Emotional Trigger
A personal revelation47 total reviews
Comment from Cindy Decker 2
Jesse,
Your essay is beautifully written. Sometimes a story that seems simple can have such a complex meaning.
I lost my mom and dad a few years ago, and sometimes when I feel down I reach for the phone to call them and am said when I realize I can't.
Sometimes I can almost see them out of the corner of my eyes, somewhere near. Some people call that delusions, and that may be. But it's comforting nonetheless.
I hope you realize your dreams, Jesse.
I hope you stay in touch.
Cindy
reply by the author on 11-Nov-2023
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Jesse,
Your essay is beautifully written. Sometimes a story that seems simple can have such a complex meaning.
I lost my mom and dad a few years ago, and sometimes when I feel down I reach for the phone to call them and am said when I realize I can't.
Sometimes I can almost see them out of the corner of my eyes, somewhere near. Some people call that delusions, and that may be. But it's comforting nonetheless.
I hope you realize your dreams, Jesse.
I hope you stay in touch.
Cindy
Comment Written 10-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 11-Nov-2023
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Thanks, Cindy, for the six-star review.
I was surprised to see a review this morning after the post had already been posted. My condolences for your loss of both parents in a brief time. Thanks for your positive feedback.
I will stay in touch.
Jesse
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You?re welcome, Jesse.
Comment from Tom Horonzy
And you liked the result of this change of plans dealing with life a day at a time, rather than being a leaf detached from a tree by a breeze never knowing where it is going? I concur if indeed this is what occurred!
reply by the author on 07-Nov-2023
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And you liked the result of this change of plans dealing with life a day at a time, rather than being a leaf detached from a tree by a breeze never knowing where it is going? I concur if indeed this is what occurred!
Comment Written 07-Nov-2023
reply by the author on 07-Nov-2023
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Yes, I liked the result of the change of plans. Thanks for your positive feedback.
Have a great day.
Jesse
Comment from Brett Matthew West
Best thing to do is tell them to stop. You do not need to be subjected to their woes, especially when they are supposed to be helping you out, not dragging you further down.
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2023
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Best thing to do is tell them to stop. You do not need to be subjected to their woes, especially when they are supposed to be helping you out, not dragging you further down.
Comment Written 27-Oct-2023
reply by the author on 27-Oct-2023
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Agreed. Thanks for the good advice and the positive feedback. Since this happened, Grace and I solved our problem of not respecting boundaries between us.
Caregivers are hard to find, and Grace is a good one.
Have a great weekend.
Jesse
Comment from dragonpoet
Hi Jesse,
It is good to be compassionate and a good listener, but you can take it too far. It should be a reciprocal thing. It is good you figured out this trigger and let all caregivers know this so you can heal faster.
Keep writing and stay healthy.
Have a good day.
Joan
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2023
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Hi Jesse,
It is good to be compassionate and a good listener, but you can take it too far. It should be a reciprocal thing. It is good you figured out this trigger and let all caregivers know this so you can heal faster.
Keep writing and stay healthy.
Have a good day.
Joan
Comment Written 26-Oct-2023
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2023
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Thanks, Joan, for the sage advice.
I will definitely heal faster once my caregivers learn my boundaries.
I will do my best to stay healthy and I will always keep writing.
Enjoy the day.
Jesse
Comment from GWHARGIS
I used to be someone who wanted to right the wrongs or help others out. But all too often I saw people let me bail them out then they returned to the same bad habits. I became the emotional shoulder, the wallet, the cheerleader. None of that I wanted. So, I stopped. Just started nodding and turning the questions around on them. I'm out of money. What are you going to do about that? I drank too much. What do you plan to do about that? It shifts responsibility back on to them. This git me in the feels. I've been there. I felt your anxiety. Gretchen
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2023
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I used to be someone who wanted to right the wrongs or help others out. But all too often I saw people let me bail them out then they returned to the same bad habits. I became the emotional shoulder, the wallet, the cheerleader. None of that I wanted. So, I stopped. Just started nodding and turning the questions around on them. I'm out of money. What are you going to do about that? I drank too much. What do you plan to do about that? It shifts responsibility back on to them. This git me in the feels. I've been there. I felt your anxiety. Gretchen
Comment Written 25-Oct-2023
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2023
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Your story reminds me of an I Love Lucy episode where she joined a Salvation Army band that was the 'friends of the friendless.' Always championing other's causes gets us nowhere and fast.
I'm glad this resonates with you.
Enjoy the day.
Jesse
Comment from mermaids
As a nurse, I learned very early in my career, it is inappropriate to share personal information with patients. We all have bad and challenges but patients need to focus on improvement as you state. I like how you handled this situation and were able to learn from it and move forward.
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2023
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As a nurse, I learned very early in my career, it is inappropriate to share personal information with patients. We all have bad and challenges but patients need to focus on improvement as you state. I like how you handled this situation and were able to learn from it and move forward.
Comment Written 25-Oct-2023
reply by the author on 26-Oct-2023
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Thank you for your support and encouragement. Thanks for sharing your story that you are a nurse and already know better. Learning my emotional triggers helps me to move forward.
Have a beautiful day.
Jesse
Comment from Chuck Keller
Touching and poignant work.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Many experience these things but can't express them so personally.
Nice job.
Hope to read more after your work
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2023
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Touching and poignant work.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Many experience these things but can't express them so personally.
Nice job.
Hope to read more after your work
Comment Written 25-Oct-2023
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2023
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Thanks for your positive feedback.
I don't mind sharing personal information about myself. It is therapeutic for me.
Have a wonderful afternoon.
Jesse
Comment from Janis Miller
I have too experienced this was a very emotionally needy mother. I've had to step out of patients rooms before when some of them displayed the same behavior that especially would trigger me. We are only human and as children we shouldn't be caring for our parents emotions and yet often times parents expect children to have better emotional maturity than they do! It goes on until adult hood. I think many can empathize with this.
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2023
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I have too experienced this was a very emotionally needy mother. I've had to step out of patients rooms before when some of them displayed the same behavior that especially would trigger me. We are only human and as children we shouldn't be caring for our parents emotions and yet often times parents expect children to have better emotional maturity than they do! It goes on until adult hood. I think many can empathize with this.
Comment Written 25-Oct-2023
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2023
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I agree, Janis. Many people grew up in dysfunctional homes with parents who were needy emotionally.
Our parents expect us as children to listen to their problems and find solutions.
Thanks for your insights and positive feedback.
Enjoy the rest of the week.
Jesse
Comment from Teri7
Jesse, This is a very good personal revelation you have shared with us. We could all benefit from listening to your words. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope you are doing better each and every day! Blessings, Teri
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2023
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Jesse, This is a very good personal revelation you have shared with us. We could all benefit from listening to your words. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope you are doing better each and every day! Blessings, Teri
Comment Written 25-Oct-2023
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2023
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Thanks for your positive review, Teri.
If this is inspirational, then I have done my job. Thanks for your concern for my health. I appreciate your blessings.
Jesse
Comment from RPSaxena
Hello J.J.Doty,
It's a nice piece of Self Improvement Non-Fiction having lucid phraseology, smooth flow throughout from the beginning up to the end, and beautifully depicting its theme.
I like most the following lines:
There's always room and time for growth, and the time is now to achieve my highest potential.
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2023
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Hello J.J.Doty,
It's a nice piece of Self Improvement Non-Fiction having lucid phraseology, smooth flow throughout from the beginning up to the end, and beautifully depicting its theme.
I like most the following lines:
There's always room and time for growth, and the time is now to achieve my highest potential.
Comment Written 25-Oct-2023
reply by the author on 25-Oct-2023
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Thank you for your positive feedback. I am honored by your exceptional rating and review. I appreciate you choosing the line that you like the most. I honestly want to achieve my highest potential.
Thanks for your kind comments.
Enjoy the day.
Jesse
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Jesse, Most Welcome!
With best wishes,
RP