In Sympathy for a Friend
A Most Unhappy Mother's Day16 total reviews
Comment from muffinmama
How sad! I keep thinking that half the abuse that goes on wouldn't if parents died broke and children knew that there would be nothing to inherit, so they might be nice to their parents and siblings.
I hate situations where you know bad stuff is happening but you're helpless to do anything about it.
But if your friend reported the situation, then wouldn't the authorities be on the lookout?
Praying hard.
reply by the author on 17-May-2021
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How sad! I keep thinking that half the abuse that goes on wouldn't if parents died broke and children knew that there would be nothing to inherit, so they might be nice to their parents and siblings.
I hate situations where you know bad stuff is happening but you're helpless to do anything about it.
But if your friend reported the situation, then wouldn't the authorities be on the lookout?
Praying hard.
Comment Written 14-May-2021
reply by the author on 17-May-2021
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I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers (at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage; e.g. Judi) in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Alas, given her age, they probably wouldn't be suspicions of murder.
Comment from robyn corum
Liz,
What a horribly frightful situation. And to think that there are so many who are willing to put up with this kind of treatment and much more is appalling and horrifying. Thanks - my prayers? You gots 'em!
reply by the author on 12-May-2021
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Liz,
What a horribly frightful situation. And to think that there are so many who are willing to put up with this kind of treatment and much more is appalling and horrifying. Thanks - my prayers? You gots 'em!
Comment Written 11-May-2021
reply by the author on 12-May-2021
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Thank you!
I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers (at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage; e.g. Judi) in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Comment from Iza Deleanu
I must admit I never heard this expression before - "in behalf of." - but now reading the story it makes sense. I hope your friend will manage to keep away Susan-the-Terrible. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings.
reply by the author on 12-May-2021
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I must admit I never heard this expression before - "in behalf of." - but now reading the story it makes sense. I hope your friend will manage to keep away Susan-the-Terrible. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings.
Comment Written 11-May-2021
reply by the author on 12-May-2021
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Thank you!
I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers (at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage; e.g. Judi) in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Comment from Robert Zimmerman
Hello Liz.
I have to agree with your first assessment of "in behalf" and "on behalf." I certainly agree with your definitions. The rest of the story is a little troubling. It seems like a tragic situation for an elderly mother to have to deal with.
Robert
reply by the author on 11-May-2021
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Hello Liz.
I have to agree with your first assessment of "in behalf" and "on behalf." I certainly agree with your definitions. The rest of the story is a little troubling. It seems like a tragic situation for an elderly mother to have to deal with.
Robert
Comment Written 10-May-2021
reply by the author on 11-May-2021
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Thank you!
I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers (at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage; e.g. Judi) in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Comment from judiverse
I don't know. I think I'd have trouble making a distinction between the two. At age 96, the mother may not have the capacity between in and on. In any event, it sounds like she is in a bad situation with Susan on hand. It probably wouldn't do any good for protective services to intervene is She doesn't see what Susan's doing. Maybe it would be best just to state the facts and avoid the in or on behalf of bit. judi
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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I don't know. I think I'd have trouble making a distinction between the two. At age 96, the mother may not have the capacity between in and on. In any event, it sounds like she is in a bad situation with Susan on hand. It probably wouldn't do any good for protective services to intervene is She doesn't see what Susan's doing. Maybe it would be best just to state the facts and avoid the in or on behalf of bit. judi
Comment Written 10-May-2021
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers (at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage) in order to enhance the shock factor. Thanks for bearing with me.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Comment from Jay Squires
The content aside, which is serious and well presented, your article was stunning, or as you are wont to say ssssssstunning. To lead with the intricacy of meaning between in and on when connected to behalf would be interesting in itself, and worthy of fine-tuning one's understanding. But to use it as a springboard to enable you to dive deeply into an example where the misuse of one of those words could cause disastrous effects is the difference (as I believe Mark Twain said) between a fire and a firefly. Brilliantly written, Liz. I'm glad I saved one of these for you!
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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The content aside, which is serious and well presented, your article was stunning, or as you are wont to say ssssssstunning. To lead with the intricacy of meaning between in and on when connected to behalf would be interesting in itself, and worthy of fine-tuning one's understanding. But to use it as a springboard to enable you to dive deeply into an example where the misuse of one of those words could cause disastrous effects is the difference (as I believe Mark Twain said) between a fire and a firefly. Brilliantly written, Liz. I'm glad I saved one of these for you!
Comment Written 10-May-2021
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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Delightful ssssssurprise!
So pleased that my deceptive hook worked for you!
I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers, at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage (see review above), in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Comment from karenina
I was engaged in the explanation of the different ways both phrases are used...and their ensuing implications. That was engaging! Then, in typical E.E. fashion... You brought it home with a truly horrific example and real life scenario. SO often the one who rings the alarm is ostracized! Heartbreaking... Kind of a Stockholm Syndrome for this 95 year old.
Prayers are forthcoming! In behalf of Debbie!--Karenina
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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I was engaged in the explanation of the different ways both phrases are used...and their ensuing implications. That was engaging! Then, in typical E.E. fashion... You brought it home with a truly horrific example and real life scenario. SO often the one who rings the alarm is ostracized! Heartbreaking... Kind of a Stockholm Syndrome for this 95 year old.
Prayers are forthcoming! In behalf of Debbie!--Karenina
Comment Written 10-May-2021
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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So pleased that my deceptive hook worked for you!
I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers, at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage (e.g. per Judi's review above), in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Comment from Judy Lawless
Such a sad, sad story. I'd say Elder Abuse. It's a shame that Mom has continued to spoil her daughter. Prayers going out to them.
One thing: "It is both in and on Debbie('s) behalf"
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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Such a sad, sad story. I'd say Elder Abuse. It's a shame that Mom has continued to spoil her daughter. Prayers going out to them.
One thing: "It is both in and on Debbie('s) behalf"
Comment Written 10-May-2021
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers (at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage) in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Comment from Raffaelina Lowcock
This is a very disturbing piece of information. The thought that someone is trusted who may have malevolent intentions is very scary. Debbie must be very frustrated with the situation. Our prayers are with her.
Ralf
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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This is a very disturbing piece of information. The thought that someone is trusted who may have malevolent intentions is very scary. Debbie must be very frustrated with the situation. Our prayers are with her.
Ralf
Comment Written 10-May-2021
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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Thank you!
I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers (at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage) in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
Comment from royowen
How incredibly interesting! Yes indeed, the only way one can pray on behalf of someone is if the ask you to, not because you think they need, but then again...? Well done, Liz, thanks for sharing, Roy
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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How incredibly interesting! Yes indeed, the only way one can pray on behalf of someone is if the ask you to, not because you think they need, but then again...? Well done, Liz, thanks for sharing, Roy
Comment Written 10-May-2021
reply by the author on 10-May-2021
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So pleased that my deceptive hook worked for you!
I began with the "nit-picky" bit as a device to lull the readers, at risk of boring those not interested in finer points of usage (e.g. per Judi's review above), in order to enhance the shock factor.
Debbie consulted a lawyer to see if she has any recourse; she'd have to petition the court for "custody"--unlikely, she lives out of state.
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Fantastic