Aging in the 21st Century
How should one act as he or she ages?28 total reviews
Comment from Muffins
I appreciate the way you en brace the down the gut truth about aging. It's all a mindset. It's all about if you are the type of person who always cared about what other people thought about you. If you have not grown out of that in your 20's and 30's, you'll still have that view in your 60's. The bottom line is happiness. As you pointed out,"Growing older is not as glamorous as many would like, but it certainly does not mean you must have your life fenced around "age appropriate" approved activities. If you have always been an upstanding individual who has enjoyed a multitude of activities, continue doing them. If you want to wear white the year round, go ahead and do it. If you want to dance in the rain at age 65 the same way you did at 25, put on a rain cap so you won't catch pneumonia and dance to your heart's delight. You only live once and growing older should liberate you, not limit you."
Beside, I believe that finally we are getting over this hang up on what or how someone should act. Thank God, because in a few years I will great my 50's and no one better tell me to stop wearing shorts!
reply by the author on 19-Oct-2014
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I appreciate the way you en brace the down the gut truth about aging. It's all a mindset. It's all about if you are the type of person who always cared about what other people thought about you. If you have not grown out of that in your 20's and 30's, you'll still have that view in your 60's. The bottom line is happiness. As you pointed out,"Growing older is not as glamorous as many would like, but it certainly does not mean you must have your life fenced around "age appropriate" approved activities. If you have always been an upstanding individual who has enjoyed a multitude of activities, continue doing them. If you want to wear white the year round, go ahead and do it. If you want to dance in the rain at age 65 the same way you did at 25, put on a rain cap so you won't catch pneumonia and dance to your heart's delight. You only live once and growing older should liberate you, not limit you."
Beside, I believe that finally we are getting over this hang up on what or how someone should act. Thank God, because in a few years I will great my 50's and no one better tell me to stop wearing shorts!
Comment Written 03-Jun-2014
reply by the author on 19-Oct-2014
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Please forgive this delayed response, but I've been away engaged in other pursuits. So much has happened in my absences. Thanks so much for your great review!
Comment from Selina Stambi
Bravo,Titan, you tell them girl!
I think age appropriate also has a lot to do with the level of fitness, size of the person, cultural background and mindset.
The bottom line is, as long as the person doesn't mind making a fool of themselves in the process of finding their age appropriateness, kudos to them!
A great write!
spags:
the activities that brought you enjoyment become (not becomes) more proscribed
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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Bravo,Titan, you tell them girl!
I think age appropriate also has a lot to do with the level of fitness, size of the person, cultural background and mindset.
The bottom line is, as long as the person doesn't mind making a fool of themselves in the process of finding their age appropriateness, kudos to them!
A great write!
spags:
the activities that brought you enjoyment become (not becomes) more proscribed
Comment Written 11-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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Thanks, Reachingforthestars! I'm delighted you liked this one. Thanks for spotting the spags. Dossie
Comment from fayesh
I think your essay is a fitting defense of "outlandish" behavior when one ages. I don't believe anyone should dictate to others the appropriateness of appearance. In my view, a person should just glance in the mirror and decide. In fact, as person ages, the same traits of youth remain the same traits when ones ages but hopefully more refined. Good taste remains good taste, but bad taste becomes worse when one ages.
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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I think your essay is a fitting defense of "outlandish" behavior when one ages. I don't believe anyone should dictate to others the appropriateness of appearance. In my view, a person should just glance in the mirror and decide. In fact, as person ages, the same traits of youth remain the same traits when ones ages but hopefully more refined. Good taste remains good taste, but bad taste becomes worse when one ages.
Comment Written 11-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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Many, many thanks, fayesh! It seems everyone wants to be a critic these days, yet many of those same critics will decry if someone tried to take their freedom of speech away. I feel that same passion about choice. And you're right, bad taste will not come with age, if you've had good taste all along. Peace!!
Comment from GeraldS
This essay flowed well and was easy to read and understand.
I guess the bottom line is that as we age it is less important what other people think of us than what we think of ourselves. The important thing is to reach a point in life where you can feel good about yourself.
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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This essay flowed well and was easy to read and understand.
I guess the bottom line is that as we age it is less important what other people think of us than what we think of ourselves. The important thing is to reach a point in life where you can feel good about yourself.
Comment Written 10-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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Thanks, GeraldS! You're so right; however, you're never going to feel good about yourself if the busy bodies are constantly telling you what you should or shouldn't wear. Be your own arbiter and critic! Dossie
Comment from STEPHEN A CARTER
AS a fellow baby boomer plagued with insecurities brought on by aging and the insipid process that accompanies it..I heartily agree with your well written and insightful expose. Wonderful sentence structure, for ex:
"Recently, I overheard a rather rotund 50 something woman comment about the high-heeled boots one of her smaller contemporaries sported." The 'r' alliteration, the prescient adverb entree, the multi syllabic word 'contemporaries and the ending..'sported'. A collage of images teasing the mind to distraction..precision crafted. A good read..well rewarded.
Regards:
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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AS a fellow baby boomer plagued with insecurities brought on by aging and the insipid process that accompanies it..I heartily agree with your well written and insightful expose. Wonderful sentence structure, for ex:
"Recently, I overheard a rather rotund 50 something woman comment about the high-heeled boots one of her smaller contemporaries sported." The 'r' alliteration, the prescient adverb entree, the multi syllabic word 'contemporaries and the ending..'sported'. A collage of images teasing the mind to distraction..precision crafted. A good read..well rewarded.
Regards:
Comment Written 10-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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Thanks again, Stephen! I love your writing, especially the syntax. Thanks again for the excellent rating!
Comment from alexisleech
I'm so glad I saved this one until today to review so I could afford the six it so richly deserves. I'm with you on this one all the way. Because I got some national press for posting a very normal picture of me wearing a swimsuit (from the hips up, I add) on the internet, my retired lawyer brother isn't talking to me. 'She should act her age' is the message that got back to me. Yes, I could, but then I would end up a miserable, lonely old sod like him!
I always enjoy your posts but this one was particularly good. 'Carpe diem!'
Alexis x
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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I'm so glad I saved this one until today to review so I could afford the six it so richly deserves. I'm with you on this one all the way. Because I got some national press for posting a very normal picture of me wearing a swimsuit (from the hips up, I add) on the internet, my retired lawyer brother isn't talking to me. 'She should act her age' is the message that got back to me. Yes, I could, but then I would end up a miserable, lonely old sod like him!
I always enjoy your posts but this one was particularly good. 'Carpe diem!'
Alexis x
Comment Written 10-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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Thanks again for this great rating!
Comment from mshugh
Great write - I totally agree with you - I think if we behave and do things with pride, dignity - and with a michevous smile - we will be forgiven by both young and old - age appropriate or not
No SPAGs
Michael
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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Great write - I totally agree with you - I think if we behave and do things with pride, dignity - and with a michevous smile - we will be forgiven by both young and old - age appropriate or not
No SPAGs
Michael
Comment Written 10-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 17-Mar-2013
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Many, many thanks, Michael! You are so right! It's how it's done that makes all the difference! Dossie
Comment from writing2inspire
You make some good points. I'm a baby boomer myself, so I was especially interested in what you had to say. I think you missed the main point: what the motives for acting younger than your comtemporary baby boomers? If you are in denial and acting like a younger person because you cannot accept the aging process, then that's not healthy. If you have an activity you enjoy that's usually done by younger folks, then go ahead and skate board or bungie jump, but unless God has gifted you with talents or bones of someone younger, you'll probably find your enjoyment curtailed.
reply by the author on 18-Mar-2013
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You make some good points. I'm a baby boomer myself, so I was especially interested in what you had to say. I think you missed the main point: what the motives for acting younger than your comtemporary baby boomers? If you are in denial and acting like a younger person because you cannot accept the aging process, then that's not healthy. If you have an activity you enjoy that's usually done by younger folks, then go ahead and skate board or bungie jump, but unless God has gifted you with talents or bones of someone younger, you'll probably find your enjoyment curtailed.
Comment Written 09-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 18-Mar-2013
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Many, many thanks, writing2inspire! I'm sorry it's taken me this long to respond to your stellar review and excellent rating. I wish you peace and hours of prolific writing! The article really was about folks have the right to make their own decisions. Let's face it, if you've always had class and knew how to dress, that decorum is not doing to disappear simply because you suddenly turned 50 or 60.
Comment from marijmd
Well I am not a baby boomer but I am turning 40 this year and it is the first birthday that has been hard for me to accept. I work in the fashion industry and "Age appropriate" attire or attitude would be a death sentence for my career!
Great last line!
You only live once and growing older should liberate you, not limit you.
reply by the author on 18-Mar-2013
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Well I am not a baby boomer but I am turning 40 this year and it is the first birthday that has been hard for me to accept. I work in the fashion industry and "Age appropriate" attire or attitude would be a death sentence for my career!
Great last line!
You only live once and growing older should liberate you, not limit you.
Comment Written 08-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 18-Mar-2013
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My friend, go out and enjoy your birthday and forget numbers. When it comes to life, there's only one other alternative. If you act as though age matters, there are folks out there who will make your life miserable. Don't let them. You're as old as you think. My advice to you is keep your body parts moisturizer, eat right, take vitamins and exercise. Doing those things should keep you around for a long time.
Comment from Jumbo J
Hi Titanx,
a wonderful write to those that are always concerned what is deemed appropriate to age and condition of body shape. Lets face it if there's no foul there's no harm. I must admit I have seen things that made me cringe and there was a visual scar left in my brain, but as you said if it's not illegal, who cares. And if your lucky enough to be one of the age crossers then your the one that paves the way for the plebs that try hard to keep up with time. Still enjoyed what you had to say but that's me I'm still living in the 70s.
Kindest wishes,
James xx
reply by the author on 18-Mar-2013
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Hi Titanx,
a wonderful write to those that are always concerned what is deemed appropriate to age and condition of body shape. Lets face it if there's no foul there's no harm. I must admit I have seen things that made me cringe and there was a visual scar left in my brain, but as you said if it's not illegal, who cares. And if your lucky enough to be one of the age crossers then your the one that paves the way for the plebs that try hard to keep up with time. Still enjoyed what you had to say but that's me I'm still living in the 70s.
Kindest wishes,
James xx
Comment Written 08-Mar-2013
reply by the author on 18-Mar-2013
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Thanks so much, James xx! I'm sorry it's taken me this long to respond to your stellar review and excellent rating. I wish you peace and hours-upon-hours of great ideas and prolific writing! Peace!