Grammy's Memoirs 2018
Viewing comments for Chapter 2 "Accidental baby"Bits and pieces of my life for my grandchildren
46 total reviews
Comment from lyenochka
Praise God for the written word and that you turned to literature and not destructive means of escape! Sounds like a really rough beginning but thanking God for His protection as things potentially could have been worse as I know from others' lives.
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Praise God for the written word and that you turned to literature and not destructive means of escape! Sounds like a really rough beginning but thanking God for His protection as things potentially could have been worse as I know from others' lives.
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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thank you so much for your thoughtful review. With a great deal of help from loving friends, and the wisdom of a few counselors, I was able to leave the horror of my childhood behind. Thank goodness for books!
~patty~
Comment from Thomas Bowling
I'm sorry to hear about your troubled upbringing. Life is hard if you have parents with no parenting skills. But in the end you turned out fine.
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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I'm sorry to hear about your troubled upbringing. Life is hard if you have parents with no parenting skills. But in the end you turned out fine.
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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thank you so much for your thoughtful review. With a great deal of help from loving friends, and the wisdom of a few counselors, I was able to leave the horror of my childhood behind. Thank goodness for books!
~patty~
Comment from angelface2
You did a great job of describing your earliest years. I hope later years are better for you. I had a hard life too, but different than yours. Nicely done. Miss Sally
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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You did a great job of describing your earliest years. I hope later years are better for you. I had a hard life too, but different than yours. Nicely done. Miss Sally
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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thank you so much for your thoughtful review. With a great deal of help from loving friends, and the wisdom of a few counselors, I was able to leave the horror of my childhood behind. Thank goodness for books!
~patty~
Comment from JW
Thanks for sharing this. In reading your work. I can imagine how your childhood was.
Personally, I can relate to a lot of it since my father was an abusive, alcoholic.
I'll be looking forward to your upcoming chapters. JW
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Thanks for sharing this. In reading your work. I can imagine how your childhood was.
Personally, I can relate to a lot of it since my father was an abusive, alcoholic.
I'll be looking forward to your upcoming chapters. JW
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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thank you so much for your thoughtful review. With a great deal of help from loving friends, and the wisdom of a few counselors, I was able to leave the horror of my childhood behind. Thank goodness for books!
~patty~
Comment from Gypsy Blue Rose
Hello,
In my house it was my grandmother and my father... they fought viciously. My mom was quite and gentle. Your early life was horrible, I am sorry.
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Hello,
In my house it was my grandmother and my father... they fought viciously. My mom was quite and gentle. Your early life was horrible, I am sorry.
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Hi Gypsy; it took awhile, but with the help of loving friends and a few good therapists, I was able to move past the horror that was my childhood. Thank you so much for the loving review,
~patty~
Comment from Phyllis Stewart
I can't imagine a child going thru this and not coming out traumatized. I'm constantly shocked by HOW MANY Fanstory members have similar tales of childhood abuse. My childhood was mediocre, with limited trauma, so I really can't relate. I can only guess what horror you lived thru and how it affected you. You do seem to have gotten past it... you seem very stable and normal. Just goes to show you, people do have the ability to change and grow. Often it takes some help, tho. Did you have to see a therapist?
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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I can't imagine a child going thru this and not coming out traumatized. I'm constantly shocked by HOW MANY Fanstory members have similar tales of childhood abuse. My childhood was mediocre, with limited trauma, so I really can't relate. I can only guess what horror you lived thru and how it affected you. You do seem to have gotten past it... you seem very stable and normal. Just goes to show you, people do have the ability to change and grow. Often it takes some help, tho. Did you have to see a therapist?
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Hi Phyllis; YES, I spent a great deal of time and money for therapy. I was lucky to get through to the other side. My sister, who doesn't believe in psychiatry, has never really dealt with the trauma in our house, and at almost 67 years of age, she is still prone to temper tantrums. I think we see so many adult survivors on FanStory, because writing is its own form of therapy. Thank you for your warm review and words of encouragement,
~patty~
I really don't think I'm normal though :)
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I'm sure you are not normal, but you are good at acting the part. By the way, in your name, is MUSTANG a horse or a car?
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a car - I've owned about eight different ones since I started driving. I will write about them in the near future,
~patty~
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Cool. Do you have photos?
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Yes, I do. A ton of them!
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Good. You can post them with your story.
Comment from rtobaygo
Good afternoon, Patty
First, thank you for sharing. I cannot imagine what you had to endure and yet (thank God for books) you didn't let this change you. A drunken father is no father. The fact your brother and isiter were responsible for you only added to their resentment.
Take care and stay safe,
Ray
PS: Out of 6's
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Good afternoon, Patty
First, thank you for sharing. I cannot imagine what you had to endure and yet (thank God for books) you didn't let this change you. A drunken father is no father. The fact your brother and isiter were responsible for you only added to their resentment.
Take care and stay safe,
Ray
PS: Out of 6's
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Hi Ray; I'll take a virtual six any day of the week! I so appreciate your kind words and I'm thankful that God was by my side through all of it. The healing process was really enhance with this writing,
~patty~
Comment from dovemarie
Dear patty,
I can relate to this story. I suffered psychological and some physical abuse because of my mental problems. I didn't have a good physical appearance, and though I was not the youngest the way you are, I landed in a mental institution because of being "picked on" I can imagine how hard it must have been for you to write the chapter, it's hard just thinking about things like this. Dove
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Dear patty,
I can relate to this story. I suffered psychological and some physical abuse because of my mental problems. I didn't have a good physical appearance, and though I was not the youngest the way you are, I landed in a mental institution because of being "picked on" I can imagine how hard it must have been for you to write the chapter, it's hard just thinking about things like this. Dove
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Hi Dove; thank you for your kind and thoughtful review. Thanks to a lot of therapy, I can write this story and see how much I've healed. My mother didn't believe in psychiatry, so I never got any help when I was young, but my time in the military gave me some counseling, and I've spent a fortune over the last thirty years. My hospitalizations were from the times that the nightmares became too much for me,
~patty~
Comment from patcelaw
My what a cute baby you were. I had pictures taken of my youngest daughter at about that age and one of the poses was much like this one. The way they posed the child made the child look older than 3 months. I enjoyed the story. I too do not have a lot of pictures of me as a child. Patricia
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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My what a cute baby you were. I had pictures taken of my youngest daughter at about that age and one of the poses was much like this one. The way they posed the child made the child look older than 3 months. I enjoyed the story. I too do not have a lot of pictures of me as a child. Patricia
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Hi Patricia; thank you for stopping by to read and review. My kids love the picture, and now that I have a granddaughter, we can all see the family resemblance in her little face.
~patty~
Comment from apky
This story of you and your brother and sister reminded me of the passage in Roman's story, when he goes to Geneva and plans his first dinner evening with Alyssa. I don't know if you read that chapter or if you started somewhere later:
>>I was a disturbance factor to Florian and Gabrielle. It never occurred to them, it seemed, that they were my disturbance factors. The story has it that from my infancy, they'd throw magnificent tantrums when Mummy was preoccupied with me. She would of course place me in Papa's, or more often the maid's, arms and dash off to her little darlings.
As I got older, I acquired my own ways and means of sabotages. I'd have horrible tummy aches for hours, secretly eat things that would make me throw up intermittently for days. A grazed knee was a blessing. I could even summon a "temperature" at will and keep it going, going, going.
Mummy would not leave my side. She'd ask the maid or anybody else to take the competitive stepchildren off to the park or the ice cream parlour.
I don't remember when Florian began calling me Dudelsack (later shortened to Dudels, rhymes with noodles), and when Gaby joined forces with him. In the beginning I didn't mind it at all.<<
Brilliant and I'll be watchingh out for more,
Apky
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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This story of you and your brother and sister reminded me of the passage in Roman's story, when he goes to Geneva and plans his first dinner evening with Alyssa. I don't know if you read that chapter or if you started somewhere later:
>>I was a disturbance factor to Florian and Gabrielle. It never occurred to them, it seemed, that they were my disturbance factors. The story has it that from my infancy, they'd throw magnificent tantrums when Mummy was preoccupied with me. She would of course place me in Papa's, or more often the maid's, arms and dash off to her little darlings.
As I got older, I acquired my own ways and means of sabotages. I'd have horrible tummy aches for hours, secretly eat things that would make me throw up intermittently for days. A grazed knee was a blessing. I could even summon a "temperature" at will and keep it going, going, going.
Mummy would not leave my side. She'd ask the maid or anybody else to take the competitive stepchildren off to the park or the ice cream parlour.
I don't remember when Florian began calling me Dudelsack (later shortened to Dudels, rhymes with noodles), and when Gaby joined forces with him. In the beginning I didn't mind it at all.<<
Brilliant and I'll be watchingh out for more,
Apky
Comment Written 21-Apr-2017
reply by the author on 21-Apr-2017
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Hi Apky; I came to the story later in the telling. I need to make time and go back to the previous chapters. I think all too often, late babies are treated harshly by their siblings. I do appreciate your time to read and review,
~patty~