. It must be difficult. I fear someday I may have dementia or Alzheimer's disease. I can hear the pain in your words. Good friends are hard to come by. I don't have any.
Take care,
Extra Gypsy hugs
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Hello Stranger Goodbye Friend
by Jesse James Doty
Oh, no.... I'm so sorry, Jesse. It must be difficult. I fear someday I may have dementia or Alzheimer's disease. I can hear the pain in your words. Good friends are hard to come by. I don't have any.
Take care,
Extra Gypsy hugs
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from SimianSavant
It really sucks that you can't say goodbye to him properly. One part of the brain that tends not to go is music. If you have some shared musical memories, you might be able to connect with him that way. That's the closest thing I know of to a magic pill for bypassing dementia/Alzheimer's, having had some family history with it myself. Getting old sucks. Thanks for sharing, and keep your chin up!
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It really sucks that you can't say goodbye to him properly. One part of the brain that tends not to go is music. If you have some shared musical memories, you might be able to connect with him that way. That's the closest thing I know of to a magic pill for bypassing dementia/Alzheimer's, having had some family history with it myself. Getting old sucks. Thanks for sharing, and keep your chin up!
Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
It is hard seeing a friend drift away from you and what you shared together is slowly dying but you need to be strong and not take it personally and just remember the good times you had together. We sometimes have no control over some things in life Jesse and I feel for you and your friend, take care, a sad situation all round here, love Dolly x
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It is hard seeing a friend drift away from you and what you shared together is slowly dying but you need to be strong and not take it personally and just remember the good times you had together. We sometimes have no control over some things in life Jesse and I feel for you and your friend, take care, a sad situation all round here, love Dolly x
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Comment Written 08-Apr-2022
