The tyranny of silence
Coping with ...28 total reviews
Comment from royowen
I think you and I share similar backgrounds, my parents fought incessantly, I escaped to friend's houses, where there was a feeling of "family" I can't remember being told I was loved, but I learned about life from a best friend's dad, who was my senior by several years, but became my mentor and an opening batting partner, we both loved cricket, I learnt about family, to think and nut out things, although I met Christ at 41, I realised He had been there all the time, thanks for sharing, it's not easy reliving those years, I parented my father late in life. I stayed by my mother's side in support until she died, three siblings wouldn't talk to her.
Thanks for sharing Wendy, blessings Roy
reply by the author on 10-Mar-2022
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I think you and I share similar backgrounds, my parents fought incessantly, I escaped to friend's houses, where there was a feeling of "family" I can't remember being told I was loved, but I learned about life from a best friend's dad, who was my senior by several years, but became my mentor and an opening batting partner, we both loved cricket, I learnt about family, to think and nut out things, although I met Christ at 41, I realised He had been there all the time, thanks for sharing, it's not easy reliving those years, I parented my father late in life. I stayed by my mother's side in support until she died, three siblings wouldn't talk to her.
Thanks for sharing Wendy, blessings Roy
Comment Written 10-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 10-Mar-2022
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Thank you Roy. Your review is compassionate and understanding, and I appreciate it a lot.
Wendy
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My pleasure, you're no alone
Comment from Begin Again
My beautiful soul-sister.....
I am so proud of you for taking the giant leap to open up your mind and heart and lay it out for all to see. Unless someone has been down the same path, they can not understand what a struggle it is to put your "family life and love" down for all to see. You were truly brave and I hope in some way it "cleaned" house for you. I am thrilled you found your husband and all the love that you both provided each other and the family. I am still working on that part of it. I had Mike's love, but alone it always feels like my ship is leaking.
Smiles and hugs, CArol
reply by the author on 10-Mar-2022
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My beautiful soul-sister.....
I am so proud of you for taking the giant leap to open up your mind and heart and lay it out for all to see. Unless someone has been down the same path, they can not understand what a struggle it is to put your "family life and love" down for all to see. You were truly brave and I hope in some way it "cleaned" house for you. I am thrilled you found your husband and all the love that you both provided each other and the family. I am still working on that part of it. I had Mike's love, but alone it always feels like my ship is leaking.
Smiles and hugs, CArol
Comment Written 10-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 10-Mar-2022
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Thank you Carol. Yes, that?s the first time I have ever spoken of any details, even my family don?t know. So yes, I do feel very exposed. But you have done it, and so have a couple of others and you do understand how hard it is to do. That?s perhaps why I identify with you feeling very alone with no support, despite different circumstances and ages and stages of life. Bless you for such an encouraging review.
Wendy
Comment from Janetsue
Your story is a heartfelt one of conquering difficulties and emotional pain through connecting to God and the love He has, and always will have, for you. Forgiveness of others, especially when it is parents, is a crucial factor in learning to accept and love ourselves. Smiles and hugs!
reply by the author on 10-Mar-2022
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Your story is a heartfelt one of conquering difficulties and emotional pain through connecting to God and the love He has, and always will have, for you. Forgiveness of others, especially when it is parents, is a crucial factor in learning to accept and love ourselves. Smiles and hugs!
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 10-Mar-2022
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Thank you Spangle. Your thoughtful and wise words are very encouraging.
Wendy
Comment from Theodore McDowell
Fantastic, Wendy. Authentic, gut-wrenching truths are spoken in this post with unflenching honesty. I love the note below the passage. So well done. the depth of your recent writing is impressive.
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Fantastic, Wendy. Authentic, gut-wrenching truths are spoken in this post with unflenching honesty. I love the note below the passage. So well done. the depth of your recent writing is impressive.
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you very much for your understanding review, and kind and encouraging words. I appreciate the honour of the Exceptional rating and six stars as well.
Wendy
Comment from Anne Johnston
Wendy, thank you for opening your heart and writing this story of your unhappy childhood. I am glad that you found the Lord while still young, and had His love to keep you. I know life did not seem fair to you, but what you experienced has made you the strong person you are today. May the Lord continue to give you peace.
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Wendy, thank you for opening your heart and writing this story of your unhappy childhood. I am glad that you found the Lord while still young, and had His love to keep you. I know life did not seem fair to you, but what you experienced has made you the strong person you are today. May the Lord continue to give you peace.
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you so much Anne. Your beautiful, thoughtful, caring words are a great encouragement. It was not easy to think about it again, and write about it. Yes, He has sustained me for many years, and I thank Him for that.
Wendy
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You are welcome, Wendy. Sometimes writing things down brings peace.
Comment from Teri7
Wendy, This is a very well written true story you have penned for the contest. This had to be hard for you to write my friend. I was abused by my father as a child for quite a while. I was taken to Sunday school too. I am thankful for that. My Mother took us and we enjoyed our time in Sunday school. The Good Lord had to be protecting me, my sister and two brothers, other wise we would not be here today. May God bless you my friend. love, teri
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Wendy, This is a very well written true story you have penned for the contest. This had to be hard for you to write my friend. I was abused by my father as a child for quite a while. I was taken to Sunday school too. I am thankful for that. My Mother took us and we enjoyed our time in Sunday school. The Good Lord had to be protecting me, my sister and two brothers, other wise we would not be here today. May God bless you my friend. love, teri
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you for your understanding. Yes, I think God has a special place for hurting and vulnerable children, and draws them to Himself.
I appreciate your caring and understanding review.
Wendy
Comment from barbara.wilkey
Thank you for sharing this emotional contest entry with us. I have a feeling more people than you care to think about probably grew up in homes like that. I did, but only part. My father was extremely loud, not violent but loud and wasn't afraid to share his opinion, which was always the only opinion allowed. He did tell us often how much he loved us, so that wasn't lacking in our lives. Although, my mother, never questioned him. Hmm, Anyway, I enjoyed reading and good luck.
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you for sharing this emotional contest entry with us. I have a feeling more people than you care to think about probably grew up in homes like that. I did, but only part. My father was extremely loud, not violent but loud and wasn't afraid to share his opinion, which was always the only opinion allowed. He did tell us often how much he loved us, so that wasn't lacking in our lives. Although, my mother, never questioned him. Hmm, Anyway, I enjoyed reading and good luck.
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you Barbara. I always appreciate your thoughtful and understanding reviews and comments, and also your good wishes.
Wendy
Comment from Paul McFarland
That's quite a story, Wendy. Thank God you escaped the physical abuse. You did say that He was with you. A well written documentary of your young life. I'll bet that writing on this site is therapeutic.
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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That's quite a story, Wendy. Thank God you escaped the physical abuse. You did say that He was with you. A well written documentary of your young life. I'll bet that writing on this site is therapeutic.
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you very much for your kind and understanding review, Paul. That's the first time I have talked about my childhood (and it will probably be my only time) - very difficult for me to think about it or write about it. Even my family don't know the details of my unhappy childhood. Not sure about therapeutic yet. But I enjoy writing about other stuff. Many thanks.
Wendy
Comment from nomi338
So few parents realize or recognize that psychological damage can be even more damaging that physical. A physical beating that painful at first can be overcome, but damages done to the mind and the heart are much harder to heal. Unless treated they can cause long lasting and deadly complications. Thank God you were able to heal and to have a life where you did not cause the same damages that harmed you as a child.
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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So few parents realize or recognize that psychological damage can be even more damaging that physical. A physical beating that painful at first can be overcome, but damages done to the mind and the heart are much harder to heal. Unless treated they can cause long lasting and deadly complications. Thank God you were able to heal and to have a life where you did not cause the same damages that harmed you as a child.
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Thank you so much for your kind words and very understanding review. I appreciate it a great deal.
Wendy
Comment from Jeff Watkins
Wendy, you are an excellent writer, partly or mostly because your childhood experiences have compelled you to write--or so I believe. I have rated this narrative with five stars rather than six because your story needs to be told in more detail and in a series of narratives. Still, this is a memorable narrative. I suggest you mine your experiences in creative ways, perhaps in fiction or poetry, if you wish to fulfill your potential. Jeff Oops, I just noticed you write poetry. Good on you.
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Wendy, you are an excellent writer, partly or mostly because your childhood experiences have compelled you to write--or so I believe. I have rated this narrative with five stars rather than six because your story needs to be told in more detail and in a series of narratives. Still, this is a memorable narrative. I suggest you mine your experiences in creative ways, perhaps in fiction or poetry, if you wish to fulfill your potential. Jeff Oops, I just noticed you write poetry. Good on you.
Comment Written 09-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 09-Mar-2022
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Jeff, thank you so much, even for thinking of a six. This is the first time I have ever expressed all this. Even my family don't know any details, just that my childhood was unhappy. I do write poetry, and also prose, but I don't believe I will expand on these things in more detail. I found it very difficult to write even this much, as I have blocked it all out for all my life, and it's too hard to relive it. And life is so much better now anyway. Sometimes the past creeps back in, but it is so negative that it's soul-destroying. Better to move on, and focus on the positive. Many thanks for your thoughtful review, and for your encouragement.
Wendy
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You are most welcome. Jeff
