Beloved Dad . . .
Father had more children . . .69 total reviews
Comment from Leineco
I don't know what to say :-(
I'm sorry for the pain of discovering the man who couldn't care for the first family he created (yours) betrayed you further by creation yet another family.
I'll never understand the father that completely "forgets" the child(ren) he sired. I can understand no further communication with an ex-wife, but complete and utter failure to somehow maintain fatherhood both baffles and repels me. To not even know you have siblings is unforgivable.
I hope you find some way to make peace with this. On the blessings side - it seems you managed to make a wonderful life despite his absence. Good for you and the mother that raised you.
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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I don't know what to say :-(
I'm sorry for the pain of discovering the man who couldn't care for the first family he created (yours) betrayed you further by creation yet another family.
I'll never understand the father that completely "forgets" the child(ren) he sired. I can understand no further communication with an ex-wife, but complete and utter failure to somehow maintain fatherhood both baffles and repels me. To not even know you have siblings is unforgivable.
I hope you find some way to make peace with this. On the blessings side - it seems you managed to make a wonderful life despite his absence. Good for you and the mother that raised you.
Comment Written 16-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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Leineco: Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts with me. My mother remarried three years later to a lazy child molester. By age 8 I was living with my maternal grandparents who raised me. A thorough examination of my life makes you wonder how I survived to be 67 years of age and remain reasonably sane . . . livelylinda
Comment from reconciled
Linda it was his loss, his sin unclaimed in remedy, and he knows now, if he's before God...and we know all men are sooner or later. You did nothing wrong by being born...he did by you. please try to forgive him....I'm sure he wishes he didn't now. love you Michael
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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Linda it was his loss, his sin unclaimed in remedy, and he knows now, if he's before God...and we know all men are sooner or later. You did nothing wrong by being born...he did by you. please try to forgive him....I'm sure he wishes he didn't now. love you Michael
Comment Written 16-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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Thank you, Michael! Linda
Comment from pierre poote'
I am so sorry for the pain that you are having to live with. i enjoyed your poem but it does create some sadness in my heart. i hope you fair well. good write)):
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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I am so sorry for the pain that you are having to live with. i enjoyed your poem but it does create some sadness in my heart. i hope you fair well. good write)):
Comment Written 15-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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pierre: thank you so much for reading and commenting on this poem. livelylinda
Comment from pattipac
Your well penned poem exudes the heartache that can come about when a child seeks to find a parent, who for one reason or another, abandoned his wife and children. When one decides to try to find this parent, they tip the scales either toward closure or more unfulfilled questions. Thankfully, our adopted son chose not to search for his birth parents, which is probably the best compliment he could ever have given us.
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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Your well penned poem exudes the heartache that can come about when a child seeks to find a parent, who for one reason or another, abandoned his wife and children. When one decides to try to find this parent, they tip the scales either toward closure or more unfulfilled questions. Thankfully, our adopted son chose not to search for his birth parents, which is probably the best compliment he could ever have given us.
Comment Written 15-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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pattipac: I don't believe that an adopted child searches for his birth mother because his adopted parents were bad or good. We need to know from whose loins we sprang and look them in the eye to ask the question, "WHY"? It is a totally separate issue.
Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts with me on this poem. livelylinda
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Sorry my response hurt you, Linda. I truly understand why you feel as you do and want your question answered. No malice intended.
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pattipac: you said nothing that hurt me. I have known several people over the years who were adopted. It did not matter how wonderful their adopted parents, most still had the strong desire to meet their birth parents and find out "why"? Abandonment is a huge issue for your entire life. Linda
Comment from Jesse James Doty
Wow! What a compelling story and poem. I can't imagine how I would feel in your situation, but your poem gives me a peek at your heart with the knife thrust into it. I love the way you tell your reaction to the news of your "Beloved Dad." Beloved by someone who you didn't even know existed. Step-siblings...what a discovery. You wrote this so well, I feel like I know you. I am going to bookcase this poem for future reading. Thanks for sharing your feelings.
Peace, Jesse James
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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Wow! What a compelling story and poem. I can't imagine how I would feel in your situation, but your poem gives me a peek at your heart with the knife thrust into it. I love the way you tell your reaction to the news of your "Beloved Dad." Beloved by someone who you didn't even know existed. Step-siblings...what a discovery. You wrote this so well, I feel like I know you. I am going to bookcase this poem for future reading. Thanks for sharing your feelings.
Peace, Jesse James
Comment Written 15-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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Jesse James: and thank you for such an amazing review and thinking this poem worthy of six stars. And, what an honor for you to bookcase this poem for future reading. Linda
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You are most welcome.
Comment from amada
Very well written in this sad account in your life. I admire you for posting. I carry something similar but still I can't write about it. Maybe soon, bit by bit, a couple of words at a time. I wish you the best.
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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Very well written in this sad account in your life. I admire you for posting. I carry something similar but still I can't write about it. Maybe soon, bit by bit, a couple of words at a time. I wish you the best.
Comment Written 15-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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amada: writing about bad life experiences is a helpful way to get through, over and beyond them and to purge oneself of rotting memories . . . rather like taking out the garbage. Of course, for a moment it stirs up all those bad things . . .
Thanks for reading and commenting on this poem. livelylinda
Comment from Dawn Munro
S3, L7 - add a "d" - "suppose(d)..."
This is so poignant I feel the pain. What a betrayal! Your poem is marvelous, so easy to see how deeply felt it was as you wrote. I love the simile too, though I'm so sorry you felt such agony - "...like a boa constrictor eating an elephant..."
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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S3, L7 - add a "d" - "suppose(d)..."
This is so poignant I feel the pain. What a betrayal! Your poem is marvelous, so easy to see how deeply felt it was as you wrote. I love the simile too, though I'm so sorry you felt such agony - "...like a boa constrictor eating an elephant..."
Comment Written 15-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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Thank you, Dawn, for reading, commenting and pointing my nose toward a boo-boo! Linda
Comment from bard owl
My first husband and I had two precious sons. When things became unbearable, we were divorced and remarried others. My youngest son was shattered at the thought that I might have another child and cried "Then you will forget about me and only love the new baby". That nearly broke my heart. I thought he was confident in the ever present love I have for him and his brother. It would never, never take a backseat to anything. Therefore, I understand your poem completely. You give words to thoughts of others so clearly. Excellent writing.
Blessings to you,
Linda
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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My first husband and I had two precious sons. When things became unbearable, we were divorced and remarried others. My youngest son was shattered at the thought that I might have another child and cried "Then you will forget about me and only love the new baby". That nearly broke my heart. I thought he was confident in the ever present love I have for him and his brother. It would never, never take a backseat to anything. Therefore, I understand your poem completely. You give words to thoughts of others so clearly. Excellent writing.
Blessings to you,
Linda
Comment Written 15-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 16-Nov-2015
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bard owl: thank you so much for reading and sharing a personal story with me. I appreciate that you have some understanding. I was afraid most readers would not. Linda
Comment from Sandra du Plessis
I can imagine how you must have felt. Abandoned by your father all your life and then discover he replaced you and your sister with other children to fill his life.
reply by the author on 15-Nov-2015
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I can imagine how you must have felt. Abandoned by your father all your life and then discover he replaced you and your sister with other children to fill his life.
Comment Written 15-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 15-Nov-2015
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Thank you for reading, Sandra, and commenting. livelylinda
Comment from N.K. Wagner
Oh, Linda! How sad this man who fathered two families couldn't be enough of a man to BE a father to them all. This is not your shortcoming. It's his. Hugs. -Nancy
reply by the author on 15-Nov-2015
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Oh, Linda! How sad this man who fathered two families couldn't be enough of a man to BE a father to them all. This is not your shortcoming. It's his. Hugs. -Nancy
Comment Written 15-Nov-2015
reply by the author on 15-Nov-2015
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Thanks for reading, Nancy, and for your kind words. Linda