The Brevity of Life
My neighbor passed unexpectedly the other night26 total reviews
Comment from damommy
Any death is a surprise. As you said, we think we have forever to think about those things. I have everything in order, and with only one surviving son, there's no problem of who gets what. I'm so sorry about your neighbor. Even though you weren't close, you knew she was there. There's a void there now. I will pray for the poor husband.
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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Any death is a surprise. As you said, we think we have forever to think about those things. I have everything in order, and with only one surviving son, there's no problem of who gets what. I'm so sorry about your neighbor. Even though you weren't close, you knew she was there. There's a void there now. I will pray for the poor husband.
Comment Written 03-Dec-2022
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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Thanks so much for your caring spirit Yvonne. I visited him yesterday. On the surface he seemed to be taking it in stride, but I know that it's a shock. He hasn't eaten for two days, so we'll be bringing him dinner tonight and hope he has an appetite now. Of course he's been overwhelmed with phone calls from family and friends and for now just wants time to sort things out. I appreciate your prayers for him.
Have a blessed day gal.
Tom
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You two are good friends. Bless you.
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
When something like this happens we think of our own mortality. This lady died at a young age but her lifestyle did not help her to live a long life. We all have our vices and no one is perfect and we can sometimes dodge the bullet, but our life span is in the lap of God, but we can try and live healthily which will increase the years we have left. One thing is for sure, once the curtain closes there is no turning back and life is over and any problems left behind will not longer be our responsibility, best not make too many preparations and concentrate on living, love Dolly x
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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When something like this happens we think of our own mortality. This lady died at a young age but her lifestyle did not help her to live a long life. We all have our vices and no one is perfect and we can sometimes dodge the bullet, but our life span is in the lap of God, but we can try and live healthily which will increase the years we have left. One thing is for sure, once the curtain closes there is no turning back and life is over and any problems left behind will not longer be our responsibility, best not make too many preparations and concentrate on living, love Dolly x
Comment Written 03-Dec-2022
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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Hello Dolly,
You're right about our lifestyles. I think we tempt fate when we refuse to take care of the bodies we've been blessed with. I suppose life is a bit of a balancing act at times. Some people live a life taking great risks, and they get great pleasure from defeating the odds, others live rather sedentary lives, but in the end, we all pass. Personally, I would like to have everything in order when I go, and once that is out of the way, live what is left of my life to the fullest. Thanks so much for your thoughtful comments gal.
Have a blessed day.
Tom
Comment from lyenochka
What struck me most about your post is your caring heart. Even though you weren't close to your neighbor, you put yourself in your neighbor's shoes and considered all he might be going through. That's loving your neighbor. And yes, we all have an expiration date and only God knows the time. We try to be prepared. I think the whole burial plot is going by the wayside as more people choose cremation now. Land is too expensive. Online memorials are better for relatives and friends scattered all over the country. Thanks for sharing, Tom!
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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What struck me most about your post is your caring heart. Even though you weren't close to your neighbor, you put yourself in your neighbor's shoes and considered all he might be going through. That's loving your neighbor. And yes, we all have an expiration date and only God knows the time. We try to be prepared. I think the whole burial plot is going by the wayside as more people choose cremation now. Land is too expensive. Online memorials are better for relatives and friends scattered all over the country. Thanks for sharing, Tom!
Comment Written 03-Dec-2022
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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Hello Helen,
thanks for your thoughtful review gal. I just feel bad for him. When I visited yesterday, he mentioned that he would never marry again, she was the love of his life. I know that over time we learn to carry on, but there is always that hole left behind. I think the best we can do is offer our love and support and of course our prayers. I agree with you about cremation. I think it costs less, and it certainly takes up less space.
Have a blessed day gal.
Tom
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Glad he has the best neighbors in you and Jan!
Comment from Carol Hillebrenner
Your article raises a lot of interesting problems we don't think of because most of us think we will live forever, or at least through tomorrow. I cleaned out my mother's house with my sister and then I cleaned out my mother-in-law's house because her kids wanted it done but knew she'd hate whoever did it. She never threw anything away and they didn't get blamed for getting rid of her stuff. It was sadder, however, when my forty-year-old daughter died, and she had nothing to leave her children.
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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Your article raises a lot of interesting problems we don't think of because most of us think we will live forever, or at least through tomorrow. I cleaned out my mother's house with my sister and then I cleaned out my mother-in-law's house because her kids wanted it done but knew she'd hate whoever did it. She never threw anything away and they didn't get blamed for getting rid of her stuff. It was sadder, however, when my forty-year-old daughter died, and she had nothing to leave her children.
Comment Written 02-Dec-2022
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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Hello Carol.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. For some reason so many of us refuse to believe that we have an expiration date, although everywhere we turn it's obvious that we're going to die. Passing away at an early age like your daughter did, there wasn't as much time to accumulate physical things. I hope that her children have pleasant memories of their mom at least. Thanks for the great review and comments.
Have a blessed evening.
Tom
Comment from Tom Horonzy
It's hard to imagine, but never given thought. Though I lost my dad at 17 when he was split in half by a railway car, it was a good thing for him at 48, as he was hobbled by arthritis and shouldn't have been hopping rails to line up the where to and whens. I was away in the Navy. We weren't close anyway. As for death, idk. I know it's more to the front of me than behind, and I don't expect tears to leak when I pass on, save for my wife perhaps, and my youngest daughter. The oldest one is stoic as I am. Time for bed. Sleep tight, and praise the arrival of the new day, I'd say.
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reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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It's hard to imagine, but never given thought. Though I lost my dad at 17 when he was split in half by a railway car, it was a good thing for him at 48, as he was hobbled by arthritis and shouldn't have been hopping rails to line up the where to and whens. I was away in the Navy. We weren't close anyway. As for death, idk. I know it's more to the front of me than behind, and I don't expect tears to leak when I pass on, save for my wife perhaps, and my youngest daughter. The oldest one is stoic as I am. Time for bed. Sleep tight, and praise the arrival of the new day, I'd say.
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Comment Written 02-Dec-2022
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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Hello Tom,
I seem to recall hearing about your father. Frankly, though it might have been relief from pain, it sounds like an awful way to pass. You never know who might cry at your passing. Perhaps some of your Fan Story family. There was a lady who I didn't care for on the farm who died unexpectedly. I was on the phone speaking to a business when I got word of her passing. I had to call back because I was overwhelmed by the news and started crying. I think I felt bad for her family more than anything. Thanks for sharing your views my friend.
Have a blessed evening.
Tom
Comment from Elizabeth Emerald
Compelling and thought-provoking reflections. This resonates--as I age, I become increasingly preoccupied with thoughts of dementia and death and disposition of my estate. Well done.
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Compelling and thought-provoking reflections. This resonates--as I age, I become increasingly preoccupied with thoughts of dementia and death and disposition of my estate. Well done.
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Comment Written 02-Dec-2022
reply by the author on 03-Dec-2022
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Hello Liz,
I'm so glad you dropped by. You get up in the morning and go about your day, maybe make some plans for the future, whether it's what to have for lunch or where you'll go on vacation this coming summer. I think I may be living on borrowed time. There's no guarantee that I'll see tomorrow. I want to do all the good I can now. I want my friends to know how much I appreciate them, and so, I want to say, I cherish your friendship. I love your sense of humor. That being said, nonetheless, I'd like to rise tomorrow and see if I have any more reviews.
Have a blessed evening gal.
Tom
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Thanks for this! Back at you.
