Geoffrey's Musings.
Viewing comments for Chapter 1 "Energy In Hugs"A book of Stories, Essays and Poetry.
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Comment from ExperiencingLiphe
My husband will come up and hug me and stuff in the kitchen as I'm doing dishes or cooking. It was weird at first because my parents don't show that side of things in front of us. I'm sure they did at one time but they don't do it now. Affection is something that you have to learn is okay. Coming from some abuse I have my moments where I'm just not that touchy feely but I have to learn that not all touches are bad. When I moved down south I had to learn that everyone hugs. I didn't matter if you knew them or not, they were going to hug you. I love that you said if more people we'd have less mental breakdowns. I cry over everything! Happy things, sad thing, sweet gestures, older people talking about their loved ones, a co-worker quitting that I love but I know she's going to be doing such amazing things in her life. They all make me cry!
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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My husband will come up and hug me and stuff in the kitchen as I'm doing dishes or cooking. It was weird at first because my parents don't show that side of things in front of us. I'm sure they did at one time but they don't do it now. Affection is something that you have to learn is okay. Coming from some abuse I have my moments where I'm just not that touchy feely but I have to learn that not all touches are bad. When I moved down south I had to learn that everyone hugs. I didn't matter if you knew them or not, they were going to hug you. I love that you said if more people we'd have less mental breakdowns. I cry over everything! Happy things, sad thing, sweet gestures, older people talking about their loved ones, a co-worker quitting that I love but I know she's going to be doing such amazing things in her life. They all make me cry!
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Thanks mate. You are a wonderful friend and I am sorry for any abuse you experienced. I wonder if it is worth writing about in here. We have had some of the FS folks sharing about their awful times. Only if you feel like you want to. I know folks would be supportive. I did think of that aspect for some about hugging too, sorry.
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I wrote a book about it and published it in March. It's out there for the world to read. Where did they share their stories on here?
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Thanks mate. You are a wonderful friend and I am sorry for any abuse you experienced. I wonder if it is worth writing about in here. We have had some of the FS folks sharing about their awful times. Only if you feel like you want to. I know folks would be supportive. I did think of that aspect for some about hugging too, sorry.
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Have to rack my brains and remember who it was. One of them has now died I think. Look for Krystal something. She was another one.
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I started reading your book today. Do you know Melissa Brown in here.
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Yes, I do. I also have her book :)
Comment from Thomas Bowling
It's hard to understand why some people have a difficult time showing or receiving affection. Perhaps there is some incident in their past that the don't care to remember.
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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It's hard to understand why some people have a difficult time showing or receiving affection. Perhaps there is some incident in their past that the don't care to remember.
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Yes Bro if you read back one of my great reviewers expressed that as well. I have encouraged her to write about her abuse. I know FS'ers would be supportive to her.
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Yes Bro if you read back one of my great reviewers expressed that as well. I have encouraged her to write about her abuse. I know FS'ers would be supportive to her.
Comment from Sasha
Personally, I think the fear of showing affection in public was initiated by an archaic belief that it was considered improper. While I understand you POV, I disagree. I don't think those that failed to receive affection as children will necessarily grow up looking for it somewhere else. I believe, having never experienced it many assume it does not exist or they also decide it is inappropriate. How can you miss something you never had?
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Personally, I think the fear of showing affection in public was initiated by an archaic belief that it was considered improper. While I understand you POV, I disagree. I don't think those that failed to receive affection as children will necessarily grow up looking for it somewhere else. I believe, having never experienced it many assume it does not exist or they also decide it is inappropriate. How can you miss something you never had?
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Yes I guess you are right, mate. I believe I learned affection from my Mum more than anything, and Louise definitely sought affection that never really came from her own Mum.
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Yes I guess you are right, mate. I believe I learned affection from my Mum more than anything, and Louise definitely sought affection that never really came from her own Mum.
Comment from Jacqueline M Franklin
Hi, Geoff
= I absolutely agree with you.
= There are great public shows of affection that are very appropriate, and nurturing.
= These days, however, much of the young have no clue of which you speak.
= Excellent write, my friend.
= Best thoughts and prayers to Louise and her recovery, and you as well.
Cheers ... Jax (*<*)
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Hi, Geoff
= I absolutely agree with you.
= There are great public shows of affection that are very appropriate, and nurturing.
= These days, however, much of the young have no clue of which you speak.
= Excellent write, my friend.
= Best thoughts and prayers to Louise and her recovery, and you as well.
Cheers ... Jax (*<*)
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Thanks, old mate. So good having you back around us again. We mustn't let the negatives in this place rule us. I have acquired a whole bunch of new wonderful friends since I stayed. Love you in Him. We may get Louise home for a few weeks soon before she returns for more treatment. pray that the place can be set up for her comfort. Long story for someplace else.
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Thanks, old mate. So good having you back around us again. We mustn't let the negatives in this place rule us. I have acquired a whole bunch of new wonderful friends since I stayed. Love you in Him. We may get Louise home for a few weeks soon before she returns for more treatment. pray that the place can be set up for her comfort. Long story for someplace else.
Comment from sunao
Wow, brilliant! The other day, I just learned that in some schools in Japan, it is forbidden to hug. I was shocked. Showing affection is not very much in the Japanese culture. I think this also contributes to the high suicide rate.
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Wow, brilliant! The other day, I just learned that in some schools in Japan, it is forbidden to hug. I was shocked. Showing affection is not very much in the Japanese culture. I think this also contributes to the high suicide rate.
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Hi Sis, I heard the word "sorry" is not in their vocabulary either. Maybe since WWII that might have changed?? Thanks for the lovely review.
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Your welcome!
Comment from Curly Girly
Hi, Sankey. I enjoyed reading your delightful piece about human emotion. I agree with all that you say. It is good to love and to be loved in return. Parents and couples should always be kind and pleasant to each other.
Nicole
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Hi, Sankey. I enjoyed reading your delightful piece about human emotion. I agree with all that you say. It is good to love and to be loved in return. Parents and couples should always be kind and pleasant to each other.
Nicole
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Thanks Nicole. I should explain my wife is currently in Hospital and I guess you would not believe me if I tell you the thought of her parents visiting does not bring her joy. Particularly her Mother. We actually cut them back to 1 visit a week.
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Sankey, I understand. I never had a wonderful relationship with my parents either. They were divorced when I was 7 and were unkind to me. The person I loved best was my stepfather--he was so kind. Much kinder than my own parents who used me to get back at each other.
Nicole
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Curly Girly my dear old Mum was a hugger for sure. She stuck with me and my brother even when Dad deserted us when I was 8. They got back together much later when I was in my thirties but not much good then.
Comment from apky
You have a very valid point, Sankey.
I remember a friend's aunt who would not allow anyone to hug her (because it's against our church" as she explained. She belonged to some questionable Born Again church. I really felt sorry for both my friend and her aunt.
Talk about crying - I've never see my husband cry! I often marvel at this. But it must be something to do with his upbringing.
I remember recently when Louise's Niece(+ ,) about 10 years old at the time, tried to give her Grandmother a hug.
Great topic.
Apky
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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You have a very valid point, Sankey.
I remember a friend's aunt who would not allow anyone to hug her (because it's against our church" as she explained. She belonged to some questionable Born Again church. I really felt sorry for both my friend and her aunt.
Talk about crying - I've never see my husband cry! I often marvel at this. But it must be something to do with his upbringing.
I remember recently when Louise's Niece(+ ,) about 10 years old at the time, tried to give her Grandmother a hug.
Great topic.
Apky
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Thanks new friend was that last line an error I need to fix?
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Yes, Sankey, in the last sentence, you need to add a comma after "Niece".
Bless,
Apky
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Thanks will fix tomorrow, much appreciated.
Comment from Sandra du Plessis
A very well-written essay. We all need affection in one or other way from our loved ones. Unfortunately, there are people that prefer not to get too close for many reasons, but when you really listen to another, they will see that as affectionate for them.
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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A very well-written essay. We all need affection in one or other way from our loved ones. Unfortunately, there are people that prefer not to get too close for many reasons, but when you really listen to another, they will see that as affectionate for them.
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Thanks Sis glad you enjoyed this. Louise would like to be listened to more particularly from her Sister in law who is a retired School Teacher...always wanting to ask questions but never allowing Louise to answer them.
Comment from WalkerMan
Yes, you are absolutely right about hugs, and demonstrations of affection in general. It was long ago proven that children in orphanages who were never picked up and held tended to sicken and die. Human beings need physical contact with one another. There really is an energy exchange that occurs, to mutual benefit. That is why I have three separate posts here about the joys and importance of hugging. I was fortunate to have had affectionate parents; but I have seen more than enough others who did not have that benefit, and it certainly adversely affected them. Your wise post is important and contains useful advice. Superb.
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Yes, you are absolutely right about hugs, and demonstrations of affection in general. It was long ago proven that children in orphanages who were never picked up and held tended to sicken and die. Human beings need physical contact with one another. There really is an energy exchange that occurs, to mutual benefit. That is why I have three separate posts here about the joys and importance of hugging. I was fortunate to have had affectionate parents; but I have seen more than enough others who did not have that benefit, and it certainly adversely affected them. Your wise post is important and contains useful advice. Superb.
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Thanks, Walkerman for the great big heart felt, I believe BIG SIX! I promise I will look for your stories on Hugging. If you have not read any of my biography, I welcome your look so sorry there are no rewards on it now as I am nearing attempts at publishing. Look for "The Little Dog That Wouldn't Let Go"...subtitled "GOD NEVER LETS GO!" Thanks again. Meeting folks like you make me glad I stayed on FS as I very nearly pulled the plug not long ago.
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You are most welcome, my new friend. Hugging is a major topic with me. My primary post on the subject is my song, "Hug Them Now and Hug Them Often (posted in September last year), which is from my literary art book, 'Till Shadows Have Eaten the Moon: Songs of Life and Love' (Second Edition, 2017). The other two posts are much shorter variations on the same theme. I'll look for your post tomorrow, as it is after 3:00 AM here now. It sounds like something I'd enjoy reading. -- Mike
Comment from Charmisa Parker
Every beautiful and spreads a powerful message about affection. Apparently, we live in a world where such affection is seen as uncanny, which I believe is partly the reason why the world is the way it is.
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Every beautiful and spreads a powerful message about affection. Apparently, we live in a world where such affection is seen as uncanny, which I believe is partly the reason why the world is the way it is.
Comment Written 21-Jun-2017
reply by the author on 21-Jun-2017
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Thanks new friend. I don't believe we have met before. I believe in reciprocating and I will look for your stuff. Much appreciated.