Two ways to live
A choice between ...26 total reviews
Comment from w.j.debi
Thank you for your astute observations. I agree with you that we will be what we choose to become, and it will be exaggerated as we get older. I hope I can be like Barbara, looking on the bright side of things, someone that others are glad to be around and will miss once she is gone.
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you for your astute observations. I agree with you that we will be what we choose to become, and it will be exaggerated as we get older. I hope I can be like Barbara, looking on the bright side of things, someone that others are glad to be around and will miss once she is gone.
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you so very much Debi. I do appreciate your review. Me too. I want to be like Barbara, a joy to all she meets.
Wendy
Comment from Mary Vigasin
First, I do not see you becoming that "cranky old lady." This is an engaging and interesting story. Both ladies seem to have kept their younger personalities where one in spite of her health and tough life, was a bright light. The other lady no doubt spent much of her life complaining and making her life and the others around her difficult.
Well written and heartfelt story.
Best wishes,
Mary
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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First, I do not see you becoming that "cranky old lady." This is an engaging and interesting story. Both ladies seem to have kept their younger personalities where one in spite of her health and tough life, was a bright light. The other lady no doubt spent much of her life complaining and making her life and the others around her difficult.
Well written and heartfelt story.
Best wishes,
Mary
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Yes, you are right. I will ask all my FS friends to remind me of this if necessary! It IS a daily choice, and each day is one step towards a habit.Many thanks for a lovely review.
Wendy
Comment from damommy
It's so sad that some people become so unpleasant as they age. They can't be happy making other people miserable. I had a grandmother like that. Despite having lupus, congestive heart failure, spinal stenosis, and macular degeneration, I think everyone would say I'm pretty cheery. I laugh a lot. Years ago, someone asked me how I could be cheerful with lupus. It's a choice. I can either be grumpy and sick, or happy and sick. I choose the latter. It's so much more fun.
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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It's so sad that some people become so unpleasant as they age. They can't be happy making other people miserable. I had a grandmother like that. Despite having lupus, congestive heart failure, spinal stenosis, and macular degeneration, I think everyone would say I'm pretty cheery. I laugh a lot. Years ago, someone asked me how I could be cheerful with lupus. It's a choice. I can either be grumpy and sick, or happy and sick. I choose the latter. It's so much more fun.
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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I can see from your writings that you are happy cheerful person with a good sense of humour. And yes, it is a choice, a daily commitment regardlessof how we might be feeling. (Speaking to myself too, lol)
Thanks so much for your lovely review.
Wendy
Comment from jmdg1954
Wendy, your post is certainly welcomed as I see, written from the heart.
You've detailed who you want to be "when you grow up" (that's a haha) and I'm sure you will be that person.
It's in you now and will continue to be there.
If it's not, all your FanStory friends will remind you of this post.
Enjoy your day. Tomorrow you have the little ones.
Cheers,
John
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Wendy, your post is certainly welcomed as I see, written from the heart.
You've detailed who you want to be "when you grow up" (that's a haha) and I'm sure you will be that person.
It's in you now and will continue to be there.
If it's not, all your FanStory friends will remind you of this post.
Enjoy your day. Tomorrow you have the little ones.
Cheers,
John
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Oh I will be very happy for my FS friends to help me and support me. Older people often lose their social filter, and I am happy to feel old enough to be free to fulfil some of my aspirations, but I don't want to be free to be negative or hurtful.
Wendy
Comment from barbara.wilkey
Thank you for sharing these two women with us. I agree, growing old is difficult. It's my prayer that as I continue to age, that I will share unconditional love with other, that God will guide me. I enjoyed reading.
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you for sharing these two women with us. I agree, growing old is difficult. It's my prayer that as I continue to age, that I will share unconditional love with other, that God will guide me. I enjoyed reading.
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you very much Barbara. May God also help me, to reflect Him and His character always.
Wendy
Comment from karenina
After over thirty years working with the elderly, many of whom have some dementia--I have observed that many lose their "social filter."
Often family members are astounded that the sweet woman or man they once loved is now blatantly rude, or argumentative, bitter or angry.
You are correct! This does not have to be!
Being mindful NOW, and practicing kindness and thankfulness goes a long way...
The attrition of visitors to the ornery person is a self a fulfilling prophecy!
Very well written, Wendy!
Karenina
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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After over thirty years working with the elderly, many of whom have some dementia--I have observed that many lose their "social filter."
Often family members are astounded that the sweet woman or man they once loved is now blatantly rude, or argumentative, bitter or angry.
You are correct! This does not have to be!
Being mindful NOW, and practicing kindness and thankfulness goes a long way...
The attrition of visitors to the ornery person is a self a fulfilling prophecy!
Very well written, Wendy!
Karenina
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you Karenina for your insightful review. Yes, that's it exactly - no social filter, and they may not even realise how hurtful they are. I am going to make a conscious effort to guard against becoming negative and critical. Daily. Thanks again.
Wendy
Wendy
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Me too, Wendy. Me too!
Comment from Pantygynt
It is indeed a good thing we are not all the same since onset of characters relieves the problems of having to cope with the other lot. two interesting character sketches here and two very different characters,
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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It is indeed a good thing we are not all the same since onset of characters relieves the problems of having to cope with the other lot. two interesting character sketches here and two very different characters,
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you very much. Yes, very different. I appreciate your words.
Wendy
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
This is a very engaging and profound story about two women in old age and the choices or natural inclinations that govern their attitudes towards others at their advanced stages in life. You perfectly make the point, Wendy, that we are probably very much what we were in childhood but adulthood and learning (via faith or whatever means) should, ideally, help us to live peacefully and not inflict unnecessary pain on others. "Respect and tolerance" are paramount, especially when we rely on others or are in a caring and demanding role. Your prose, as ever, reads fluently and flawlessly) and is a moving and very readable account of your particular experience. Thanks for sharing. Debbie x
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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This is a very engaging and profound story about two women in old age and the choices or natural inclinations that govern their attitudes towards others at their advanced stages in life. You perfectly make the point, Wendy, that we are probably very much what we were in childhood but adulthood and learning (via faith or whatever means) should, ideally, help us to live peacefully and not inflict unnecessary pain on others. "Respect and tolerance" are paramount, especially when we rely on others or are in a caring and demanding role. Your prose, as ever, reads fluently and flawlessly) and is a moving and very readable account of your particular experience. Thanks for sharing. Debbie x
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you very much Debbie, your review is so positive and encouraging. I greatly value the six stars. An honour I always value.
Wendy
Comment from Dolly'sPoems
A very interesting story Wendy with some wise words within. Our attitude to life when we are young does not change much as we age, we retain our personality throughout life and if we are pessimistic, then we stay that way. Seeing the positives in life and realising how much we have to be grateful for is paramount to living a fulfilled life, a fine post, different and interesting and readable, much enjoyed, love Dolly x x x
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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A very interesting story Wendy with some wise words within. Our attitude to life when we are young does not change much as we age, we retain our personality throughout life and if we are pessimistic, then we stay that way. Seeing the positives in life and realising how much we have to be grateful for is paramount to living a fulfilled life, a fine post, different and interesting and readable, much enjoyed, love Dolly x x x
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you Dolly. I appreciate your wise words here, and the very positive review. We truly can't be happy if we are always critical and finding fault.
Wendy
Comment from John Ciarmello
What a beautiful piece, Wendy! I see the contrast between the two women and know which one of them I'd associate with.
The Proverbs and Psalms you reference here are words to live by and remember as we age.
This is written so beautifully. Best, JohnC
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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What a beautiful piece, Wendy! I see the contrast between the two women and know which one of them I'd associate with.
The Proverbs and Psalms you reference here are words to live by and remember as we age.
This is written so beautifully. Best, JohnC
Comment Written 11-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 11-Sep-2023
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Thank you so much John. I am glad you enjoyed it, and yes, the timeless words are very pertinent to our everyday lives.
Wendy