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Comment from harmony13
Great Advice! The author describes well the situation. I felt the way the author solved her problem was healthy and positive. Her friends gave excellent advise. I thought about how sometimes we need to consider
the advise of others even if we are hurt or angry. The Chapter flows and
connects well. Thank you for the author notes - they speak volumes!
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Great Advice! The author describes well the situation. I felt the way the author solved her problem was healthy and positive. Her friends gave excellent advise. I thought about how sometimes we need to consider
the advise of others even if we are hurt or angry. The Chapter flows and
connects well. Thank you for the author notes - they speak volumes!
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from Jim Wile
This is such excellent advice, Barbara. If you can look at yourself honestly and know that you have made a reasonable remark or request or suggestion, and it is not well taken, then the fault is probably with the other person, and you must "consider the source," as you say. I'm so glad you learned that lesson and gained confidence in yourself. This is a great lesson to pass on to your young granddaughters, as it's so important in developing a healthy sense of self-esteem.
It's also important that they realize that people come from different backgrounds and perspectives, and those often bear on how a person responds to things. It's helpful that they understand that and be able to "walk in the other person's shoes" in order to fully comprehend a perceived slight. - Jim
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This is such excellent advice, Barbara. If you can look at yourself honestly and know that you have made a reasonable remark or request or suggestion, and it is not well taken, then the fault is probably with the other person, and you must "consider the source," as you say. I'm so glad you learned that lesson and gained confidence in yourself. This is a great lesson to pass on to your young granddaughters, as it's so important in developing a healthy sense of self-esteem.
It's also important that they realize that people come from different backgrounds and perspectives, and those often bear on how a person responds to things. It's helpful that they understand that and be able to "walk in the other person's shoes" in order to fully comprehend a perceived slight. - Jim
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 30-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from royowen
Yes, my mother in law and I didn't really get on, I was never good enough for her daughter, we had a truce going most of the time, giving her grandchildren helped a little, but she died, a few years later. My mum wasn't always kind to my wife either, Beautifully written Barbara, blessings Roy
Typo : Because life (it) way too short, is?
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Yes, my mother in law and I didn't really get on, I was never good enough for her daughter, we had a truce going most of the time, giving her grandchildren helped a little, but she died, a few years later. My mum wasn't always kind to my wife either, Beautifully written Barbara, blessings Roy
Typo : Because life (it) way too short, is?
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 29-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the catch. I have corrected that error. I appreciate the help.
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Most welcome
Comment from damommy
Thank goodness, I never had a mother-in-law problem. She was totally disinterested in everyone. However, I try to be a good MIL, and I think I have succeeded somewhat. Three years after my son's death, his widow still calls me and visits.
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Thank goodness, I never had a mother-in-law problem. She was totally disinterested in everyone. However, I try to be a good MIL, and I think I have succeeded somewhat. Three years after my son's death, his widow still calls me and visits.
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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That's good. I have a great relationship with my three daughters-in-law. My youngest isn't married. Thank you for the supprot.
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Good for you!
Comment from nomi338
There is a reason that Jesus told Peter he must forgive 77 times 7, meaning that the act of forgiveness has no limit. When you forgive it is not for the offenders sake, it is for yours. You see God has told us not to seek revenge, He is the one who will repay the hurt, the wrong. We are to remain blameless by being forgiving without regret. If he could forgive those who murdered his precious son, surely we can forgive a careless, thoughtless remark's temporary sting.
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There is a reason that Jesus told Peter he must forgive 77 times 7, meaning that the act of forgiveness has no limit. When you forgive it is not for the offenders sake, it is for yours. You see God has told us not to seek revenge, He is the one who will repay the hurt, the wrong. We are to remain blameless by being forgiving without regret. If he could forgive those who murdered his precious son, surely we can forgive a careless, thoughtless remark's temporary sting.
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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AMEN!! Thank you for the support.
Comment from Jannypan (Jan)
Your letter and reasoning made a lot of sense,
Barbara. I'm glad you took the road you did.
At least you seemed to hold no grudge--sorry
for how you MIL died. You gave your grans some
excellent advice that will guide them throughout
their lives.
Thanks for sharing, Jan
reply by the author on 29-Jun-2023
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Your letter and reasoning made a lot of sense,
Barbara. I'm glad you took the road you did.
At least you seemed to hold no grudge--sorry
for how you MIL died. You gave your grans some
excellent advice that will guide them throughout
their lives.
Thanks for sharing, Jan
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 29-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the support.
Comment from jessizero
This was a great letter. It reminded me of my mother's relationship with my late grandmother, which actually didn't improve. I admired your lessons learned. Thanks for sharing, and best wishes to you as you continue these letters.
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This was a great letter. It reminded me of my mother's relationship with my late grandmother, which actually didn't improve. I admired your lessons learned. Thanks for sharing, and best wishes to you as you continue these letters.
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the support.
Comment from GWHARGIS
Sorry, Barbara, I don't have a six. This deserved one. This drew me right in. It showed you then and now. What you learned and how you were affected. This was a wonderful letter. Sorry all I have to give is a virtual six. Gretchen
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Sorry, Barbara, I don't have a six. This deserved one. This drew me right in. It showed you then and now. What you learned and how you were affected. This was a wonderful letter. Sorry all I have to give is a virtual six. Gretchen
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 29-Jun-2023
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No problem with the six. I appreciate you dropping by and reading and giving me your support. That's important.
Comment from Terry Broxson
Barbara, what wonderful advice you have passed on. When I read the comment about her marrying into the Wilkeys like you, I laughed. Your project and approach are well done. Terry.
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Barbara, what wonderful advice you have passed on. When I read the comment about her marrying into the Wilkeys like you, I laughed. Your project and approach are well done. Terry.
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the kind support.
Comment from lyenochka
What a great message for your granddaughters! We all have had hurtful people in our lives but you were able to show God's grace to your mother-in-law! You conquered through God's love and grace!
Suggestions :
No apostrophe after birthdays in: An example: For birthdays' she
all began to make since. (sense)
reply by the author on 29-Jun-2023
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What a great message for your granddaughters! We all have had hurtful people in our lives but you were able to show God's grace to your mother-in-law! You conquered through God's love and grace!
Suggestions :
No apostrophe after birthdays in: An example: For birthdays' she
all began to make since. (sense)
Comment Written 29-Jun-2023
reply by the author on 29-Jun-2023
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Thank you for the catches. I have made the corrections. I appreciate the help.