Grammy's Memoirs 2018
Viewing comments for Chapter 7 "A Memoir of Love"Bits and pieces of my life for my grandchildren
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Comment from mbroyles2
I admire your courage to tackle such a personal and sensitive subject. I'm not God so I do not have to, nor should I, pass judgment. I'm convinced that if we do a good enough job displaying the love of Christ, his convicting spirit will lead us through a path of righteousness. I have no answers and my personal convictions are mine and best kept to myself unless I come across condescending and judgmental. You painted a picture of a mother who loves her child and nothing more. Who decent among us wouldn't do the same when it comes to our children? Why should we expect anything different from our Saviour?
Michael
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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I admire your courage to tackle such a personal and sensitive subject. I'm not God so I do not have to, nor should I, pass judgment. I'm convinced that if we do a good enough job displaying the love of Christ, his convicting spirit will lead us through a path of righteousness. I have no answers and my personal convictions are mine and best kept to myself unless I come across condescending and judgmental. You painted a picture of a mother who loves her child and nothing more. Who decent among us wouldn't do the same when it comes to our children? Why should we expect anything different from our Saviour?
Michael
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 09-Jul-2017
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Hi Michael; thank you so much for your heartfelt review of this piece,
~patty~
Comment from XGoneX
Hi Patty,
This is a beautiful picture of your son. This piece is written conveying much love and honesty.
You did what every good parent would do, and it should not matter what other people think. It's their problem, not yours.
I had a friend gay. We played together since we were five, six years old. He told me he was gay about the same age your son did. But I guess it did not come as a surprise, because signs were all there. His parents did not have the best reaction, but eventually they had no option but face reality and accept it.
I'm bisexual. My first relationship was with a girl, my best friend. Parents found out and did not go well. It was a very painful experience.
Your son was lucky to have you accepting for what he was and fighting for him.
Good luck in this contest.
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Patty,
This is a beautiful picture of your son. This piece is written conveying much love and honesty.
You did what every good parent would do, and it should not matter what other people think. It's their problem, not yours.
I had a friend gay. We played together since we were five, six years old. He told me he was gay about the same age your son did. But I guess it did not come as a surprise, because signs were all there. His parents did not have the best reaction, but eventually they had no option but face reality and accept it.
I'm bisexual. My first relationship was with a girl, my best friend. Parents found out and did not go well. It was a very painful experience.
Your son was lucky to have you accepting for what he was and fighting for him.
Good luck in this contest.
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi there; thank you so much for your very supportive review. I appreciate you sharing with me, and I hope that you, too have someone in your corner,
~patty~
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Hi Patty.
I don't really care about support anymore, in this case. I've learned long ago not to care about what people think about me or my choices. Presently, I live for my writing, not relationships, and I'm quite spiritual (not religious). Past relationships didn't work in part because of my goals and lifestyle. I chose to focus on my books and leave a legacy when I'm gone. A legacy to the people who know me, not necessarily success.
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that is such a wonderful way to live and one I would love to embrace. I'm currently writing to share with my family, and who knows - maybe I will share with the rest of the world - if I'm lucky enough. Perseverance will pay off, I'm sure,
~patty~
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You are already doing a great thing-- sharing with the people you love, your family.
My family never read my work, lol. They know I write fantasy, but never read a paragraph. I never showed them anything, so presently it's more my fault. In the past I had a few issues with my mother regarding writing, though.
Success scares me, and I'm not really sure it's something I crave. I had the chance to be published and refused. I had three literary agents, too. Last year, I decided that self publishing might give me more control and I might do it. Lately, however, I find myself giving excuses. But until I'm ready, I focus on writing and finishing books, readings books in the same genre as mine so I can improve, too, and see how these authors do. It gives a sense of accomplishment already, writing and having time to write without worrying about a day time job. I think I'm already lucky and I'm grateful for this.
I stopped writing for many years. I always felt empty and didn't know why. When I started writing, it made sense, because that was my purpose, if it makes sense.
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Yes, I can see how writing after many years feels like an epiphany. I'm finding that writing on a daily basis is like a balm to my soul. I feel happier than I have in a long time. I think we will both do well - I absolutely love your stories,
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It's the sense of purpose, I believe. We all come to this life with a purpose.
Thank you for the encouragement.
The story I'm presently posting is based on the first book I wrote 'the yellow rose'. the writing was bad, lol. I'm revising it and adding things and characters. The book might end up very long, so I might have to divide it in two books if I don't manage to cut down the wording and scenes: 'the whispers of a rose' and 'welcome to my heart'. People who know that book I wrote years ago keep talking to me about it and how the story inspired them in spite of the poor writing, lol, so I decided it was time to get back to that story. My fantasy books always have a romance element, but this book might be the most romantic book I've ever wrote.
Comment from bookishfabler
Lets start with I saw no nits or spags. That said, I am absolutely delighted you stuck up for your son and told the church where to stick it. Good for you.
Growing up in the eighties and in New York City, I had gay friends. One was one of my best friends at teh time in High school. I am still friends with him, though he now lives in Las Vegas with his husband.
I actually introduced anther friend to her wife. They finally were able to marry, after being together for over 20 years and having a daughter.
Before the government allowed gay marriages, another couple I was friends with here in Florida had issues. Because they couldn't wed, when one of them passed away expectantly, her girlfriend had no rights and the family took everything. She had to move in with her family in Texas.
This is why I am a big believer in being able to marry anyone who is a consenting adult. So, I am very pleased you stood up for Gregory.
Hugs Heidi
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Lets start with I saw no nits or spags. That said, I am absolutely delighted you stuck up for your son and told the church where to stick it. Good for you.
Growing up in the eighties and in New York City, I had gay friends. One was one of my best friends at teh time in High school. I am still friends with him, though he now lives in Las Vegas with his husband.
I actually introduced anther friend to her wife. They finally were able to marry, after being together for over 20 years and having a daughter.
Before the government allowed gay marriages, another couple I was friends with here in Florida had issues. Because they couldn't wed, when one of them passed away expectantly, her girlfriend had no rights and the family took everything. She had to move in with her family in Texas.
This is why I am a big believer in being able to marry anyone who is a consenting adult. So, I am very pleased you stood up for Gregory.
Hugs Heidi
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Heidi; thank you so much for your very supportive review. I think one of the greatest things to happen was the legalization of same sex marriages. How sad that for so long these loving couples were kept from joining their lives. I appreciate you sharing with me and your loving comments,
~patty~
Comment from Asem.inspirations
Good morning Patty,
This is a very heartfelt write about your son. I as a mother know the passion that we feel for our children. We love our children and as Christians, we follow carefully the steps of Jesus Christ and his commandments. The second important commandment that Jesus taught was the love of neighbor as ourselves. We are not supposed to judge. We are not supposed to hate but we follow closely the word of God.
This, of course is a well written story, full of honesty and love...Mama bear really cam out on this one. (smile)
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Good morning Patty,
This is a very heartfelt write about your son. I as a mother know the passion that we feel for our children. We love our children and as Christians, we follow carefully the steps of Jesus Christ and his commandments. The second important commandment that Jesus taught was the love of neighbor as ourselves. We are not supposed to judge. We are not supposed to hate but we follow closely the word of God.
This, of course is a well written story, full of honesty and love...Mama bear really cam out on this one. (smile)
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Tier; thank you so much for the lovely and heartfelt review. I struggle with judging all the time, and I constantly remind myself that the only judge is Jesus, Himself.
~patty~
Comment from Sankey
This was a great story. I can understand your position. I am sorry for the attitude of your old church. God can work it out. Just today we saw a little boy only about 3 with a necklace on and a Gay message. Some have always claimed they were born Gay. I can see from this little boy today he was not born Gay he is being conditioned to follow whatever preference his mother has, which is totally wrong. He should have been allowed to grow and decide for himself which way he wanted to go.I pray your son grows up to make his own decisions and not be influenced by others in a particular path.
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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This was a great story. I can understand your position. I am sorry for the attitude of your old church. God can work it out. Just today we saw a little boy only about 3 with a necklace on and a Gay message. Some have always claimed they were born Gay. I can see from this little boy today he was not born Gay he is being conditioned to follow whatever preference his mother has, which is totally wrong. He should have been allowed to grow and decide for himself which way he wanted to go.I pray your son grows up to make his own decisions and not be influenced by others in a particular path.
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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thank you for your review,
~patty~
Comment from Barb Hensongispsaca
OH my lady, this will not happen I am sure. PEOPle are open minded and if they are not, they are nothing and you remember that. I had to learn that. This is an excellently done story on someone you love. YOu followed the rules and it is an excellent piece.
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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OH my lady, this will not happen I am sure. PEOPle are open minded and if they are not, they are nothing and you remember that. I had to learn that. This is an excellently done story on someone you love. YOu followed the rules and it is an excellent piece.
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Barb; thank you so much for your heartfelt review,
~patty~
Comment from Nikki-Nicole
After reading 'A Memoir of Love', I find that it is a very good story and meets the requirements of the contest and makes a good entry.
Lovely Photo. Handsome Guy. The image shown supports the topic discussed.
We have to love everyone, especially our children. A real mother's love is unconditional. We may not like who our children have become or agree with the things they do, but we must see past all of that and love them anyway.
The author's notes are appreciated. We cannot judge anyone. Before one points a finger, one must first look at self.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Good luck with your future writing.
-Nicole-
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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After reading 'A Memoir of Love', I find that it is a very good story and meets the requirements of the contest and makes a good entry.
Lovely Photo. Handsome Guy. The image shown supports the topic discussed.
We have to love everyone, especially our children. A real mother's love is unconditional. We may not like who our children have become or agree with the things they do, but we must see past all of that and love them anyway.
The author's notes are appreciated. We cannot judge anyone. Before one points a finger, one must first look at self.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Good luck with your future writing.
-Nicole-
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Nicole; thank you so much for the wonderful review. This piece was truly hard to write, and I've been pleasantly surprised by the responses I've received,
~patty~
Comment from MelB
He's a good looking boy, and I'm sure it's been hard for all. I agree with you about love and that God has called us to love. Although the pastors may have went about it wrong, I think their hearts were in the right place, in wanting to help your son. I'm not sure "fix" is the right word. One thing that disturbs me about Christians is when I hear we are not to judge. We make judgments every day. We are to judge sin, when the person says they are a Christian. The goal is always to bring them to repentance and back to God's will, and we are to speak the truth in love. We are not to judge someone's heart. Only God can do that. I'm including a link that explains way better than I ever could (http://www.christianissues.biz/judging.html). I think sometimes our idea of love is a little bit skewed too, as believers. I would certainly hope no one would withdraw friendship or reading your work. Of course, I've had it done to me, just for quoting the bible. This is a heartfelt piece, by a loving mom, and I wish you the best in the contest.
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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He's a good looking boy, and I'm sure it's been hard for all. I agree with you about love and that God has called us to love. Although the pastors may have went about it wrong, I think their hearts were in the right place, in wanting to help your son. I'm not sure "fix" is the right word. One thing that disturbs me about Christians is when I hear we are not to judge. We make judgments every day. We are to judge sin, when the person says they are a Christian. The goal is always to bring them to repentance and back to God's will, and we are to speak the truth in love. We are not to judge someone's heart. Only God can do that. I'm including a link that explains way better than I ever could (http://www.christianissues.biz/judging.html). I think sometimes our idea of love is a little bit skewed too, as believers. I would certainly hope no one would withdraw friendship or reading your work. Of course, I've had it done to me, just for quoting the bible. This is a heartfelt piece, by a loving mom, and I wish you the best in the contest.
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Mel; thank you so much for your loving and encouraging review. I appreciate your support,
~patty~
Comment from Jacqueline M Franklin
Hi, Patty
= Your story comes from the heart.
= It cannot be easy for any of you--yet, your family are sticking together.
= As do you, I believe God sees all we do, knows if we are pure--kind--respectful down to our souls--that's what counts.
= Well penned. Good luck in the contest.
<> A Smile Is A Frown Turned Upside-down (*>*)
<> Cheers <> Jax / Jackie
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi, Patty
= Your story comes from the heart.
= It cannot be easy for any of you--yet, your family are sticking together.
= As do you, I believe God sees all we do, knows if we are pure--kind--respectful down to our souls--that's what counts.
= Well penned. Good luck in the contest.
<> A Smile Is A Frown Turned Upside-down (*>*)
<> Cheers <> Jax / Jackie
Comment Written 08-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Jax; thank you so much for this kind and supportive review,
~patty~
Comment from BeasPeas
This is an excellent story in support of your son. Most parents with gay children feel the same way, I think. Parental love doesn't change. Your piece is well written and clear. Thank you for sharing. Marilyn
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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This is an excellent story in support of your son. Most parents with gay children feel the same way, I think. Parental love doesn't change. Your piece is well written and clear. Thank you for sharing. Marilyn
Comment Written 07-Jul-2017
reply by the author on 08-Jul-2017
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Hi Marilyn; thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful review. I appreciate your continued support of my work,
~patty~