Expectations
versus acceptance11 total reviews
Comment from Alexandra Trovato
Yes. Thar leads to much harm. I was the opposite with my daughter. I ended up having less control of her but I'd rather have it that way. Self fulfilling prophesies can hurt kids as they grow and they suffer Autonomy vs Doubt.
I can say my daughter is a successful fullfilled person but she hates me. So I gave up control to set her free and I still cry. But it's OK with me because i didn't give birth to her to control her. I'd rather have her strong than worry about what I want or don't want. I never have been one to have expectations in general. This is a well written Indightful poem!
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Yes. Thar leads to much harm. I was the opposite with my daughter. I ended up having less control of her but I'd rather have it that way. Self fulfilling prophesies can hurt kids as they grow and they suffer Autonomy vs Doubt.
I can say my daughter is a successful fullfilled person but she hates me. So I gave up control to set her free and I still cry. But it's OK with me because i didn't give birth to her to control her. I'd rather have her strong than worry about what I want or don't want. I never have been one to have expectations in general. This is a well written Indightful poem!
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from barbara.wilkey
Parents have such an impact on a child's well-being, even as adults. I wish more parents understood this. It is the acceptance and the words they say that are so important. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Please know I continue to pray for you.
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Parents have such an impact on a child's well-being, even as adults. I wish more parents understood this. It is the acceptance and the words they say that are so important. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Please know I continue to pray for you.
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from Sandra Stoner-Mitchell
I could not agree more, Jesse. I couldn't be more proud of the way my sons have grown up, and how they are bringing their children up. Love and respect both ways is the key. And I love mine to bits!! Lol. Beautiful poem my friend. Warmest hugs, Sandra xx
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I could not agree more, Jesse. I couldn't be more proud of the way my sons have grown up, and how they are bringing their children up. Love and respect both ways is the key. And I love mine to bits!! Lol. Beautiful poem my friend. Warmest hugs, Sandra xx
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from June Sargent
We should allow our children to grow into the best version of themselves, encouraging them to fulfill their own dreams - and not ours. Otherwise, the plant will wilt from lack of love and nurturing. Unfortunately, too many parents try to live through their children. Big mistake. No one is happy at that point. And all dreams die.
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We should allow our children to grow into the best version of themselves, encouraging them to fulfill their own dreams - and not ours. Otherwise, the plant will wilt from lack of love and nurturing. Unfortunately, too many parents try to live through their children. Big mistake. No one is happy at that point. And all dreams die.
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from Begin Again
Your poem rattled me a little as I thought about how my father never thought I was good enough...even in school with straight A's he asked for more...and starting a business on my own didn't impress him. I remember how I thought I couldn't do anything right...until finally as an adult I realized he was the one who was wrong. It's our job as parents to raise our children but to show them that they can stand on their own two feet and follow their dreams,
Smiles, Carol
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Your poem rattled me a little as I thought about how my father never thought I was good enough...even in school with straight A's he asked for more...and starting a business on my own didn't impress him. I remember how I thought I couldn't do anything right...until finally as an adult I realized he was the one who was wrong. It's our job as parents to raise our children but to show them that they can stand on their own two feet and follow their dreams,
Smiles, Carol
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
I love your sentiments, Jesse, and, once again, I'm left with nothing more to give you. Your message skilfully and sensitively evolves from your instinct that dogma and oppression can steadily suffocate a child and stifle freedom of thought and expression. We don't own children. They're a gift loaned to us to nurture and protect. Every child has an innate personality of their own which needs to be respected and gently guided, not manipulated to the parent's advantage. I agree, Jesse, acceptance needs to be shown before any true, meaningful relationship can be established. Well done on another excellent write for your book:) Warm wishes Debbie
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I love your sentiments, Jesse, and, once again, I'm left with nothing more to give you. Your message skilfully and sensitively evolves from your instinct that dogma and oppression can steadily suffocate a child and stifle freedom of thought and expression. We don't own children. They're a gift loaned to us to nurture and protect. Every child has an innate personality of their own which needs to be respected and gently guided, not manipulated to the parent's advantage. I agree, Jesse, acceptance needs to be shown before any true, meaningful relationship can be established. Well done on another excellent write for your book:) Warm wishes Debbie
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
I think we do expect a lot from our children as parents and encourage them to achieve, but we should temper it with some compassion as they are only children. My children are now adults with families of their own but they still ask for my advice on occasions, I enjoyed the sentiment here Jesse, a well written poem, love Dolly x x x
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I think we do expect a lot from our children as parents and encourage them to achieve, but we should temper it with some compassion as they are only children. My children are now adults with families of their own but they still ask for my advice on occasions, I enjoyed the sentiment here Jesse, a well written poem, love Dolly x x x
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from Tim Margetts
So true, Jesse.
With my four boys, all I have ever asked of them is that they give things an honest try. Not everything may work but as long as they try their best, nobody can ask more of them.
They are all different, and, as far as I am concerned great adults making their way in the world.
Do they have faults? Of course, that's part of being human.
But they try their best.
Tim
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So true, Jesse.
With my four boys, all I have ever asked of them is that they give things an honest try. Not everything may work but as long as they try their best, nobody can ask more of them.
They are all different, and, as far as I am concerned great adults making their way in the world.
Do they have faults? Of course, that's part of being human.
But they try their best.
Tim
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from Peter Jarvis
Your poem powerfully captures the emotional struggle between parental expectations and the need for acceptance. It's a poignant reflection on how these dynamics can shape and impact both children and parents as they navigate life's journey.
The contrast between expectations and acceptance is beautifully articulated, highlighting the importance of allowing children to grow into their authentic selves. Your closing lines offer a hopeful and necessary call for parents to let go of rigid expectations in favor of love and understanding.
Thank you for sharing this deeply meaningful piece inspired by your friend's experience. It resonates on many levels and serves as a gentle reminder of the power of acceptance.
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Your poem powerfully captures the emotional struggle between parental expectations and the need for acceptance. It's a poignant reflection on how these dynamics can shape and impact both children and parents as they navigate life's journey.
The contrast between expectations and acceptance is beautifully articulated, highlighting the importance of allowing children to grow into their authentic selves. Your closing lines offer a hopeful and necessary call for parents to let go of rigid expectations in favor of love and understanding.
Thank you for sharing this deeply meaningful piece inspired by your friend's experience. It resonates on many levels and serves as a gentle reminder of the power of acceptance.
Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
Comment from Cindy Decker 3
Jesse,
A wonderful statement for everyone. Acceptance is what most people want. High expectations of a person sets one up for failure. I'm sorry about your friend not being able to be himself around his parents.
Excellent, Jesse.
I hope you have a blessed Christmas.
Blessings,
Cindy
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reply by the author on 12-Dec-2024
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Jesse,
A wonderful statement for everyone. Acceptance is what most people want. High expectations of a person sets one up for failure. I'm sorry about your friend not being able to be himself around his parents.
Excellent, Jesse.
I hope you have a blessed Christmas.
Blessings,
Cindy
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Comment Written 12-Dec-2024
reply by the author on 12-Dec-2024
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Hello Cindy. Yes, high expectations sets up a person for failure. I agree wholeheartedly. Acceptance is hard to come by when the parents are judgemental and discriminatory. My friend's parents have these traits. Thank you for your kind words.
Thanks for the blessings, my friend.
Jesse