Independence
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Comment from royowen
There's no such thing as independence, we can't say we don't depend on others for something, even a so called, self reliant recluse will need other's expertise in something, we can't exist in a vacuum, beautifully written Jesse, blessings Roy
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There's no such thing as independence, we can't say we don't depend on others for something, even a so called, self reliant recluse will need other's expertise in something, we can't exist in a vacuum, beautifully written Jesse, blessings Roy
Comment Written 22-Jan-2022
Comment from Ulla
Oh, Jesse, I'm so sorry. You don't sound too happy in this short piece. I'm so sorry you feel lonely. I now live on my own after two long marriages and I'm so happy within myself. I ended up being lonely in my last marriage and got my happiness back when I finally left four years ago.
But this doesn't help you, I know.So are you constantly home bound? As I read it it sounds like it.
As I get older, I often ask myself, what will happen if I get ill. Who will look after me? But you know, I've made the choice and I will take the consequences. I live far away from all my family. Thousands of miles in fact, but we are close. I'm active and travel when it's possible again. and I'm happy within myself. I have a positive outlook. We all have to die one day, but let me deal with that when it crops up. Flippant? Maybe. But life's too short to live in constant worry. Ulla:)))
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Oh, Jesse, I'm so sorry. You don't sound too happy in this short piece. I'm so sorry you feel lonely. I now live on my own after two long marriages and I'm so happy within myself. I ended up being lonely in my last marriage and got my happiness back when I finally left four years ago.
But this doesn't help you, I know.So are you constantly home bound? As I read it it sounds like it.
As I get older, I often ask myself, what will happen if I get ill. Who will look after me? But you know, I've made the choice and I will take the consequences. I live far away from all my family. Thousands of miles in fact, but we are close. I'm active and travel when it's possible again. and I'm happy within myself. I have a positive outlook. We all have to die one day, but let me deal with that when it crops up. Flippant? Maybe. But life's too short to live in constant worry. Ulla:)))
Comment Written 22-Jan-2022
Comment from Theodore McDowell
Great honest and transparent post. Caregivers don't fill that void. How do you grow within the loneliness? This is a very introspective poem and it asks questions without many answers except to take one day at a time, make right choices, and move forward step by step. Well done, my friend.
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Great honest and transparent post. Caregivers don't fill that void. How do you grow within the loneliness? This is a very introspective poem and it asks questions without many answers except to take one day at a time, make right choices, and move forward step by step. Well done, my friend.
Comment Written 22-Jan-2022
Comment from karenina
Hi Jesse. While I am taking a break, I still come on-site to read some of my favorites, and this caught my eye. I can feel your conflict here... Just want to say in my opinion none of us are ever truly alone. John Donne said: "No man is an island, Entire of itself; Every man is a piece of the continent, A part of the main..." I'd encourage you to go back and read it in its entirety. You make my life more meaningful by interacting here on site both in hour posts and in PMs on occasion. We are all caregivers of one another's souls if you think of it in the broad analysis. I am certain, after thirty-five years as an RN, that I received as much from each and every person I ever attended as I gave. Not one of us gets through this life without the help of another... It says much about your kindness and integrity that you ponder these things. A profound write and a question, I think, we all ask!--Karenina
reply by the author on 22-Jan-2022
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Hi Jesse. While I am taking a break, I still come on-site to read some of my favorites, and this caught my eye. I can feel your conflict here... Just want to say in my opinion none of us are ever truly alone. John Donne said: "No man is an island, Entire of itself; Every man is a piece of the continent, A part of the main..." I'd encourage you to go back and read it in its entirety. You make my life more meaningful by interacting here on site both in hour posts and in PMs on occasion. We are all caregivers of one another's souls if you think of it in the broad analysis. I am certain, after thirty-five years as an RN, that I received as much from each and every person I ever attended as I gave. Not one of us gets through this life without the help of another... It says much about your kindness and integrity that you ponder these things. A profound write and a question, I think, we all ask!--Karenina
Comment Written 22-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 22-Jan-2022
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Thank you, Karenina, for this wonderful reminder of the strength and commitment we share with each other and with plenty of other people as well. John Donne was a fantastic writer when he wrote that no man is an island... I need to read his work again real soon. As a caregiver yourself for all those years you understand the feelings of loneliness that plague us all when we care for others and not enough for ourselves. I need to learn to self-nurture my inner being and I need to learn this really soon. This is self-improvement but I also like to encourage others to ponder the same things I do. Things we all ask of ourselves.
Take good care of yourself, Karenina!
Jesse
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You too Jesse! You are very special, indeed!
Comment from lyenochka
I like your reflection on independence. I never really thought about the loneliness of independence but you're right. There are many people who are just on their own. But you hit on a key thing about the "give and take" and I know because you care about your caregivers that you are "giving" to them. Over time, I think the kind of giving we can give changes. Sometimes it's just our listening, caring, praying for others that can be the kind of giving that is treasured most.
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I like your reflection on independence. I never really thought about the loneliness of independence but you're right. There are many people who are just on their own. But you hit on a key thing about the "give and take" and I know because you care about your caregivers that you are "giving" to them. Over time, I think the kind of giving we can give changes. Sometimes it's just our listening, caring, praying for others that can be the kind of giving that is treasured most.
Comment Written 22-Jan-2022
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
That's all any of us can do, Jesse. Everyday someone is left alone. It's not often a married couple go together, normally one will be left alone. I think about that a lot. I'm not much younger than my mother was when she died. Will I go before my husband, or will he go first. One of us will be left alone. This was quite a story. Independence isn't all it's cracked up to be. I hope you're not alone. :) Sandra
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That's all any of us can do, Jesse. Everyday someone is left alone. It's not often a married couple go together, normally one will be left alone. I think about that a lot. I'm not much younger than my mother was when she died. Will I go before my husband, or will he go first. One of us will be left alone. This was quite a story. Independence isn't all it's cracked up to be. I hope you're not alone. :) Sandra
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Comment Written 22-Jan-2022
Comment from barbara.wilkey
You've asked and presented some questions that all of us need to address at some point. Dad died six years ago. Mom is on a 120 acre farm out in the middle of absolutely nowhere. One of my son's and his family live maybe 100 yards from her house. Dad sold him 5 acres for $5.00 years ago. They attempt to help Mom with cleaning and stuff, but she chases them off, telling them she needs to do it herself to stay active. Mom will be 90 years old in a few weeks. I'm going to Missouri for her birthday. Good luck making your decision. I will pray for you.
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You've asked and presented some questions that all of us need to address at some point. Dad died six years ago. Mom is on a 120 acre farm out in the middle of absolutely nowhere. One of my son's and his family live maybe 100 yards from her house. Dad sold him 5 acres for $5.00 years ago. They attempt to help Mom with cleaning and stuff, but she chases them off, telling them she needs to do it herself to stay active. Mom will be 90 years old in a few weeks. I'm going to Missouri for her birthday. Good luck making your decision. I will pray for you.
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Comment Written 22-Jan-2022
