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Comment from Wayne Fowler
Very nice letter. Well written.
I love how you came to realize that Mother-in-Law was married in as well! What a dumb for her to have said.
Best wishes.
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Very nice letter. Well written.
I love how you came to realize that Mother-in-Law was married in as well! What a dumb for her to have said.
Best wishes.
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from Anne Johnston
Thank you for sharing your relationship with your mother-in-law. I am glad that you were able to pray for her and accept her as she was, and thus your relationship changed.
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Thank you for sharing your relationship with your mother-in-law. I am glad that you were able to pray for her and accept her as she was, and thus your relationship changed.
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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Comment from Paul McFarland
That is very close to what happened between my wife and my mother. In thew beginning, things were not good. It was the main reason I took a teaching job in the next state. After our two boys came along, things improved dramatically. I came back to Maine after teaching for ten years to be near family. The last years of my mother's life were very enjoyable.
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That is very close to what happened between my wife and my mother. In thew beginning, things were not good. It was the main reason I took a teaching job in the next state. After our two boys came along, things improved dramatically. I came back to Maine after teaching for ten years to be near family. The last years of my mother's life were very enjoyable.
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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Comment from davisr (Rhonda)
Great advice, my friend! I'm sorry you started with such a negative relationship with your mother-in-law. Mine lives with us and absolutely loved your book, Two Tattered Hearts. She still talks about it.
Take care,
Rhonda
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Great advice, my friend! I'm sorry you started with such a negative relationship with your mother-in-law. Mine lives with us and absolutely loved your book, Two Tattered Hearts. She still talks about it.
Take care,
Rhonda
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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Comment from Sally Law
Good for you! I bet you make a slamming yellow cake too! I think the mother-in-law feels replaced. She's long held her son's affection. A delightful addition to your book and one that will certainly be used more often than not. Sending you my best today as always..
Sal xoxo
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Good for you! I bet you make a slamming yellow cake too! I think the mother-in-law feels replaced. She's long held her son's affection. A delightful addition to your book and one that will certainly be used more often than not. Sending you my best today as always..
Sal xoxo
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support. My husband admitted he didn't really like the cake and wanted Black Forest so that's what he's had for all these years. LOL
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See! You made out even better. The cake, I mean... Although you probably make out. I better go before this gets any worse! Sal :)) xo
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Oh dearie me!
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
Well said Barbara! I think this sort of competitiveness between mother-in-law and wife must go on a lot in the beginning. Perhaps understandable rivalry sometimes. But to remain graciously aloof, accept that the person inflicting the blows has their own problems is the answer to which you've borne testament. A strong message for your grandchildren and an enjoyable read. Thanks for sharing. Debbie
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Well said Barbara! I think this sort of competitiveness between mother-in-law and wife must go on a lot in the beginning. Perhaps understandable rivalry sometimes. But to remain graciously aloof, accept that the person inflicting the blows has their own problems is the answer to which you've borne testament. A strong message for your grandchildren and an enjoyable read. Thanks for sharing. Debbie
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from Regina Elliott
Hi Barbara, you've written this
chapter with pearls of wisdom. My daughter's
mother-in-law is a narcissist.
My daughter tried for years to
get along with her. We haven't
seen her mother and father-in-law in two years. We don't
hate them or wish them
harm. But she has a difficult
personality and won't apologize for anything wrong
she's done. Anyway, it's great
that you're penning these
stories for your grandchildren.
You write so well. Blessings!
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Hi Barbara, you've written this
chapter with pearls of wisdom. My daughter's
mother-in-law is a narcissist.
My daughter tried for years to
get along with her. We haven't
seen her mother and father-in-law in two years. We don't
hate them or wish them
harm. But she has a difficult
personality and won't apologize for anything wrong
she's done. Anyway, it's great
that you're penning these
stories for your grandchildren.
You write so well. Blessings!
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from Alexandra Trovato
Virtual Six Stars!
Barbara, your letters our princess and beautiful. I sincerely think you're too Grand ours have such a treasure though that they'll keep forever and carry on to future generations.
There are a couple of typos. I can send that separately to you if you like or you might still be working on them. it's not a lot and it's not the most important thing about this writing. also the topic is incredibly close to me. my mother-in-law, basically put a couple blush on my whole wedding and family marriage with my husband and his whole family doesn't talk to him. She didn't even know me. She really is a crazy person. to pull my husband close to her no matter how old he was he was almost 40 when we got married. I'm at the family once everybody love me. she went to work just tormenting me talking about calling such ripples of people just hating me. and then she was in my face when we got engaged she showed up in front of where we were living I see her oh my God I'm so happy to see you I pray that you be here before we got married. she says to me I knew you would be trouble when I heard your name. His first wife was Alessandra. hence the crazy. so I'm not afraid if I start saying no no I'm just maybe I'm in God's version of a different kind of me plus my name is totally different as an X.
She was just looking for something. Problem I think is that HER mother in law who never liked her made a huge fuss over me when Chris took me to her 80th birthday party at l his aunts house. When his dad walked in he looked at me and (ew) literally said well you're sensual to me FIRST MEETING p she was sitting off somewhere in another room and he was looking right at her he was teasing her to call me that in front of her. I was so bored I said excuse me? and the truck says it again! Chris heard it too.
Chris has been so upset and I don't know what happened. but if you've ever seen a movie monster in love that's what it's been like and I haven't had any contact I try to consider her twice get together to talk to him on his birthday or anything and she makes such a big stink about he should do this or that she will not talk unless this or that. this is the person who had cancer 1 years old and I have no problems with her she never had any kind of Interest I have nothing history with her nothing.
We can talk another time if you like I don't want to take up this whole thing but off the Record just tell your daughter and daughters that they could do a lot worse with mother-in-law's but still don't want to get to them.
I'm sorry your mother-in-law into your life so sadly. I've also been told that I'm not bled but neither is she I imagine that your story. well it really hit me tonight Excellent ready for my heart. one thing for sure your granddaughters will know that you have such a deep heart.
Best wishes!
Alexandra
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Virtual Six Stars!
Barbara, your letters our princess and beautiful. I sincerely think you're too Grand ours have such a treasure though that they'll keep forever and carry on to future generations.
There are a couple of typos. I can send that separately to you if you like or you might still be working on them. it's not a lot and it's not the most important thing about this writing. also the topic is incredibly close to me. my mother-in-law, basically put a couple blush on my whole wedding and family marriage with my husband and his whole family doesn't talk to him. She didn't even know me. She really is a crazy person. to pull my husband close to her no matter how old he was he was almost 40 when we got married. I'm at the family once everybody love me. she went to work just tormenting me talking about calling such ripples of people just hating me. and then she was in my face when we got engaged she showed up in front of where we were living I see her oh my God I'm so happy to see you I pray that you be here before we got married. she says to me I knew you would be trouble when I heard your name. His first wife was Alessandra. hence the crazy. so I'm not afraid if I start saying no no I'm just maybe I'm in God's version of a different kind of me plus my name is totally different as an X.
She was just looking for something. Problem I think is that HER mother in law who never liked her made a huge fuss over me when Chris took me to her 80th birthday party at l his aunts house. When his dad walked in he looked at me and (ew) literally said well you're sensual to me FIRST MEETING p she was sitting off somewhere in another room and he was looking right at her he was teasing her to call me that in front of her. I was so bored I said excuse me? and the truck says it again! Chris heard it too.
Chris has been so upset and I don't know what happened. but if you've ever seen a movie monster in love that's what it's been like and I haven't had any contact I try to consider her twice get together to talk to him on his birthday or anything and she makes such a big stink about he should do this or that she will not talk unless this or that. this is the person who had cancer 1 years old and I have no problems with her she never had any kind of Interest I have nothing history with her nothing.
We can talk another time if you like I don't want to take up this whole thing but off the Record just tell your daughter and daughters that they could do a lot worse with mother-in-law's but still don't want to get to them.
I'm sorry your mother-in-law into your life so sadly. I've also been told that I'm not bled but neither is she I imagine that your story. well it really hit me tonight Excellent ready for my heart. one thing for sure your granddaughters will know that you have such a deep heart.
Best wishes!
Alexandra
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support. It ended up that her husband had numerous affairs and basically told her to put up with it or leave. Her self-esteem was so low she felt she had no option but to stay.
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That's sad.
Comment from Sankey
This was a great read. I do relate as far as Mothers -in-Laws go. It took me and M in law about 25 years to finally get along. One suggestion...Honestly, my mother-in-law, (and I,)after a while, did
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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This was a great read. I do relate as far as Mothers -in-Laws go. It took me and M in law about 25 years to finally get along. One suggestion...Honestly, my mother-in-law, (and I,)after a while, did
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from Lola G
Mother in law relationships are fraught with traps and pitfalls. I enjoyed this piece with advice on how to not internalize a critical MIL who doesn't want to accept the DIL as part of the family. The conversational quotes gave an idea of the narrator's discussions with her MIL and close friend, but I wanted to hear the narrator's voice in a dialogue with her MIL to show me what happened rather than tell me. After the "be confident...." I wasn't sure if the last paragraphs were part of the piece or editorial comments.
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Mother in law relationships are fraught with traps and pitfalls. I enjoyed this piece with advice on how to not internalize a critical MIL who doesn't want to accept the DIL as part of the family. The conversational quotes gave an idea of the narrator's discussions with her MIL and close friend, but I wanted to hear the narrator's voice in a dialogue with her MIL to show me what happened rather than tell me. After the "be confident...." I wasn't sure if the last paragraphs were part of the piece or editorial comments.
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.