Gifts of Life and Love
Accepting 'the primal wound': my adoption story. (699 words)26 total reviews
Comment from robyn corum
LisaMay,
To me, adoption can be such a crazy game of roulette. Some kids end up sooooo much better off than would have been possible with their birth family - whether it be through finances, love, what have you.
Sometimes God really does know best. I am so glad your story ended up as a mostly positive one. It sounds like your parents were amazing! Thanks!
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LisaMay,
To me, adoption can be such a crazy game of roulette. Some kids end up sooooo much better off than would have been possible with their birth family - whether it be through finances, love, what have you.
Sometimes God really does know best. I am so glad your story ended up as a mostly positive one. It sounds like your parents were amazing! Thanks!
Comment Written 28-Mar-2022
Comment from Wendy G
Jenny, how very moving. In retrospect, what a blessing that you had Nola and Tom to be your real parents. This is what family is, or should be. They gave love, and received it in return. So much more important than being with those who do not care and resent you. It's very moving and very powerful writing. Best wishes for success in the contest.
Wendy
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Jenny, how very moving. In retrospect, what a blessing that you had Nola and Tom to be your real parents. This is what family is, or should be. They gave love, and received it in return. So much more important than being with those who do not care and resent you. It's very moving and very powerful writing. Best wishes for success in the contest.
Wendy
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
Comment from lyenochka
Even with your reduced word count, I think you wrote this beautifully. You contrasted what your life might have been like with your birth family but your birth mother abandoned all her daughters, so you really were so blessed to have been adopted by Nola and Tom! They are your REAL parents born from their hearts. Very moving! Best wishes in the contest!
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Even with your reduced word count, I think you wrote this beautifully. You contrasted what your life might have been like with your birth family but your birth mother abandoned all her daughters, so you really were so blessed to have been adopted by Nola and Tom! They are your REAL parents born from their hearts. Very moving! Best wishes in the contest!
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
Comment from LJbutterfly
I gasped when I read your birth mother failed at aborting, and told you about it. Of all the tragic stories I've ever heard relating to family, this is by far, the worse. The parts of your story you told, are written with heartfelt brevity. Even though you've had many tragic experiences, your writing style exudes strength and determination. I would have never guessed your history. You are blessed. Best wishes in the contest.
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I gasped when I read your birth mother failed at aborting, and told you about it. Of all the tragic stories I've ever heard relating to family, this is by far, the worse. The parts of your story you told, are written with heartfelt brevity. Even though you've had many tragic experiences, your writing style exudes strength and determination. I would have never guessed your history. You are blessed. Best wishes in the contest.
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
Comment from juliaSjames
I seem to recall your sharing samples of your life in other posts, poetry as well as prose, but this is the first time I'm reading your story in a comprehensive write. It's brave to share. I hadn't heard of the primal wound, but it makes sense. Reading between the lines is always fraught with danger. But I'm going to tell you what I think anyway. Honesty deserves an honest response.
I see you in this story as a displaced person, a refugee who found a wonderful loving home in another land; but whose roots continue to call to her. Roots that attract but repel. Now she prefers to be the sole member of her own tribe. Her story is a story of survival. It's a story that illuminates the resilience of the human spirit. In her tribe of one, she is chieftain, shaman, warrior, hunter, storyteller. I'm in awe of her.
So that's my take, right or wrong.
I hope you'll share more of your story as the spirit moves you, LisaMay.
Stay safe and blessed
Julia
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I seem to recall your sharing samples of your life in other posts, poetry as well as prose, but this is the first time I'm reading your story in a comprehensive write. It's brave to share. I hadn't heard of the primal wound, but it makes sense. Reading between the lines is always fraught with danger. But I'm going to tell you what I think anyway. Honesty deserves an honest response.
I see you in this story as a displaced person, a refugee who found a wonderful loving home in another land; but whose roots continue to call to her. Roots that attract but repel. Now she prefers to be the sole member of her own tribe. Her story is a story of survival. It's a story that illuminates the resilience of the human spirit. In her tribe of one, she is chieftain, shaman, warrior, hunter, storyteller. I'm in awe of her.
So that's my take, right or wrong.
I hope you'll share more of your story as the spirit moves you, LisaMay.
Stay safe and blessed
Julia
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
Comment from Cecilia R
Your story is very moving. Sometimes what looks like tragic circumstances is a blessing in disguise. You did a great job of telling your story and comparing it with what life might have been like had it taken different turn. Thanks for sharing it. Good luck on the contest.
Cecilia
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Your story is very moving. Sometimes what looks like tragic circumstances is a blessing in disguise. You did a great job of telling your story and comparing it with what life might have been like had it taken different turn. Thanks for sharing it. Good luck on the contest.
Cecilia
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
Comment from jessizero
This piece was captivating and touching, and sad in places. I am sorry for the losses of your family. Thank you for making the decision to share your story. Best wishes.
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This piece was captivating and touching, and sad in places. I am sorry for the losses of your family. Thank you for making the decision to share your story. Best wishes.
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
Comment from royowen
It's better to be raised by non biological parents who truly love and want you, than natural parents who don't. I've always adored my girls for the day they were born, and was truly thankful for them. It sounds like your adoptive parents could have been older, anybody can be a mother or father, but it takes a good parent to be mum or dad. Beautifully written Jenny, blessings Roy
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It's better to be raised by non biological parents who truly love and want you, than natural parents who don't. I've always adored my girls for the day they were born, and was truly thankful for them. It sounds like your adoptive parents could have been older, anybody can be a mother or father, but it takes a good parent to be mum or dad. Beautifully written Jenny, blessings Roy
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
Comment from Mary Vigasin
A truly moving and heartfelt story. I can see how difficult it was to write. Your comparison of your adoptive family and you birth family shows how caring and loving your adoptive (and real) family were. They nurtured and made you the caring, talented and adventurous person you are today.
I have known families like Marie's and I wish I could say they were givers rather than takers in society.
Best wishes and regards
Mary
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2022
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A truly moving and heartfelt story. I can see how difficult it was to write. Your comparison of your adoptive family and you birth family shows how caring and loving your adoptive (and real) family were. They nurtured and made you the caring, talented and adventurous person you are today.
I have known families like Marie's and I wish I could say they were givers rather than takers in society.
Best wishes and regards
Mary
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2022
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Thanks for this terrific review, Mary.
Life offers us sweet and sour... we have to pick out the best bits to enjoy... something you are adept at as well.
Comment from Ulla
Hi LisaMay, Yes, I see what you're saying and I totally understand everything you're revealing. I can also see that you had a lucky escape from growing up with your biological mother. Thank you so much for being open and for participating and I wish you the best of luck. Ulla,:)))
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2022
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Hi LisaMay, Yes, I see what you're saying and I totally understand everything you're revealing. I can also see that you had a lucky escape from growing up with your biological mother. Thank you so much for being open and for participating and I wish you the best of luck. Ulla,:)))
Comment Written 27-Mar-2022
reply by the author on 27-Mar-2022
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Thanks for setting up this prompt and giving us a voice. Do you see how the most recent contest prompt has BIOLOGICAL sister emphasized?!!!
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I did, yes. I may be paranoid, but she didn't include a brother, as she knows I have one !!
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Actually, I've just realised, this is a different contest than the one I thought of. And Adoption is again prohibited. I hope people will start to ignore her. Something is not right with her. I wonder what century she's born in??
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If I wrote about a half-sister in one of her silly restrictive contests she'd probably make a rule in her next one that sisters must be 100% bloodline. I see someone pleasantly asked if he could write about a cousin as he didn't have a brother, but he was denied most vehemently.
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No, you're not paranoid. I've seen her add rules to exclude others who have beaten her in previous contests. This new one where she has BIOLOGICAL sisters in capital letters looks like it is in response to your prompt about adoption. It certainly looks like she is compiling her rules so her own story has the maximum chance of winning. Going to voting booth with only 2 entries is ridiculous and shows just how excluding her contests are. Why is that a good thing, and how is that encouraging of writers on a writing site? - only in her favour.
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I hope they ignore her contests too, but she's made it so they only need 2 entries - maximum chance for her to win, with such restrictive rules aimed at her benefit.
