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The Loss Of My Sons42 total reviews
Comment from Wendyanne
What a very sad piece of biographical writing this is!! I have no grandchildren and certainly don't expect to have any in the future but I do still have may two sons and I can't imagine life without them! My heart goes out to you. It sounds as if you have managed to cope with your grief
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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What a very sad piece of biographical writing this is!! I have no grandchildren and certainly don't expect to have any in the future but I do still have may two sons and I can't imagine life without them! My heart goes out to you. It sounds as if you have managed to cope with your grief
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you. Yes, the grief plagued me for a long time; I even thought it might kill me at times. I learned to release my past in recent years, and it has helped immensely. It never goes away, it just got easier to bear.
Comment from Terry Broxson
As usual, your story is well-written. I know us to be about the same age. Both widowed. My wife and never had kids, so I do not and can not know the pain of losing three the way you did.
But I do understand the concept of "What could have been."
Thank you for entering the contest. Good Job. Terry.
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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As usual, your story is well-written. I know us to be about the same age. Both widowed. My wife and never had kids, so I do not and can not know the pain of losing three the way you did.
But I do understand the concept of "What could have been."
Thank you for entering the contest. Good Job. Terry.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I can't say it was easy, but I learned some releasing methods that really helped. There were times I thought the grief might kill me, but I survived.
Comment from Dawn Munro
Oh, I am so very sorry for your loss -- I am also childless, having lost my only son to Sudden Infant Death when I was not much more than a child myself.
Your story is well-written, despite being very difficult to write I think -- kudos. I do have one other thing to add to my comments though, and that is my belief -- I am quite sure you WILL see your boys again. (A question mark is needed for "Who knows(?)"
Best of luck in the contest.
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Oh, I am so very sorry for your loss -- I am also childless, having lost my only son to Sudden Infant Death when I was not much more than a child myself.
Your story is well-written, despite being very difficult to write I think -- kudos. I do have one other thing to add to my comments though, and that is my belief -- I am quite sure you WILL see your boys again. (A question mark is needed for "Who knows(?)"
Best of luck in the contest.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you, and thanks for the tip. I debated on the question mark because, in theory, it is not a direct question. I will have to think about it again.
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You're very welcome.
Comment from JSD
Heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time. Thoughts go to you. I have my gorgeous daughter, who is 5, but I can't see her, and haven't for eighteen months now. I feel your pain. Thank you for sharing this. Much love. x
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time. Thoughts go to you. I have my gorgeous daughter, who is 5, but I can't see her, and haven't for eighteen months now. I feel your pain. Thank you for sharing this. Much love. x
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I'm sorry to hear you are separated from your daughter. I hope this issue can be resolved so you get to see her again. I feel your pain, too.
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Thank you. X
Comment from Lisasview
I know you said you are not looking for sympathy but your story is heart breaking... one wonders why on earth you would loose three sons...really not fair.
I am not sure how I would cope.
The best thing is to keep busy and the great thing is that you have an outlet in writing...which you do quite well...
Lisasview
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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I know you said you are not looking for sympathy but your story is heart breaking... one wonders why on earth you would loose three sons...really not fair.
I am not sure how I would cope.
The best thing is to keep busy and the great thing is that you have an outlet in writing...which you do quite well...
Lisasview
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you, and thanks for the lovely compliments. I can't say it was easy, and I thought the grief might kill me for a while. I learned some releasing techniques that helped immensely. The grief will never go away completely, but I have learned to handle it.
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You should be very proud of yourself...
I can imagine how difficult it was and is for you.
Lisa
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
To have birthed three sons and not been given the chance to enjoy the lives they should have lived, is so cruel, to you and to your sons. I have two sons, and four grandchildren, all of whom I treasure. I'm sorry you weren't given that opportunity. You wrote this so beautifully, no bitterness, just a sadness for your loss, and their loss. Well done and good luck in the contest. :)) Sandra xx
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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To have birthed three sons and not been given the chance to enjoy the lives they should have lived, is so cruel, to you and to your sons. I have two sons, and four grandchildren, all of whom I treasure. I'm sorry you weren't given that opportunity. You wrote this so beautifully, no bitterness, just a sadness for your loss, and their loss. Well done and good luck in the contest. :)) Sandra xx
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I'm glad you have your sons and grandchildren to enjoy. Without them, your life would be empty. I wish you all the good things in life.
Comment from Thesis
A great entry to the contest, but a sad situation that you find yourself in during your mature years. You show the hurt and the longing for what could have been, while able to rationalize your current situation. Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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A great entry to the contest, but a sad situation that you find yourself in during your mature years. You show the hurt and the longing for what could have been, while able to rationalize your current situation. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you. Time has made things a bit easier, but I will always miss my sons and wonder 'what it if'. Life does strange things, and all we can do is roll with the punches or give up and die. I chose to roll.
Comment from Navada
This is written so beautifully and is so thoughtfully reflective, even when recounting something so personally tragic. I really admire your approach to this prompt. I hope that Cindy and the animal family provide you with the love and companionship that you deserve.
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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This is written so beautifully and is so thoughtfully reflective, even when recounting something so personally tragic. I really admire your approach to this prompt. I hope that Cindy and the animal family provide you with the love and companionship that you deserve.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you. My animals have been my salvation. That, and my extremely active life on the dairy farm. Cindy was a later addition to my life, and I am so glad she chose to live her life with me. She had cancer when she was very young and could never have children, so we make a good pair.
Comment from Barry Penfold
Some real honesty here and obviously heartbreak. However, there is also huge resilience and at heart, a happy disposition. You have done remarkably well to remain positive. Thanks for sharing a part of your story.
Regards
Barry Penfold.
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Some real honesty here and obviously heartbreak. However, there is also huge resilience and at heart, a happy disposition. You have done remarkably well to remain positive. Thanks for sharing a part of your story.
Regards
Barry Penfold.
Comment Written 13-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you. It wasn't always easy to continue on with my life. Sometimes, I wanted to call it quits and leave this planet. I learned a releasing technique that has been a Godsend. It truly helped.
Comment from Tom Horonzy
Dang
That was a tough row you hoed. Sad.
Grandchildren?
I don't know
We adopted two infant girls when I was 39 and45.
Today, they are 36 and31
One wedded the other remains single and I don't rue not having grand babies
That's okay. We helped two gals birthed from teens live a better life
Thanks for sharing your story.
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reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Dang
That was a tough row you hoed. Sad.
Grandchildren?
I don't know
We adopted two infant girls when I was 39 and45.
Today, they are 36 and31
One wedded the other remains single and I don't rue not having grand babies
That's okay. We helped two gals birthed from teens live a better life
Thanks for sharing your story.
This rating does not count towards story rating or author rank.
The highest and the lowest rating are not included in calculations.
Comment Written 12-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 13-Dec-2023
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Thank you. You might find yourself with grandkids yet. It was good of you to take in two girls, who most likely needed someone to care for them. I love hearing bits of other folks' lives.