Unhappy Holidays Acknowledged
When to refrain from Christmas cheer16 total reviews
Comment from muffinmama
You nailed it. People in despair/grief/mourning do not want to hear platitudes, clichés, etc. They just want their feelings to be acknowledged. They want to be understood, not told that everything will be OK.
Excellent advice.
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2021
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You nailed it. People in despair/grief/mourning do not want to hear platitudes, clichés, etc. They just want their feelings to be acknowledged. They want to be understood, not told that everything will be OK.
Excellent advice.
Comment Written 28-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2021
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Thanks!
Comment from Father Flaps
Hi Liz,
It's hard to know what to say to someone who is grieving. The best thing is to just be there, letting them know they are not alone ... that someone cares about them.
"At times like these, ho-ho-ho ain't the way to go (else you'll get the big heave-ho)."
Nicely penned!
Hugs,
Kimbob
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2021
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Hi Liz,
It's hard to know what to say to someone who is grieving. The best thing is to just be there, letting them know they are not alone ... that someone cares about them.
"At times like these, ho-ho-ho ain't the way to go (else you'll get the big heave-ho)."
Nicely penned!
Hugs,
Kimbob
Comment Written 28-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 01-Mar-2021
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Thanks again--always a pleasure.
Comment from DonandVicki
Sometimes people just need the truth and not a sugarcoated Christmas cookie. I know how it feels , I'm sure I told you that my wife's dear sister died of an overdose on Easter years ago. The Easter bunny really sucks.
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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Sometimes people just need the truth and not a sugarcoated Christmas cookie. I know how it feels , I'm sure I told you that my wife's dear sister died of an overdose on Easter years ago. The Easter bunny really sucks.
Comment Written 26-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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He sucks eggs.
(Santa sucks his .... ?)
Comment from karenina
Smart move Liz! IN times of grief that last thing people need is false bravado and a mask of cheer. I'm sure she appreciated that you remembered her AND took her awful situation to heart when still acknowledging you were thinking of her at Christmas. My motto has always been if you can't be "real" when dealing with someone's loss--just a hug works so much better than empty platitudes...
Karenina
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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Smart move Liz! IN times of grief that last thing people need is false bravado and a mask of cheer. I'm sure she appreciated that you remembered her AND took her awful situation to heart when still acknowledging you were thinking of her at Christmas. My motto has always been if you can't be "real" when dealing with someone's loss--just a hug works so much better than empty platitudes...
Karenina
Comment Written 26-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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So true! A shame it's so hard to keep from insipid spewing. Thanks for stopping by. Cheers. LIZ
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I KNOW. As an RN I was at the bedside of many who breather their last... and attended many of their funerals. IN the middle of a wild raging storm of grief nobody wants to really hear "yeah, but remember the sun will shine again...someday." --K
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... in the meantime: sunshine SUCKS!
Comment from Robert Zimmerman
I think we often underestimate little things we do because we always want to do big things. I would feel honored if someone told me that I sent them the only card they didn't throw away. Whatever you did was what she needed to have done. That's a great accomplishment.
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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I think we often underestimate little things we do because we always want to do big things. I would feel honored if someone told me that I sent them the only card they didn't throw away. Whatever you did was what she needed to have done. That's a great accomplishment.
Comment Written 25-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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I'm glad it worked for her! Cheers. LIZ
Comment from Dick Waters
When we read posts like yours, it reminds us of our good fortune. Health is the best place to start.
It is too bad that people aren't more sensitive, but some might not have known about his passing.
Thanks for sharing.
Best regards and be safe.
Dick
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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When we read posts like yours, it reminds us of our good fortune. Health is the best place to start.
It is too bad that people aren't more sensitive, but some might not have known about his passing.
Thanks for sharing.
Best regards and be safe.
Dick
Comment Written 25-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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A shame it's so hard to keep from insipid spewing. Thanks for stopping by. Cheers. LIZ
Comment from Raffaelina Lowcock
Such a tragic story. The thought that she was thanking you for a card you sent two years ago, must tell you it meant a great deal to her. You instinctively knew what to say.
:)Ralf
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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Such a tragic story. The thought that she was thanking you for a card you sent two years ago, must tell you it meant a great deal to her. You instinctively knew what to say.
:)Ralf
Comment Written 25-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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A shame it's so hard to keep from insipid spewing. Thanks for stopping by. Cheers. LIZ
Comment from kmoss
Such a thoughtful gesture. I think some people do the opposite, distance theirselves from such a situation. If the ignore it, it didn't happen. Those poor kids and poor woman. It's good knowing you touched someone's life.
PS-Iâ??m a Scrooge by nature. The only Christmas card I have mailed in the past ten years was to a sick child that was trying for the record number of cards.
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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Such a thoughtful gesture. I think some people do the opposite, distance theirselves from such a situation. If the ignore it, it didn't happen. Those poor kids and poor woman. It's good knowing you touched someone's life.
PS-Iâ??m a Scrooge by nature. The only Christmas card I have mailed in the past ten years was to a sick child that was trying for the record number of cards.
Comment Written 25-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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A shame it's so hard to keep from insipid spewing. Thanks for stopping by. Cheers. LIZ
Comment from Ric Myworld
This is one of those stories that sticks me the eye with an icepick. And only you can turn the sadness into chuckles with a heave ho. This should have been a Monday post when I had some ammunition. Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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This is one of those stories that sticks me the eye with an icepick. And only you can turn the sadness into chuckles with a heave ho. This should have been a Monday post when I had some ammunition. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 25-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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A shame it's so hard to keep from insipid spewing. Thanks for stopping by. Cheers. LIZ
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Not yours--I mean, the spewing of platitudes as regards expressions of sympathy!
Comment from Judy Lawless
Good morning, Liz. You've once again given us something to think about, and sounds like your solution to how to help someone through grief was perfect. It's always so difficult to know what to do in these situations, doubting that anything we say or do will be of any help, but may hinder.
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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Good morning, Liz. You've once again given us something to think about, and sounds like your solution to how to help someone through grief was perfect. It's always so difficult to know what to do in these situations, doubting that anything we say or do will be of any help, but may hinder.
Comment Written 25-Feb-2021
reply by the author on 27-Feb-2021
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A shame it's so hard to keep from insipid spewing. Thanks for stopping by. Cheers. LIZ
