Regrets
The Loss Of My Sons42 total reviews
Comment from Aiona
Such an interesting story. I'm sorry to hear of your sons' deaths. It's strange to hear that you wonder what it would be like to have grandchildren. My mother doesn't even care about hers. And her brother had a child out of wedlock, who has two kids now, and he refused to ever meet them -- his two grandchildren. Why is it that some people have grandchildren and are not happy about them, but you wonder what you are missing without grandchildren. What a strange world! It's good that your niece is there to help.
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Such an interesting story. I'm sorry to hear of your sons' deaths. It's strange to hear that you wonder what it would be like to have grandchildren. My mother doesn't even care about hers. And her brother had a child out of wedlock, who has two kids now, and he refused to ever meet them -- his two grandchildren. Why is it that some people have grandchildren and are not happy about them, but you wonder what you are missing without grandchildren. What a strange world! It's good that your niece is there to help.
Comment Written 15-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you, and thanks for the six stars. I can't honestly say how I would have related to grandchildren, and I will never find out now. I will always wonder how different things might have been, but I have accepted what is, as I can't change things anyway.
Comment from Spitfire
A well-done entry that starts and ends on a positive note. I have two grandchildren but have never written about them! And not too much about my own two children. I figure who cares??? I'm now a widow and to be honest, I love being alone and not having to answer to anyone. A good friend is all one really needs and I have that.
Hope you have happy holidays with your cats. I have one who is 18 years now and I will be writing about her soon. Smile.
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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A well-done entry that starts and ends on a positive note. I have two grandchildren but have never written about them! And not too much about my own two children. I figure who cares??? I'm now a widow and to be honest, I love being alone and not having to answer to anyone. A good friend is all one really needs and I have that.
Hope you have happy holidays with your cats. I have one who is 18 years now and I will be writing about her soon. Smile.
Comment Written 15-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you. It is always great to meet another cat person. You are honest about your preference to be alone. I enjoy my alone time, too, after the years on our dairy farm. I milked the cows, cooked for my husband and two hired men, kept the lawn and garden up, and managed to squeeze in reading time. It is nice not to be alone and not have to answer to anyone. I'm a widow, too.
Comment from davisr (Rhonda)
Your post was raw and honest, and in so, you showed sincerity of feelings. The longing for children is one of the strongest forces I've ever known. It drives us to take risks, and it breaks our hearts, but it's part of how we are put together.
I'm sorry that it happened, and I know you are past the need for sympathy, but my mother's heart reaches out to you. Just know that you touched their lives, even though their lives were short. Love is love and it never goes away. As far as grandchildren... I can answer for that. One of mine just got arrested and her toddler is with me. They aren't always roses and sunshine.
Love you,
Rhonda
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Your post was raw and honest, and in so, you showed sincerity of feelings. The longing for children is one of the strongest forces I've ever known. It drives us to take risks, and it breaks our hearts, but it's part of how we are put together.
I'm sorry that it happened, and I know you are past the need for sympathy, but my mother's heart reaches out to you. Just know that you touched their lives, even though their lives were short. Love is love and it never goes away. As far as grandchildren... I can answer for that. One of mine just got arrested and her toddler is with me. They aren't always roses and sunshine.
Love you,
Rhonda
Comment Written 15-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I never had time to get to know two of the boys, but Roy, the one who lived to be sixteen, was more like a best friend than my child. I wouldn't call him a momma's boy; we just loved doing things together. I can't honestly say how I would have related to grandchildren; now I will never know. At this point in my life, it has ceased to bother me. Of course, I regret the fact that they got cheated out of living their lives, but sometimes life is just not fair.
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You are so right! Life isn?t always fair.
Hugs,
Rhonda
Comment from Rosemary Everson1
I'm not saying, I'm sorry because I feel sympathy for you, but it would be difficult to lose children as you did. I like your story and I wish I had an excellent rating left but I don't. God bless you and yours this Christmas.
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I'm not saying, I'm sorry because I feel sympathy for you, but it would be difficult to lose children as you did. I like your story and I wish I had an excellent rating left but I don't. God bless you and yours this Christmas.
Comment Written 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I wish you a wonderful Christmas and a terrific New Year. It was difficult, but I have learned to live with it. It is all one can do because thinking about it won't change it anyway.
Comment from patcelaw
As I listen to your story, my heart aches for you that you were not able to have grandchildren one day. I am the mother of four children. I have seven grandchildren and nine great grandchildren so I know that it's hard for you. But I do know to that you will see your boys one day. If you know, the Lord Jesus, Jesus Christ is your savior, and they did as well. You will see them again in heaven. I wish for you the very best. May you have a blessed day and a merry Christmas. Pat
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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As I listen to your story, my heart aches for you that you were not able to have grandchildren one day. I am the mother of four children. I have seven grandchildren and nine great grandchildren so I know that it's hard for you. But I do know to that you will see your boys one day. If you know, the Lord Jesus, Jesus Christ is your savior, and they did as well. You will see them again in heaven. I wish for you the very best. May you have a blessed day and a merry Christmas. Pat
Comment Written 15-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you, and thanks for caring. I learned some releasing methods that helped tremendously. I still have the memories, of course, but they don't revive the deep pain and grief like they used to.
Comment from Sally Law
I understand loss more than most because of my own losses and gains in this world. Please accept my condolences, Pretty, in the loss of your sons, all three so precious to you. I had four sons and lost one in the second trimester when I fell on ice. I almost died from blood loss. We lost a granddaughter, Esther Grace, in birth trauma. We have three grandsons and one granddaughter now, and cherish them all. Since losing my eyesight, I realize that every day is as gift and life is so precious. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story.
Love and blessings,
Sally :))
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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I understand loss more than most because of my own losses and gains in this world. Please accept my condolences, Pretty, in the loss of your sons, all three so precious to you. I had four sons and lost one in the second trimester when I fell on ice. I almost died from blood loss. We lost a granddaughter, Esther Grace, in birth trauma. We have three grandsons and one granddaughter now, and cherish them all. Since losing my eyesight, I realize that every day is as gift and life is so precious. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story.
Love and blessings,
Sally :))
Comment Written 15-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you, and thanks for your kind and understanding words. I'm sure there are many who have suffered tragic losses and have learned to roll with the punches. All one can do is keep on keeping on.
Comment from Sanku
I am so touched by what I have read here. There is a lot of unfairness in the world ..If your sons had lived may be you would have had the pleasure of playing with grandkids..I salute you for being free of bitterness . ..
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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I am so touched by what I have read here. There is a lot of unfairness in the world ..If your sons had lived may be you would have had the pleasure of playing with grandkids..I salute you for being free of bitterness . ..
Comment Written 15-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you, and thanks for the six stars. I have learned not to dwell on what might have been and to continue down life's path as best I can. I could see no point in being bitter; all that would do was make me miserable. The hard work on our dairy farm helped, and I rescued countless cats, dogs, and horses, which gave me something to care for, something that needed me. I still care deeply for the plight of abused and abandoned animals and help when possible.
Comment from Carol Hillebrenner
This is a lovely story about your life. We are exactly the same age and we adopted three children and raised 4 great grandchildren. I still sometimes consider taking in some teenage foster kids. The probably won't happen because we have a thirty-year-old granddaughter and her nine-year-old living with us and our three-year-old great grandson is autistic, which means we spend time with him as he is very smart but doesn't speak.
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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This is a lovely story about your life. We are exactly the same age and we adopted three children and raised 4 great grandchildren. I still sometimes consider taking in some teenage foster kids. The probably won't happen because we have a thirty-year-old granddaughter and her nine-year-old living with us and our three-year-old great grandson is autistic, which means we spend time with him as he is very smart but doesn't speak.
Comment Written 14-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you, and thanks for sharing a piece of your life with me. I know I'm not the only person who has suffered deep personal tragedy in their lives. It sounds like you have a very love-filled live.
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
This is beautifully and flawlessly expressed and I was absorbed from the start! Your story isn't by any means a self-pitying one, just a factual account of events and a preference for how you would have liked things to work out. Although it would be no substitute, there are often events or occasions where you might be able to go along and interact with children. I always think it's so important that generations mix and share their experiences. You never know what satisfaction your could derive from this. Thanks for sharing. Debbie
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This is beautifully and flawlessly expressed and I was absorbed from the start! Your story isn't by any means a self-pitying one, just a factual account of events and a preference for how you would have liked things to work out. Although it would be no substitute, there are often events or occasions where you might be able to go along and interact with children. I always think it's so important that generations mix and share their experiences. You never know what satisfaction your could derive from this. Thanks for sharing. Debbie
Comment Written 14-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you. I have always loved animals, so I became deeply involved in rescuing cats, dogs, and horses. It gave me something to care for, something that needed me. It didn't replace my boys, but it did help.
Comment from Ginda Simpson
It could not have been easy to write about your losses, memories that must fill you with sadness still. Your words serve to remind us to be grateful for our blessings and sensitive to everyone's heartaches. God bless you.
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It could not have been easy to write about your losses, memories that must fill you with sadness still. Your words serve to remind us to be grateful for our blessings and sensitive to everyone's heartaches. God bless you.
Comment Written 14-Dec-2023
reply by the author on 15-Dec-2023
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Thank you. A few years ago, I learned a releasing method that has helped me tremendously in letting go of the pain of the memories. I'm comfortable with the life I'm living now.