Private Memorial Service
The day after: widow and I reminisce19 total reviews
Comment from Iza Deleanu
I guess her friend is on her duty of being a good Christian and forgive the bad things and remember only the good moments. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings.
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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I guess her friend is on her duty of being a good Christian and forgive the bad things and remember only the good moments. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings.
Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Rick was never physically abusive, and Gale knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--her first husband was cold to her and cheated--she was happy that Rick, on the other hand, wanted her and she wanted a companion--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him his childish tantrums. Her friends we appalled that she married him, but she had no regrets. She's a committed Christian and vowed never to leave him.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers. LIZ
Comment from Robert Zimmerman
You did a great job of narrating this story. It describes all of the details of how things are these days in America, particularly when someone has a funeral. I hope your relationship with Gale works to mutual benefit.
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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You did a great job of narrating this story. It describes all of the details of how things are these days in America, particularly when someone has a funeral. I hope your relationship with Gale works to mutual benefit.
Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Rick was never physically abusive, and Gale knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--her first husband was cold to her and cheated--she was happy that Rick, on the other hand, wanted her and she wanted a companion--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him his childish tantrums. Her friends we appalled that she married him, but she had no regrets. She's a committed Christian and vowed never to leave him.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers. LIZ
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You're welcome
Comment from Begin Again
Good Morning, Liz - First and foremost, you extended yourself as a friend to help her cope with the loss, not because of any emotional baggage you had toward (D)Rick..LOL That was a very kind and thoughtful move on your part. Secondly, love is blind and especially at emotional times, we tend to forget or sweep under the rug the difficult stuff... she may see it at a later time. Regardless, you were and are a good friend. Smiles, Carol
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Good Morning, Liz - First and foremost, you extended yourself as a friend to help her cope with the loss, not because of any emotional baggage you had toward (D)Rick..LOL That was a very kind and thoughtful move on your part. Secondly, love is blind and especially at emotional times, we tend to forget or sweep under the rug the difficult stuff... she may see it at a later time. Regardless, you were and are a good friend. Smiles, Carol
Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Rick was never physically abusive, and Gale knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--her first husband was cold to her and cheated--she was happy that Rick, on the other hand, wanted her and she wanted a companion--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him his childish tantrums. Her friends we appalled that she married him, but she had no regrets. She's a committed Christian and vowed never to leave him.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers. LIZ
Comment from BethShelby
It is interesting how differently some people view the same situation. I guess love is blind. Everyone has shortcoming that some people seem to tolerate better than others. Don't beat yourself up to much over your view of Rick with a capital D. I sure she was touched by your tears.
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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It is interesting how differently some people view the same situation. I guess love is blind. Everyone has shortcoming that some people seem to tolerate better than others. Don't beat yourself up to much over your view of Rick with a capital D. I sure she was touched by your tears.
Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Rick was never physically abusive, and Gale knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--her first husband was cold to her and cheated--she was happy that Rick, on the other hand, wanted her and she wanted a companion--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him his childish tantrums. Her friends we appalled that she married him, but she had no regrets. She's a committed Christian and vowed never to leave him.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers. LIZ
Comment from Seshadri_Sreenivasan
I think the only way to find peace with oneself is to forgive and forget people who were not-so-nice to us. That will convince us that there is little good left in the world. Even in little ways, you can make a tremendous impact in lives of your friend. I read with interest your feelings and felt sorry for your friend. God bless her !
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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I think the only way to find peace with oneself is to forgive and forget people who were not-so-nice to us. That will convince us that there is little good left in the world. Even in little ways, you can make a tremendous impact in lives of your friend. I read with interest your feelings and felt sorry for your friend. God bless her !
Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Rick was never physically abusive, and Gale knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--her first husband was cold to her and cheated--she was happy that Rick, on the other hand, wanted her and she wanted a companion--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him his childish tantrums. Her friends we appalled that she married him, but she had no regrets. She's a committed Christian and vowed never to leave him.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers. LIZ
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Rick was never physically abusive, and Gale knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--her first husband was cold to her and cheated--she was happy that Rick, on the other hand, wanted her and she wanted a companion--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him his childish tantrums. Her friends we appalled that she married him, but she had no regrets. She's a committed Christian and vowed never to leave him.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers. LIZ
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I feel sorry for Gale. I hope and pray that she finds peace and happiness in life.
Comment from royowen
Yes, sometimes I marvel at my own lack of compassion sometimes, but compassion doesn't have to be based on feelings, it was obvious that Jesus abhorred the cross, but He went there anyway, why? Out of love, beautifully written, remorse is something, well done, blessings Roy
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Yes, sometimes I marvel at my own lack of compassion sometimes, but compassion doesn't have to be based on feelings, it was obvious that Jesus abhorred the cross, but He went there anyway, why? Out of love, beautifully written, remorse is something, well done, blessings Roy
Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Rick was never physically abusive, and Gale knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--her first husband was cold to her and cheated--she was happy that Rick, on the other hand, wanted her and she wanted a companion--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him his childish tantrums. Her friends we appalled that she married him, but she had no regrets. She's a committed Christian and vowed never to leave him.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers. LIZ
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Yes indeed, a covenant is a near unbreakable contract,
Comment from karenina
It's just never black and white with exes, is it? I mean once there was love between you...
I detest my first husband.
I hate that he forgot he had children when we divorced.
I hate they refer to him ad "the sperm donor"
But I love that out of all that turmoil and pain we loved each other long enough to make two wonderful children.
Sometimes I am so sad he left when they were such young kids and missed all of their lives...
Mostly though? I think he never deserved them.
Karenina
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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It's just never black and white with exes, is it? I mean once there was love between you...
I detest my first husband.
I hate that he forgot he had children when we divorced.
I hate they refer to him ad "the sperm donor"
But I love that out of all that turmoil and pain we loved each other long enough to make two wonderful children.
Sometimes I am so sad he left when they were such young kids and missed all of their lives...
Mostly though? I think he never deserved them.
Karenina
Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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Heartbreaking. Ditto re having wonderful children. I never loved my husband--he begged me to marry him at a time I had nobody else to turn to for emotional support.
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I didn't think at the time I deserved love... Turns out neither one of us really knew what love was...
I just figured after a couple of years it wasn't being beaten.
Karenina
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Rick was never physically abusive, and Gale knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--her first husband was cold to her and cheated--she was happy that Rick, on the other hand, wanted her and she wanted a companion--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him his childish tantrums. Her friends we appalled that she married him, but she had no regrets. She's a committed Christian and vowed never to leave him.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Cheers. LIZ
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Yes. My grandmother's priest told her all men either cheat on their wives or beat on their wives...and as she'd taken Catholic vows she was obligated to Jesus to stay married.
Then he chased her down the street with a meat cleaver....
She never did divorce him.
Bit the next day her three older brothers packed up her and her six children and moved her four states away...
He had a wife....
Just never could quite hone in on her location.
Late 1930's version of "Women's Advocacy!"
Karenina
Comment from Alcreator Litt Dear
This Biographical Non-Fiction or Essay speaks your experience at a private memorial service your friend Gale conducted for her husband, on a special day of your remorseness gone; well said, well done; thanks for sharing this. ALCREATOR
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This Biographical Non-Fiction or Essay speaks your experience at a private memorial service your friend Gale conducted for her husband, on a special day of your remorseness gone; well said, well done; thanks for sharing this. ALCREATOR
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Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
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Thank you!
Comment from Katherine M. (k-11)
Dealing with familial abuse is intolerable when the two partners involved are young and healthy. There always seems to be a built-in forgivness factor on the part of the woman. I can't begin to imagine what she goes through once the partner dies, and she can no longer express her feelings. Even worse perhaps must be if the female partner dies. How will the abuser deal with the disappearance of his whipping boy?
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Dealing with familial abuse is intolerable when the two partners involved are young and healthy. There always seems to be a built-in forgivness factor on the part of the woman. I can't begin to imagine what she goes through once the partner dies, and she can no longer express her feelings. Even worse perhaps must be if the female partner dies. How will the abuser deal with the disappearance of his whipping boy?
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Comment Written 19-Apr-2021
reply by the author on 19-Apr-2021
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He was never physically abusive--she knew what she was getting into--she was 48 when they married--he's 8 years older--she always forgave him.
