A Particular Friendship
Viewing comments for Chapter 2 "The Reveal"We meet Lizzy who has just come out of the convent
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Comment from LateBloomer
Hi Liz, my grammar school convent closed because there were too few nuns/sisters. Instead, about 5 of them lived in an apartment nearby. At this point in time, the grammar school had closed. I don't know whatever happened to those who were sent to apartment-style living. Did they stay, or eventually, leave the convent? I had seen my share of nuns leaving the convent while I was in school. That was around the 1970's. In my humble opinion, the life of a Sister was too hard, and they took the vow of poverty, while our priests did not--if my memory is correct. Growing up in the heart of NYC, our priests were given many perks, and for that, I am happy. I only wished that the nuns received a portion of those perks.
The joy of owning your first home is a joy of comfort and security.
Of note:
Early in the convent, during the first three years of strict training, I could only associate with those in my set, determined by the year they entered the Novitiate.
(Unreal. Like any of these women were a bad influence.)
Also:
I discovered after leaving, my other wonderful friends had children with many family obligations. They didn't have a lot of time to spend playing like I needed.
(Sadly, many women who do not marry find themselves in this
situation--lonely nights and not much friendship outside of the
workplace.)
And:
She was accepting of everyone. I'm glad I have adapted that way of being with others. It has stood by me my entire lifetime.
(Children learn what they see.)
A most interesting story and life. I realize that I'm reading this story in reverse. Well done. Margaret ~ LateBloomer
p.s. what part of the country did you reside?
reply by the author on 12-Jan-2024
Hi Liz, my grammar school convent closed because there were too few nuns/sisters. Instead, about 5 of them lived in an apartment nearby. At this point in time, the grammar school had closed. I don't know whatever happened to those who were sent to apartment-style living. Did they stay, or eventually, leave the convent? I had seen my share of nuns leaving the convent while I was in school. That was around the 1970's. In my humble opinion, the life of a Sister was too hard, and they took the vow of poverty, while our priests did not--if my memory is correct. Growing up in the heart of NYC, our priests were given many perks, and for that, I am happy. I only wished that the nuns received a portion of those perks.
The joy of owning your first home is a joy of comfort and security.
Of note:
Early in the convent, during the first three years of strict training, I could only associate with those in my set, determined by the year they entered the Novitiate.
(Unreal. Like any of these women were a bad influence.)
Also:
I discovered after leaving, my other wonderful friends had children with many family obligations. They didn't have a lot of time to spend playing like I needed.
(Sadly, many women who do not marry find themselves in this
situation--lonely nights and not much friendship outside of the
workplace.)
And:
She was accepting of everyone. I'm glad I have adapted that way of being with others. It has stood by me my entire lifetime.
(Children learn what they see.)
A most interesting story and life. I realize that I'm reading this story in reverse. Well done. Margaret ~ LateBloomer
p.s. what part of the country did you reside?
Comment Written 12-Jan-2024
reply by the author on 12-Jan-2024
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There is no sequence, it is written in theme which may go in sequential presentation. I lived in VT, half way down, around Killington.
Comment from Karen Cherry Threadgill
Well, it seems that your father did not help your mother overcome her feelings of being inadequate.
A good setup for the kid being part of a religious herd. My personality is such that I couldn't be told what to do by folks that I deem less than astute.
I worked in sales mostly or, for a business I ran. I have a hard time with orders. I can tell you are shocked! hahahaha Good writing. Karen
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2023
Well, it seems that your father did not help your mother overcome her feelings of being inadequate.
A good setup for the kid being part of a religious herd. My personality is such that I couldn't be told what to do by folks that I deem less than astute.
I worked in sales mostly or, for a business I ran. I have a hard time with orders. I can tell you are shocked! hahahaha Good writing. Karen
Comment Written 21-Sep-2023
reply by the author on 21-Sep-2023
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Thank you for your loyalty. I'd better get going on some more chapters of your. I actually think & have been told, I chose everything in this lifetime to have a reason for being rebellious as a result I following orders and doing what I was told in some past lives. Clearly not in this lifetime.
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Yes, I believe we come back and come back until we solve the problems put before us. Our innards, our souls survive every life cycle, and reappear as anew. Karen
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So true
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Boy except for the whole Catholic sister part we are twins. Karen
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Comment from davisr (Rhonda)
In this chapter, we get a closer look at Lizzy, through the eyes of her narrator, who is a bit like, I guess, her Muse. It's a fun style and allows a different look at her/you.
In it we see a loneliness growing that cannot be filled even though being around a lot of other people.
We see, also, a snippet of what it was like to be young Lizzy and how she felt as a child... how she felt as the child of affluency, yet with very little self-esteem.
Hugs,
Rhonda
reply by the author on 17-Aug-2023
In this chapter, we get a closer look at Lizzy, through the eyes of her narrator, who is a bit like, I guess, her Muse. It's a fun style and allows a different look at her/you.
In it we see a loneliness growing that cannot be filled even though being around a lot of other people.
We see, also, a snippet of what it was like to be young Lizzy and how she felt as a child... how she felt as the child of affluency, yet with very little self-esteem.
Hugs,
Rhonda
Comment Written 17-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 17-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your precious review I really appreciate it. The next chapter which was very painful to write is up next.
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I'll be watching for it. I'm a bit behind on things as I'm getting used to the pace of the classroom.
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Take your time
Comment from Debbie D'Arcy
This is a fine, well expressed story about Lizzy, her poignant background in which she lacked confidence and any real self-esteem before she entered the convent. Hardly ready or suitable to devote herself so exclusively to such a stringent lifestyle for over 20 years, the reader is inexorably drawn to her as she adapts to life outside.This was a very interesting and eye-opening account of her experiences. Thanks for sharing, Liz. Debbie
reply by the author on 17-Aug-2023
This is a fine, well expressed story about Lizzy, her poignant background in which she lacked confidence and any real self-esteem before she entered the convent. Hardly ready or suitable to devote herself so exclusively to such a stringent lifestyle for over 20 years, the reader is inexorably drawn to her as she adapts to life outside.This was a very interesting and eye-opening account of her experiences. Thanks for sharing, Liz. Debbie
Comment Written 17-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 17-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your involved, supportive review.
The next chapter is coming soon.
Comment from Iza Deleanu
Very beautiful chapter and and Lizzy is a pro. She managed to adjust briliantly tp her life ourside the covenant. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings.
reply by the author on 15-Aug-2023
Very beautiful chapter and and Lizzy is a pro. She managed to adjust briliantly tp her life ourside the covenant. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your writings.
Comment Written 15-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 15-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your supportive review. I appreciate it.
Comment from aryr
Ahhaaa, The Tor invaded my mind, this was great, Liz. There was a time that the adventures of Lizzy were justified. It was wonderful, that Lizzy was complete. Very well done and greatly enjoyed. Blessings n Hugs!!!
reply by the author on 15-Aug-2023
Ahhaaa, The Tor invaded my mind, this was great, Liz. There was a time that the adventures of Lizzy were justified. It was wonderful, that Lizzy was complete. Very well done and greatly enjoyed. Blessings n Hugs!!!
Comment Written 15-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 15-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your caring and supportive review. That's funny you say how the Tor connected with you too
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You are so welcome, Liz. Yes, The Tor came to mind.
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***Snicker***
Wait til you read the next chapter. You will question what century you're reading about.
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Wow! I can't wait for the next chapter!
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It was sad all over again. Because I began this 20+ years ago, I've reviewed this particular incident, so I've gotten angry and sad repeatedly. I am slowly healing.
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It takes time, Liz. Grief takes time. Today, yesterday takes time. Be patient.
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***Sigh***
Comment from BethShelby
This is an interesting way to write an autobiography. I think I would like to read along since I basically write about my own life, hoping it will help my children see me the way I see myself. I find autobiographies facinating.
Beth
reply by the author on 15-Aug-2023
This is an interesting way to write an autobiography. I think I would like to read along since I basically write about my own life, hoping it will help my children see me the way I see myself. I find autobiographies facinating.
Beth
Comment Written 15-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 15-Aug-2023
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Welcome. I'm glad to have your involved review.
Comment from patcelaw
I enjoyed listening to your story very much. I cannot imagine what it must've been like for you in the convent for you to have not good relationships with people who were there. I wish you the very best in all of your writing. May God bless you and keep you safe. Patricia.
reply by the author on 14-Aug-2023
I enjoyed listening to your story very much. I cannot imagine what it must've been like for you in the convent for you to have not good relationships with people who were there. I wish you the very best in all of your writing. May God bless you and keep you safe. Patricia.
Comment Written 14-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 14-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your compassionate review. I appreciate it.
Comment from eliz100
This is an excellent chapter. It answers many of the questions I had following the prologue. I believe the self-esteem of the mother is reflected in her children. In the second paragraph, "Apt living and managing money with (were) required then the next phrase feels cumbersome. Hae a blessed day.
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2023
This is an excellent chapter. It answers many of the questions I had following the prologue. I believe the self-esteem of the mother is reflected in her children. In the second paragraph, "Apt living and managing money with (were) required then the next phrase feels cumbersome. Hae a blessed day.
Comment Written 13-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your perceptive review. I will check out your observations.
Comment from lancellot
This is a good chapter. I would recommend condensing some of the lines and paragraphs if you can.
notes:
All who have known Lizzy before,
-All who knew Lizzy before,
Sisters lived together observing the same rules was going to [be] a radically new way of living.
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These courageous women were forming and redefining how community was lived (out).
-remove or change to outside.
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2023
This is a good chapter. I would recommend condensing some of the lines and paragraphs if you can.
notes:
All who have known Lizzy before,
-All who knew Lizzy before,
Sisters lived together observing the same rules was going to [be] a radically new way of living.
-add
These courageous women were forming and redefining how community was lived (out).
-remove or change to outside.
Comment Written 13-Aug-2023
reply by the author on 13-Aug-2023
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Thank you for your involved review.