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Comment from Ulla
Yes, family can be a curse and the hurt they can impose can be painful..why it has to be like that has always been beyond me. My adoptive mother was an expert on thant particular issue.
I'm glad you managed to get on an even footage. Ulla:)))
reply by the author on 01-Jul-2023
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Yes, family can be a curse and the hurt they can impose can be painful..why it has to be like that has always been beyond me. My adoptive mother was an expert on thant particular issue.
I'm glad you managed to get on an even footage. Ulla:)))
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 01-Jul-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from Yardier
Ah, families... My wife and I came from two destructive homes; hers with money, order and ridicule. Mine, with hatred, disgust and violence. We were both six feet tall. We met in high school. She was smart and pretty. I was tough and gritty. God had a plan. We tried to avoid it, but HE is the hound of everyman, isn't he? We've been married fifty years now, and have worked successfully to avoid introducing a toxic environment to our children. No anger, violence or condescension, just hard work and support. Unfortunately, my father died a bitter, angry, self absorbed man. My mother in-law finally, in her eighties, acknowledged my wife's
golden and loving character.
I know this isn't much of a review, Barbara, but I wanted to share some reality while you sipped your tea.
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Ah, families... My wife and I came from two destructive homes; hers with money, order and ridicule. Mine, with hatred, disgust and violence. We were both six feet tall. We met in high school. She was smart and pretty. I was tough and gritty. God had a plan. We tried to avoid it, but HE is the hound of everyman, isn't he? We've been married fifty years now, and have worked successfully to avoid introducing a toxic environment to our children. No anger, violence or condescension, just hard work and support. Unfortunately, my father died a bitter, angry, self absorbed man. My mother in-law finally, in her eighties, acknowledged my wife's
golden and loving character.
I know this isn't much of a review, Barbara, but I wanted to share some reality while you sipped your tea.
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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It's a perfect review and I appreciate the comments.
Comment from estory
I liked this little parable and I think it's great advice; difficult to follow through with, maybe, but you showed how you ended up in a better place with your mother in law because of that check on your emotions. Just simply repeating this to yourself and checking your reaction made things work with someone who is such a big part of the family they can not be ignored. estory
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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I liked this little parable and I think it's great advice; difficult to follow through with, maybe, but you showed how you ended up in a better place with your mother in law because of that check on your emotions. Just simply repeating this to yourself and checking your reaction made things work with someone who is such a big part of the family they can not be ignored. estory
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Comment from F. William Lester
A very nice story and so true. Why is it that the relationship between a mother and daughter-in-law always fertile ground for bad feelings? My mother did the same to my wife. Unfortunately, it took me nearly half our marriage before I understood what she was facing. Sad, but I understand your predicament. Well done. Thanks for sharing it. Stay well.
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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A very nice story and so true. Why is it that the relationship between a mother and daughter-in-law always fertile ground for bad feelings? My mother did the same to my wife. Unfortunately, it took me nearly half our marriage before I understood what she was facing. Sad, but I understand your predicament. Well done. Thanks for sharing it. Stay well.
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Comment from Ric Myworld
Yes, this suggests some lessons well learned, and show a glimpse of your kind heart and patience. Had I been a woman, I probably would have punched her in the nose and never carried if we'd gotten close or not. LOL. Thanks for sharing.
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Yes, this suggests some lessons well learned, and show a glimpse of your kind heart and patience. Had I been a woman, I probably would have punched her in the nose and never carried if we'd gotten close or not. LOL. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support. Your too much of sweetheart to punch anybody.
Comment from BethShelby
I think some mother-in=laws are a bit jealous of their sons allegience to another woman. She reminds me of the mother-in-law on Everyone Loves Raymond and thinking you couldn't make a cake like her. This is very good post for your granddaughters. I'm glad over time you learned to get along. I loved my mother-in-law, but I learned she had no sense of homor so just deal with it.
Beth
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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I think some mother-in=laws are a bit jealous of their sons allegience to another woman. She reminds me of the mother-in-law on Everyone Loves Raymond and thinking you couldn't make a cake like her. This is very good post for your granddaughters. I'm glad over time you learned to get along. I loved my mother-in-law, but I learned she had no sense of homor so just deal with it.
Beth
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Comment from Pam Lonsdale
This is their great-grandmother, right? I learned early to be careful what I say about family to my kids because it colors their opinions.
I think the pearl of wisdom here is your reminder that one grows more confident with age and experience. So many young people lack confidence.
I think these girls are getting a piece of your mind and heart with these.
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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This is their great-grandmother, right? I learned early to be careful what I say about family to my kids because it colors their opinions.
I think the pearl of wisdom here is your reminder that one grows more confident with age and experience. So many young people lack confidence.
I think these girls are getting a piece of your mind and heart with these.
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Comment from Wendy G
Your friend was very caring and very wise, and offered very insightful words to live by, and they will serve the next generations well also. Your mother-in-law may well have been grieving the "loss" of her son, but over time she came to respect you which is a wonderful outcome. The fact that she started to share her real self with you indicates that she trusted you as well, and had seen that you accepted her as she was. Thanks for sharing with such honesty.
Wendy
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Your friend was very caring and very wise, and offered very insightful words to live by, and they will serve the next generations well also. Your mother-in-law may well have been grieving the "loss" of her son, but over time she came to respect you which is a wonderful outcome. The fact that she started to share her real self with you indicates that she trusted you as well, and had seen that you accepted her as she was. Thanks for sharing with such honesty.
Wendy
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Comment from Goodadvicechan
It isn't easy to patch with mother-in-law. I always thought it is impossible. You have done an excellent job to be friends.
You are rave to share this information with Charlotte and Eleanor,
Good luck to your letters. I enjoy reading them.
Thanks for sharing them with us
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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It isn't easy to patch with mother-in-law. I always thought it is impossible. You have done an excellent job to be friends.
You are rave to share this information with Charlotte and Eleanor,
Good luck to your letters. I enjoy reading them.
Thanks for sharing them with us
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from Douglas Goff
Hi Barbara!
This is another wonderfully laid out and displayed letter of advice for the girls.
Definitely words to live by!
Wonderful work, my friend!
D
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Hi Barbara!
This is another wonderfully laid out and displayed letter of advice for the girls.
Definitely words to live by!
Wonderful work, my friend!
D
Comment Written 30-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.