The tyranny of silence
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Comment from Wayne Fowler
Superbly told. Heartfelt emotions without manipulating the reader.
Children either mimic their parents because that is what they know, how they're trained, or determine to change, to 'not' raise children as they were raised, relinquishing 'their turn' to be the alpha dog in the animal kingdom.
Thank you for sharing.
God bless you.
(It's little wonder that some in Nursing Homes never get visiting family.)
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Superbly told. Heartfelt emotions without manipulating the reader.
Children either mimic their parents because that is what they know, how they're trained, or determine to change, to 'not' raise children as they were raised, relinquishing 'their turn' to be the alpha dog in the animal kingdom.
Thank you for sharing.
God bless you.
(It's little wonder that some in Nursing Homes never get visiting family.)
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you very much Wayne. Your kind and understanding words mean a lot. I greatly appreciate the honour of six stars. A precious validation of my effort.
Wendy
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
I spend my entire life with my children telling them I loved them and that they were safe with me and that I would love them forever no matter what. This was something that was missing in my own childhood as love was never mentioned whilst I was growing up and I never felt it either. Having said that, I had a warm bed to sleep in and food on the table too, but somehow something was very lacking. I think many households were like this Wendy and I bear no grudges now that I look back. Thankfully my two daughters tell their children how much they love them now so I broke the tradition for the better, a poignant write, love Dolly x
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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I spend my entire life with my children telling them I loved them and that they were safe with me and that I would love them forever no matter what. This was something that was missing in my own childhood as love was never mentioned whilst I was growing up and I never felt it either. Having said that, I had a warm bed to sleep in and food on the table too, but somehow something was very lacking. I think many households were like this Wendy and I bear no grudges now that I look back. Thankfully my two daughters tell their children how much they love them now so I broke the tradition for the better, a poignant write, love Dolly x
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Yes, I think that whole generation, and perhaps the one prior, could not say it, they didn't think it was important to say it if their kids had the evidence of it with a warm bed and food. You like me were determined that your children should know and feel love. Thank you for your lovely review.
Wendy
Comment from Tom Horonzy
Sad to hear of your tragedies. Those three words must have been stricken from that generation of male children. Rarely heard from my father.
How did you find an interest in pyrography?
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Sad to hear of your tragedies. Those three words must have been stricken from that generation of male children. Rarely heard from my father.
How did you find an interest in pyrography?
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thanks Tom for your kind review. Yes, I think it was rarely said. They weren't expressive then and many were still suffering from war traumas.
I saw a lady doing pyrography at the artisan markets one day. She was very artistic, and it was fascinating to watch.
Wendy
Comment from lyenochka
Wow, this was so well written. You poetically described this heart-breaking childhood. And yet, as you said, God was there with you and protected you from permanent damage. Instead you've become more than a conqueror. Your children have a loving mother who raised them in the love of the Lord. Thank you for sharing! Best wishes in the contest!
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Wow, this was so well written. You poetically described this heart-breaking childhood. And yet, as you said, God was there with you and protected you from permanent damage. Instead you've become more than a conqueror. Your children have a loving mother who raised them in the love of the Lord. Thank you for sharing! Best wishes in the contest!
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you very much Helen. I appreciate your kind and very encouraging words.
Wendy
Comment from juliaSjames
This is a courageous write. It's never easy to relive past traumas. It's no consolation but see what gifts you received from your stressful childhood; the gift of contrast so that you knew what was needed in the raising of your own children; the gift of empathy that has enabled you to understand the behaviour of your parents; the gift of compassion for those who suffer; the gift of walking with God who is the fount of unconditional love. All these and more.
I applaud you, beautiful soul, and hope you do well in the contest.
Stay safe and blessed
Julia
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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This is a courageous write. It's never easy to relive past traumas. It's no consolation but see what gifts you received from your stressful childhood; the gift of contrast so that you knew what was needed in the raising of your own children; the gift of empathy that has enabled you to understand the behaviour of your parents; the gift of compassion for those who suffer; the gift of walking with God who is the fount of unconditional love. All these and more.
I applaud you, beautiful soul, and hope you do well in the contest.
Stay safe and blessed
Julia
Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Thank you so much Julia. Yes, it was extremely difficult to write, and strangely, no-one in my family knows these details as I have never been able to talk about it. So although I wrote it ages ago, i decided to enter something else , but then this morning I went back to this one. I feel very exposed and vulnerable to be honest. But your beautiful words are so true. God has worked wonderfully in my life, and it is a perfect example of all things working together for good ... Thank you for the beautiful six stars. A very great honour to me, and I do greatly appreciate it.
(I hope you haven't fallen asleep reading all this!)
Many blessings to you.
Wendy
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It is almost bedtime. Many of us on this site have experienced traumatic childhoods. Including me. I believe the Holy Spirit motivated you to share your story as a lighthouse emits its beams - to uplift and encourage your readers and to set yourself free from the bondage of the past, once and for all.
Blessings, Julia
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Thank you Julia. You are right, and very wise! May it help and encourage others.
May He bless you richly. Sleep well.
Comment from LisaMay
I'm stunned and hugely saddened by your distressing childhood. You articulate it to such a vivid degree of emotional impact. I felt like one of your siblings, trembling, waiting, trying to be invisible.
Your inner core has held firm. I'm sure God has blessed you with that, and matched you with a good man to make a partnership that was lacking for your parents.
This is really well written, showing a deft touch, and using your age development to show what supportive roles were expected of you adds to the picture well.
I feel like a truck has run over me.... and so very very grateful that my own childhood was one where those three words were used often.
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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I'm stunned and hugely saddened by your distressing childhood. You articulate it to such a vivid degree of emotional impact. I felt like one of your siblings, trembling, waiting, trying to be invisible.
Your inner core has held firm. I'm sure God has blessed you with that, and matched you with a good man to make a partnership that was lacking for your parents.
This is really well written, showing a deft touch, and using your age development to show what supportive roles were expected of you adds to the picture well.
I feel like a truck has run over me.... and so very very grateful that my own childhood was one where those three words were used often.
Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Thank you so much Jenny! This is the first I have ever written of it, and I have never spoken of it before - not even to my family. All they know is that I had an unhappy childhood. So right now I feel very exposed. Perhaps I am too much like my father who kept all his war trauma bottled up! I am glad your childhood was a happy one. I know you were adopted, but that shows that you were much wanted by your parents and cherished by them. Many thanks for the beautiful six stars and exceptional rating too. It is an honour which I don't take lightly. I value it greatly.
Wendy
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Yes, I can see how such revelations would make you feel vulnerable.I hope somehow it has been cathartic.
My adoptive mum was a church-going, loving, generous woman... she died when I was 15. Dad was a community-minded atheist. I knew they loved each other and us 3 kids. (my middle brother died when i was 10). So I had a sad childhood with loss, but I knew love and they were always interested and supportive in my activities. So many children suffer psychologically through lack of love.
Comment from Carol Hillebrenner
This is really well-written story of a family disaster. You seem to have found a way to not make it your disaster. That is impressive because so often it doesn't work that way.
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reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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This is really well-written story of a family disaster. You seem to have found a way to not make it your disaster. That is impressive because so often it doesn't work that way.
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Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Thank you Carol for such an understanding review, and you are right. Greatly appreciated.
Wendy
Comment from Aubree Lorraine
I just want to give you a hug. I know all too well what you experienced. The treacherous roller coaster you find yourself on with no way of knowing if, when, or how it will end. It really does take a toll on a person. I'm glad you were able to break that cycle.
Very well written. Thank you for sharing.
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reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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I just want to give you a hug. I know all too well what you experienced. The treacherous roller coaster you find yourself on with no way of knowing if, when, or how it will end. It really does take a toll on a person. I'm glad you were able to break that cycle.
Very well written. Thank you for sharing.
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Comment Written 08-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 08-Mar-2022
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Thank you so much for your kindness and understanding. I've never written or spoken of any of this before, so I am feeling quite vulnerable. It makes me appreciate your compassionate offer of a hug all the more, and I have received it with great appreciation!
Wendy
