Life In The Big Shitty
Viewing comments for Chapter 4 "Important Facts To Squeeze In."The first eighty years.
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Comment from GARY MACLEAN
I know you used this term in the last post I read but what does "split-tail" mean?
Rabies shots are treacherous. You have no shame for being afraid of rabies shots.
Para 4, 2nd sentence: Remove comma after (Some)
Para 5, 1st sentence: add comma after (a good one)
Para 5, 3rd sentence: (me) should be (be)
Para 6, 4th sentence: Remove one space before (She)
Para 6, 5th sentence: Remove one space between (she) and (distanced)
Para 7, 3rd sentence: (She) should be (she)
Many times if were told something over and over (you're stupid) we actually begin to believe it. Your writing disproves that analysis, Barb.
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2022
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I know you used this term in the last post I read but what does "split-tail" mean?
Rabies shots are treacherous. You have no shame for being afraid of rabies shots.
Para 4, 2nd sentence: Remove comma after (Some)
Para 5, 1st sentence: add comma after (a good one)
Para 5, 3rd sentence: (me) should be (be)
Para 6, 4th sentence: Remove one space before (She)
Para 6, 5th sentence: Remove one space between (she) and (distanced)
Para 7, 3rd sentence: (She) should be (she)
Many times if were told something over and over (you're stupid) we actually begin to believe it. Your writing disproves that analysis, Barb.
Comment Written 10-Sep-2022
reply by the author on 10-Sep-2022
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Thank you, Gary. Ditto the editing. TY for the compliment. Split tail, well, it is because we have a split down the middle of our genitals. Blessings, ;) Barbara. Xo
Comment from lyenochka
It's good you realize that you tried to win your mother's approval to explain all that you did for her. Now that you have grown up, you know you don't need it. You are approved by God through Christ and you are beautiful!
given Rabi shots (rabies)
When I was about to me married (be married)
She always blue it. (blew)
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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It's good you realize that you tried to win your mother's approval to explain all that you did for her. Now that you have grown up, you know you don't need it. You are approved by God through Christ and you are beautiful!
given Rabi shots (rabies)
When I was about to me married (be married)
She always blue it. (blew)
Comment Written 09-Sep-2022
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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Thank you, Helen. It took me a lifetime to learn it. I am very stubborn I guess and have boundless tenacity. LOL Blessings, Barbara. Xo
Comment from LateBloomer
Oh, my dear Barbara, no one should have the childhood that you had. Every child should feel loved and wanted by their own mother. Obviously, your mother had mental/emotional issues of her own which may have come from her own mother and father. Also, alcohol seems to be a common demon throughout this story. When you returned from the orphanage, you became the responsible parent, and your mother continued to act like an out-of-control teenager. My heart breaks for you. I know that you don't want sympathy, but know that people will feel empathy when they read this story. You just call it like it is.
BTW, you are pretty. I can see that from your photo. You are both beautiful inside and out.
Of note:
I was her emotional sound bag. She would come home drunk, crying and tell me how much she loved me, liar. I think it enraged her so much when I married because I had always promised to take care of her.
(The child should not have to take care of the parent. It is for the parent to take care of the child. Barbara, I think that you now know that and knew that when you had your own children.)
Also:
"If she had seen my father's family, she would never have had children. "
(What an awful, terrible thing to say. It's amazing that you still spoke to her after that comment, but then, maybe you didn't?)
Barbara, below are some suggested corrections:
Para 2, second line from bottom:
given Rabi shots which caused a live time fear of needles
(live time, should be lifetime)
Para 3, second line from bottom:
"We certainly to have known them."
(B, this should be worded more clearly.
I'm not sure the exact message you wanted to portray, perhaps ...
"We certainly knew that" ... if that was what you wanted to say.)
Para 4, first two lines
A psychologist-a good-one once told me (that) someone (must have) told me (that) I should never (have) been born.
Barbara, your story is filled with emotional pain and abuse. You were victimized, and your mother was a bully whether she knew it or not. Soulful ~ Poignant. Keep the blue waters of truth flowing. Xo.
Margaret ~ LateBloomer
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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Oh, my dear Barbara, no one should have the childhood that you had. Every child should feel loved and wanted by their own mother. Obviously, your mother had mental/emotional issues of her own which may have come from her own mother and father. Also, alcohol seems to be a common demon throughout this story. When you returned from the orphanage, you became the responsible parent, and your mother continued to act like an out-of-control teenager. My heart breaks for you. I know that you don't want sympathy, but know that people will feel empathy when they read this story. You just call it like it is.
BTW, you are pretty. I can see that from your photo. You are both beautiful inside and out.
Of note:
I was her emotional sound bag. She would come home drunk, crying and tell me how much she loved me, liar. I think it enraged her so much when I married because I had always promised to take care of her.
(The child should not have to take care of the parent. It is for the parent to take care of the child. Barbara, I think that you now know that and knew that when you had your own children.)
Also:
"If she had seen my father's family, she would never have had children. "
(What an awful, terrible thing to say. It's amazing that you still spoke to her after that comment, but then, maybe you didn't?)
Barbara, below are some suggested corrections:
Para 2, second line from bottom:
given Rabi shots which caused a live time fear of needles
(live time, should be lifetime)
Para 3, second line from bottom:
"We certainly to have known them."
(B, this should be worded more clearly.
I'm not sure the exact message you wanted to portray, perhaps ...
"We certainly knew that" ... if that was what you wanted to say.)
Para 4, first two lines
A psychologist-a good-one once told me (that) someone (must have) told me (that) I should never (have) been born.
Barbara, your story is filled with emotional pain and abuse. You were victimized, and your mother was a bully whether she knew it or not. Soulful ~ Poignant. Keep the blue waters of truth flowing. Xo.
Margaret ~ LateBloomer
Comment Written 09-Sep-2022
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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Thank you dear friend. I will go through it again.I commit sind with my children that though forgiven lay heavly on my soul. Not to the degree of this. Nothing justifies hurting your children. My mother never thought she did anything wrong. Blessings. Barbara. Xo
Comment from Teri7
This is another great chapter you have penned my friend. I had low self-esteem as a child and still do at times being a lot grown up. The only thing that has helped me in my life was when Jesus came into my life and rescued me from all my dark past. You will be in my prayers! I love you dear friend! Teri
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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This is another great chapter you have penned my friend. I had low self-esteem as a child and still do at times being a lot grown up. The only thing that has helped me in my life was when Jesus came into my life and rescued me from all my dark past. You will be in my prayers! I love you dear friend! Teri
Comment Written 09-Sep-2022
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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Thank you, dear Teri. I know He had my back. Blessings, Barbara. Xo
Comment from Douglas Goff
Thanks for sharing. I think it is healing to let people know the things that hurt, shape, grow us. I had similar issues, only with my father. Ahhhh good times. Stay strong. Keep writing!
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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Thanks for sharing. I think it is healing to let people know the things that hurt, shape, grow us. I had similar issues, only with my father. Ahhhh good times. Stay strong. Keep writing!
Comment Written 09-Sep-2022
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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Thank you, Douglas. Amen. Blessings, Barbara. Xo
Comment from joann r romei
This was an emotion piece to read as I'm certain it was for you to write, it always bothers me how good healthy children let selfish parents ruin their emotional health. I want to hear more of this. There is one error, hoe should be how. Good luck.
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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This was an emotion piece to read as I'm certain it was for you to write, it always bothers me how good healthy children let selfish parents ruin their emotional health. I want to hear more of this. There is one error, hoe should be how. Good luck.
Comment Written 09-Sep-2022
reply by the author on 09-Sep-2022
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Thank you, so much joann. And TY for the beautiful special star. Error corrected. Blessings, Barbara. Xo