Independence
to be alone28 total reviews
Comment from dragonpoet
Hi Jesse,
I know this is an old one, but it is the first I haven't reviewed. I think once you walk you can find friends of your own. If you are friends with you caregivers while they are caring for you, maybe you can make them friends in the outside world. I don't think you need be be lonely.
Keep writing and stay healthy.
Have a good day.
Joan
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2024
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Hi Jesse,
I know this is an old one, but it is the first I haven't reviewed. I think once you walk you can find friends of your own. If you are friends with you caregivers while they are caring for you, maybe you can make them friends in the outside world. I don't think you need be be lonely.
Keep writing and stay healthy.
Have a good day.
Joan
Comment Written 21-Aug-2024
reply by the author on 21-Aug-2024
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Yes, my caregivers double as friends. We do things together on the outside of their shifts. I am only lonely every once in a while. Yet I get by.
I will keep writing and staying healthy.
Enjoy the day.
Jesse
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Good to hear, Jesse. I think we are all lonely once in a while.
Joan
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Sometimes a crowd of friends can't stop me from being lonely. It all depends on how I am feeling at the time.
Jesse
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That can be true too.
Joan
Comment from Michele Harber
Wow! I wish I had your attitude, your positivity, and the faith in myself that you have in yourself. I also wish I had your courage. You open up in a way that reveals more of you than I'm willing to reveal about myself. I told you yesterday that I scrapped my first Share a Story in a Poem idea because it wasn't what I wanted to say. The reason for that is that it was autobiographical, and I felt I was revealing too much personal information. I respect your willingness to open up about yourself, your insecurities and your accomplishments. I suspect others respect you for it as well, and no one would ever respond unkindly. Or, if someone did, the backlash from your fans would be overwhelming!
To get back to your story, it's beautifully written, honest, moving, and extremely relatable. Thank you for sharing it with us.
reply by the author on 30-Jan-2022
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Wow! I wish I had your attitude, your positivity, and the faith in myself that you have in yourself. I also wish I had your courage. You open up in a way that reveals more of you than I'm willing to reveal about myself. I told you yesterday that I scrapped my first Share a Story in a Poem idea because it wasn't what I wanted to say. The reason for that is that it was autobiographical, and I felt I was revealing too much personal information. I respect your willingness to open up about yourself, your insecurities and your accomplishments. I suspect others respect you for it as well, and no one would ever respond unkindly. Or, if someone did, the backlash from your fans would be overwhelming!
To get back to your story, it's beautifully written, honest, moving, and extremely relatable. Thank you for sharing it with us.
Comment Written 30-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 30-Jan-2022
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Hello Michele! Thank you for your respectful and encouraging review with a sixth star to go along with it, wow! It is not always easy to keep a positive attitude but it helps me to stay aimed at my goals!
Yes, other readers say that my work inspires them and that encourages me to keep writing stuff like this!
I appreciate your kind comments and saying that this piece resonates with you.
Have a wonderful upcoming week, my friend!
Jesse
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You're very welcome, Jesse, and you truly deserved the sixth star for honesty, poignancy, and simply the quality of your writing. I can understand how it can be difficult to keep a positive attitude. You're allowed to feel badly. The point is not to wallow in it, and you don't. My mother taught me that, if something goes wrong, I can take the rest of the day to be sad or wallow in self pity but, after that, I have to pull myself up by my bootstraps and do something about it. I've lived my life by my mother's philosophy, and it's helped me through a lot of down times. It seems as though you follow a similar philosophy, and it sounds as though it's served you well.
Have a good night, and I hope things are better for you this week.
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Thanks for your advice, Michele! I am not aware of pulling myself up by my bootstraps so much as I persevere even when things get tough. No matter how our mothers taught us it is up to us to use our surviving skills and live life to the fullest! This is what I believe! Hopefully, things will always get better when facing a new dawn in the early morning hours!
Have a wonderful upcoming week!
Jesse
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The important thing is to have survival skills, and you obviously do. It's the ones like the former Miss USA, who just threw herself of a building who, sadly, lack the survival skills or the support group. You seem to be a very strong person, and your biggest survival skill seems to be hope. Hope implies possibility. If you hope things will get better, you allow for the fact that they can, and that's something worth fighting for. You're like Annie in the musical. You recognize that the sun will always come out tomorrow, meaning tomorrow has the possibility of being a good or, at least, better day.
Enjoy the rest of the week, and keep smiling.
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Yes, Michele, I do have hope! Hope for a better tomorrow, hope for my goals to be reached, and hope for our future even though at times it looks bleak.
I am like Annie, the sun will always come up tomorrow!
Let's both keep smiling!
Jesse
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How can I not smile after hearing you talk that way???
😀😃😄😁🙂
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Haha, have a wonderful weekend!
Jesse
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Thank you. The same to you. We're supposed to have lousy weather in NY this weekend, so I'm hoping to have a wonderful, warm, dry, indoor weekend!!
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Yes, I heard. Keep dry and warm this weekend! Indoors ought to be fun!
Jesse
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Thanks, Jesse. Inside has family, TV, books and computer - and no frozen rain - so that works for me!
Comment from NANCY V. FORREST
An interestin comarion beteen alone and companionship. It is true, of course, tha we are always alone in our own skin. We seldom know what the perception is of what we contribute of those who care for and about us--feel the contribution to those who read or hear our words recieve in their loneliness?
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An interestin comarion beteen alone and companionship. It is true, of course, tha we are always alone in our own skin. We seldom know what the perception is of what we contribute of those who care for and about us--feel the contribution to those who read or hear our words recieve in their loneliness?
Comment Written 25-Jan-2022
Comment from Pam (respa)
-You always have nice artwork for your writing, Jesse.
-I appreciate you sharing your thoughts about some of the issues that are on your mind.
-I think as we age and new situations come along, it takes time to adjust, especially as they are changing a lot, as you indicate in your essay.
-It is easy to rely on others that we care about, and I can understand that feeling of loneliness when they are not.
-I think you have the right idea in your two closing lines.
-It is hard to take one step at a time, but that is a good way to cope and also figure things out.
-Hopefully, you find a good combination that works for you.
-Take care and be well.
reply by the author on 25-Jan-2022
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-You always have nice artwork for your writing, Jesse.
-I appreciate you sharing your thoughts about some of the issues that are on your mind.
-I think as we age and new situations come along, it takes time to adjust, especially as they are changing a lot, as you indicate in your essay.
-It is easy to rely on others that we care about, and I can understand that feeling of loneliness when they are not.
-I think you have the right idea in your two closing lines.
-It is hard to take one step at a time, but that is a good way to cope and also figure things out.
-Hopefully, you find a good combination that works for you.
-Take care and be well.
Comment Written 25-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 25-Jan-2022
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Thank you, Pam, for your most insightful review. You always give an in-depth review and offer suggestions for improvement too.
One step at a time is what you agree with for me to cope and figure things out.
I do still need some assistance in my daily life and so I need caregivers to help me.
Yet, I can no longer afford professional caregivers from Visiting Angels so I am interviewing a wonderful person who works for IHSS a government-paid program that pays minimum wage his name is Sonny and he sounds like a good fit for me so I am excited about the prospects of allowing David to retire and this new person to pick up the slack!
It is my hope that it will all work out in the end!
Have a beautiful day!
Jesse
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You are very welcome for the review, Jessie, and I am glad to hear you have someone in mind that will be able to help. I hope it all works out, too.
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Thanks, Pam!
Take care,
Jesse
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You are welcome, Jesse, and take care, too!
Comment from Mary Shifman
I think I get where you're coming from in this post. I'm living alone now for the first time in my life and mostly I'm okay with it. I have friends. I have hobbies. I have a lot of interests. I don't think I need anyone to take care of me at this point, but there are times when I need help, and there isn't always someone to offer assistance. That's when 'being alone' hits me the hardest.
reply by the author on 25-Jan-2022
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I think I get where you're coming from in this post. I'm living alone now for the first time in my life and mostly I'm okay with it. I have friends. I have hobbies. I have a lot of interests. I don't think I need anyone to take care of me at this point, but there are times when I need help, and there isn't always someone to offer assistance. That's when 'being alone' hits me the hardest.
Comment Written 24-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 25-Jan-2022
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Thanks, Mary, for your introspective review. When it comes to needing assistance I need it on a daily basis. Yet, finding money to pay for professional caregivers is hard for me being on disability as I am. Other than that, I too have hobbies such as writing to occupy my time. Making friends is difficult for me since it is hard for me to leave my apartment in a wheelchair. So, I spend a lot of time alone and it is usually okay with me.
Thanks for sharing and for letting me share as well.
Have a wonderful week,
Jesse
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You are very welcome. I recently lost my husband and now I'm on my own. I'm thankful that I can still get around, but walking is hard for me and doing things like cleaning the snow off my car and carrying in the groceries or taking out the trash (I use a wagon) is challenging and often exhausting. It takes so much more energy to do everything now days. I have no one to help with these things so it's something of a struggle so I can understand your situatiion.
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Thanks, Mary, that is very kind of you.
Jesse
Comment from Gert sherwood
to be alone
Independence
Jesse James Doty
My you did well telling us readers about being alone
I like your answer to your questions---
If I choose the latter of the two, will I be happy and satisfied with myself? Good question. When it comes to being alone I will take each day as it comes and work on improving myself.
By making healthy choices I will achieve my goals one step at a time.
Gert
reply by the author on 25-Jan-2022
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to be alone
Independence
Jesse James Doty
My you did well telling us readers about being alone
I like your answer to your questions---
If I choose the latter of the two, will I be happy and satisfied with myself? Good question. When it comes to being alone I will take each day as it comes and work on improving myself.
By making healthy choices I will achieve my goals one step at a time.
Gert
Comment Written 24-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 25-Jan-2022
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Thank you, Gert, for your encouraging review! I appreciate you choosing your favorite part where I answer my stated questions repeating it word for word as I wrote it for this piece.
Enjoy your week,
Jesse
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Jesse James Doty
You are most welcome
Gert
Comment from Wayne Fowler
Well written. Good work.
Good questions.
The implication of the point of view is that the writer is compromised in some way, dependent on support.
If not, if the entire piece is written on an emotional level, he sounds like a perfect candidate for a dog.
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2022
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Well written. Good work.
Good questions.
The implication of the point of view is that the writer is compromised in some way, dependent on support.
If not, if the entire piece is written on an emotional level, he sounds like a perfect candidate for a dog.
Comment Written 24-Jan-2022
reply by the author on 24-Jan-2022
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Thank you, Wayne, for your interesting input. Your first choice is the correct one I am compromised in a way since I am dependent on support. I already have a cat who is my companion animal so I prefer to keep it that way.
Thanks for your kind comments.
Have a wonderful week!
Jesse
Comment from BethShelby
I know that loneliness is a problem for some because, on a daily basis, I deal with a 92 year old cousin who has given up her independence in order to have people around taking care of her. When they leave she is still lonely and has to have someone to talk to. Still, complains about having them tell her what she must do. She misses her independence. For me my independence is paramount. I don't mind being alone. It fact I enjoy it. I'll stay independent as long as I possible can.
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I know that loneliness is a problem for some because, on a daily basis, I deal with a 92 year old cousin who has given up her independence in order to have people around taking care of her. When they leave she is still lonely and has to have someone to talk to. Still, complains about having them tell her what she must do. She misses her independence. For me my independence is paramount. I don't mind being alone. It fact I enjoy it. I'll stay independent as long as I possible can.
Comment Written 23-Jan-2022
Comment from PoemsOfDD
This is a well writing piece that ponders on the question of being alone, independence and yet dependent on others. It is the human interaction and energy felt from others that leaves one more 'empty' when those dynamics are not around. But, in these 'empty' moments, the gap can be filled with giving of self - even if that giving is to a pet... a cat or lizard or other being that needs caring for. I enjoyed this read and how it made me reflect on life and need. Thank you for that.
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This is a well writing piece that ponders on the question of being alone, independence and yet dependent on others. It is the human interaction and energy felt from others that leaves one more 'empty' when those dynamics are not around. But, in these 'empty' moments, the gap can be filled with giving of self - even if that giving is to a pet... a cat or lizard or other being that needs caring for. I enjoyed this read and how it made me reflect on life and need. Thank you for that.
Comment Written 23-Jan-2022
Comment from Ric Myworld
You have made some good points, and points that many of us have to deal with in our own lives daily. And in truth, I don't know if there is any definite answers that will suit all of us. One day at time is the best answer for me. Thanks for sharing.
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You have made some good points, and points that many of us have to deal with in our own lives daily. And in truth, I don't know if there is any definite answers that will suit all of us. One day at time is the best answer for me. Thanks for sharing.
Comment Written 22-Jan-2022